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Just been told the horse i looked after and loved like my own for 8 years died last night.

Not seen him in a while because fell out with YO but i have missed him every day. I thought i would have more warning and get to go and see him if he was ever ill or anything...

Apparently he just 'fell asleep and died' Shoddy place if i ever find out they weren't looking after him as well as they should they will be sorry.

I'm in a bit of a state. would have been my brothers 20th birthday on sunday, i'm still a mess from that after he died of leukemia 2 years ago. Got exams in 5 days...

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Sending this just for you

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Sending hugs for you. I remember ringing my old YO and asking how my old loan horse was, only to be told she had been pts. Apparently she collapsed one day and couldn't get back up (bearing in mind she was approx 36). I hadn't seen her in a while due to falling out with my YO too.

I can understand what you're going through in relation to your horse, but I hope you're doing ok in relation to everything else too. It always all hits at once. Keep your chin up, you'll get through it and it'll get easier, slowly but surely.
 
Apparently a couple of the other horses that live out and never get their feet checked or brought in for a check etc have died in the field too. I always say if a horse dies naturally it has probably been left too long. Reckon it's worth ringing WHW or something? Or is it just the emotion?

This guy nearly died once before when they left him in a field and didn't check on him despite knowing he had mud fever and got it really bad. They never checked his legs or put anything on them and in the end when i wasn't there they had the break the fence down and practically carry him in. I tried my best but i wasn't driving and my brother was ill for 2 years and so i could only get there a couple of times a week, he wasn't mine. It's stuff like that we fell out over... I always said i would report them but i wanted to still be able to see my boy. They somehow pass riding school council inspections, enough warning to patch stuff up before inspector... Don't know if they check field horses...
 
If it's something you feel strongly about, and you don't want other horses to be of the same fate, I think it's a wise move. If they are checked on and all is well, then at least you will get peace of mind about the horse you dearly cared for xx
 
Oh I'm sorry, it's very tough to hear it like that. I remember finding out at school that the beautiful wee little skewbald that I had learnt to ride on when I was 8 and adored was dead via the sister of the woman who ran the riding school I went to. I asked her if she knew how he was doing and she said oh he's dead, probably in a tin of dog meat now. People eh?!

You did your best for that chap for 8 years, he was lucky to know you and have you looking after him. Sorry the news that he's gone has come at such a tough time for you at the moment.
 
Oh somethingorother I'm so, so sorry. The only time I've /ever/ cried at work (before this last month splitting up with OH and sister banning me from seeing her baby...) was when I heard the 11(ish) yr old I used to ride had been PTS. Was so shocked.

The only thing I can think of to make it any better is to make something good come out of it. I started a regular tranfer (since increased with pay rises) to WHW (then ILPH) in memory of the horse. Last month I took on two dwarf hamsters from someone terminally ill 'in memory' of the relationship with the OH. If you're a student a practical donation might be better than money. Perhaps you could find an RDA place or rescue centre that needs some help over xmas and donate a day of your time in honour of the horse? It sounds kind of silly but making something positive happen in the world can make you feel better and is a nice way of remembering.

Chin up girl!
 
Sorry but youv'e got to let your angry go. He's gone to a better place, perhaps he's next to your brother sending down healing vibes for you, youve had a rotten couple of years.
 
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