Don't know if I can do it! Selling dilemma

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Bernster

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I realise this may seem a little odd, but I'm hoping some of you might 'get' how I'm feeling! I'm wavering about selling. Can't quite bring myself to make the decision.

I don't really want to loan as that has downsides for me put no real upside. I know I'd lose control if I sell but he'd be going to my sharer and she has said I would get first refusal if she ever sold.

I have another who needs my time and attention. We've got some treatment coming up which means I could use the money and don't have the brainspace right now to be responsible for 2.

Tbh, they are better suited in terms of what I want to do and what he's best suited to, and she adores him. I think it will be a forever home and he'd stay on the yard.

He's on short term loan to her (so I could see how they get on - brilliantly). I don't think it's fair to keep her hanging on - I've been thinking about this for a year.

Pointless post, sorry, but was just about to text her, then I chickened out! On the plus side, I'm about to eat M&S choc rolls, so not all bad :)
 
I know exactly how your feeling. I tortured myself for months over which one to keep (as I don't have time or money for 2) I put my boy up for sale, the moment someone wanted to view him I went into melt down mode phoned her back and said sorry I just can't do it.

I'm not much help :p
 
We agonised for months when penny needed a quieter life as a hack, but once we found gareth a younger Polocrosse horse, and a old school friend of mine begged me to sell her penny, we relented, she is only 20 miles away, living life of Riley in the country with lots of grass, and a cob for a mate. She just has quiet hacks few times a week.

You could get it in writing that should horse be up for sale again you have first refusal, and horse is staying on your yard... And you could offer to look after for hols ect.
 
This is your old horse, not your new one? I feel for you, other than my first pony which I didn't have control over (in an ownership sense) and a horse which tried to kill me and several others, I have never sold any. I would find it really really hard. For me they become part of my family. But on the flip side as you say this isn't fair for your loaner. I think you need to go with your gut feel on this one. If she adores him and you think it's a forever home, that's all you can do. There are no guarantees that you would be able to keep him in the future any more than guarantees that she can if that makes sense. In some senses it might even make it harder that he's on the same yard as you will see him but have no control over him. Sorry that's all a bit of a ramble and I'm not sure it helps at all, but I get your dilemma. xx
 
I have been in this position. A friend had been loaning my homebred coloured & they developed such a relationship that I eventually made the decision to sell her to her. I was a bit tearful the night I sold her but am perfectly happy now as she was never the right horse for me and with my friend she is happy going eventing etc
 
I can sympathise. I've sold plenty over the years and still hate it.

Try to block out how you feel about it, and just look at it purely in terms of how the horse will benefit.
 
I've had to sell on several horses and ponies when they no longer have a job to do with us. A 13hh pony is no use to a daughter who is 5'8' nor indeed is a horse that will happily go round a BE100 course but won't go any further to someone who wants to go further than that. This is why horses come on to the market at all ages, they are, for whatever reason not what is needed. I understand that this very practical approach won't sit easily with everyone but if you have two horses and can only really manage one, than one has to go. i personally believe that you give any horse or pony the best chance in life by ensuring that it has good manners, is good in traffic and is schooled so that at the very least it is a comfortable and pleasing ride. This is what you should be able to expect from any horse or pony and will ensure it should always have a good home. Find the best home that you can and then accept that you have done your best for the horse. Having taken on horses in their early teens because of their experience, i know they are less concerned about previous owners than we would like to believe and settle very quickly.
 
Ahh what nice thoughts from everyone. Thank you. Just back from night out and doing a late night check. Some heartening comments. I kind of know what the right answer is, I'm just very slow to accept it! And who am I to think I'm the only one who can care and look after him when really he was getting fat and bored with me.

@ nic - yes, it's my old boy.

knew this day would come and am pleased that there is a lovely new owner waiting and desperate to have him.
 
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