doing whats right vs doing whats best

[Sparklepony]

Need a bit of a wobbly moan please.

I gave away for a small sum my expensive comp horse, I competed him a few times but he scared the ***** out of me in every ridden way, not on the ground but he scared me when I was riding him, I got help with him and the girl got on fab with him, I was a little jealous but happy to see him thriving!
I got offered 5k for him but turned it down for the girls offer (under 1k) as I felt she got on so well and he was a quirky git, she plans to bring him on over 6-12 months and then sell him for lots of money, I was fine with it, through all the heartbreak I just wanted him off the yard as it broke my heart I couldn't keep him.

Anyway the deal is done now but I can't hel thinking I've made a mistake and should of perservered with him, I miss him, but I don't? I'm so confused, someone give me a slap!

 

[Costypop]

What a horrid situation to be in. But if its not fun then there is no point in keeping him, after all we spend so much money on our horses. Maybe having lessons or sending him to schooled would of helped or on the other hand it may not and could of put you off riding for a long time (had a similar thing with my last horse) now I've a great youngster who is hard work but I do feel safe on him, and now we are finally getting on with the riding side, I don't think I would want my old horse back, like yours he was great on ground but scared the c*** out of me in the saddle

 

[Sussexbythesea]

I've sold on a horse that I didn't get on with and it's natural to think this but you will get over it and hopefully when you find the right horse you will know for certain that you did the right thing. Don't look back look forward

 

[ribbons]

You did exactly the right thing for the horse and exactly the best thing for yourself.
It takes a lot of courage to admit. A horse has more talent than you do, so a huge dose of respect from me.
I wish more owners were as honest.
Good luck with finding your replacement, persevere with gaining experience and confidence and with your attitude, it won't be long before you can once again own a more talented horse and compete with confidence and a talent to match your mount.

Well done.

 

[MerrySherryRider]

You did what was right and best. Perhaps you lost £4K but how much would keeping him and having lessons have cost for a year ?
Struggling, losing your confidence and hindering the horse's education, (I don't mean that in a horrible way) would have been the real cost.

You've been wise and responsible. Don't feel bad, every yard has an assortment of lovely horses that never leave the field because horse and rider are mismatched. Even the pro's don't click with every horse. Finding the right person for your horse is giving him the best chance.
There are many horses out there that would bring the fun back into riding for you, its a costly and time consuming hobby, so it really should be something that you love doing.