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Hi all, just thought I would share with you my saddness at not being able to ride anymore and also the sale of one of my horses that I bred. I had my 4th hip and pelvis rebuild in December and it's not good so have had to give up riding which is tearing me apart, the horse that I still have with me I have had to put into full livery as can't look afterhim as I used to but I have been lucky in getting a 15 year old girl to share she absolutely loves him and he her which is good but it doesn't help my morale unfortunately. I went and watched him in show at the weekend and I love to see him enjoying himself but feel sad that it isn't me riding him at the same time. I hope you can understand how I am feeling dont mean to be miserable but can't help it. It's hard as nobody in my family are horsey so they dont really understand they just think it's a good thing that I have "come to my sences". Sorry all
 
Could you take up driving or sidesaddle or in-hand showing? A different sort of saddle?
Best of luck for the future, you can make something from this even if it is helping others to enjoy their horses.
 
I really feel for you. At least you have been able to keep one horse and hopefully it will become easier for you to watch him compete without feeling you are missing out. It must be hard when your family don't understand how you are feeling, but I am sure there are loads of people on here who will totally understand what you are going through.
 
Hello

Sorry about your problem - at the start of this year I was stuck down with chronic arthritis and was told I may never ride again - slowly and surely I am back in the saddle but in the mean time I did other things (im only 23)

Carridge driving
Borrowed an RDA basket saddle for my pony. (now this looks daft but so what? If you want to ride ....)
Rode side saddle
Rode western

So its not the be all and end all and dont be sad - at least you have been lucky enough to own a horse.

Never say never! :-)
 
It may not be the same but have you considered the possibility of contacting your local RDA group. I am a volutnteer with the RDA and we have helped many people in your situation. For example they may be able to help/make suggestions on other forms of equine activities such as driving but also if you do dicide you'd like to get back in the saddle they would be able to help you with the help of a physio with the best ways to mount and dismount and ride so as to help your condition rather than make it worse.

Hope this is some help.
 
Sorry to hear about your problem, my reaction was the same as many of the others - would you be well enough to drive?
 
That's terrible news, but please don't get too disheartened. Maybe a new door will open to you. All those suggestions people have made, or maybe breeding a small, quiet breed, (getting useful sounding rider to help with producing/showing), even learn to be a dressage/show/jump judge?
It's difficult for non-horse people to understand how deep under your skin the whole horse world gets, you can't just shrug it off and carry one. Good luck!
 
Thats awful, I also want to suggest contact the RDA as they may be able to suggest something you have not thought of in terms of equipment to help you ride or something. I can only imagine how awful you must feel
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Cassandra
 
how mobile are you? i would look at other things you can do that are horse related,i know riding is a big part of it but i was unable to ride for a couple of years due to undiagnosed joint problems but had my daughters tiny pony to groom and play with,otherwise horse courses, judging,rda, you probably have loads of skills and experience and knowledge as well as your love of horses that you can still use .good luck, i think you have to allow yourself to grieve for what youve lost but then try and move on to the next phase of your life
 
Sorry to hear about all this.

I broke my back 18 mths ago in a riding fall, and although I am now fine and I do ride at home I have lost my confidence WRT shows and hacking. My friend has been riding my horse in DR this yr. I do find it quite difficult in a way to see someone else taking the ride. However it is great for my horse, she is a fantastic rider, I do all the grooming/management of my horse and I feel a big part of it all. I hope that I will take the ride on when I feel more confident.

I would suggest firstly researching on the internet, through doctors, physios etc anything that you can do to help your body - be that physio, exercise, diet, supplements, whatever. Be as investigative as you can. You are not going to get a cure but you may find that small things make a difference.

WRT your horse be as open minded as you can about possibilities. You may have to start small, perhaps spending time with him whilst grooming. Then perhaps lunge work, long reining out in hand, groundwork techniques, polework. Maybe some of these things will be too much for you right now but the point is to consider all possibilities. Start small, set yourself little goals and you may well start to feel more positive. You have been through a heck of a lot so if you can cope with all that surgery you should not give up now.
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Hello,

I am sorry to hear of your problems and understand your despair at the thought of being unable to ride again. My Mother gave up 30 years ago after a hip op and regrets it very much.

I had an interesting conversation with a Breeder the other day, I am passionately interested in paso finos, haven't managed to acquire one yet, but I will! Anyway, apparently they are THE breed to have if you have had hip surgery etc as they give an incredibly smooth ride and are relatively small, top height averages about 14.2h.

At first I wasn't going to post this as I didn't know if there were pasos in the UK, but I found the link below and thought that if nothing else it might make interesting reading.

I wish you luck with your recovery and very much hope that you will be able to continue being with horses.

Regards, Abbi



www.paso-finos.co.uk

Rancho Pavo Real
 
So sorry to hear that.

Hopefully some of the ideas people have had will make you feel enthusiastic. Personally, I have always wanted to try driving, so that would be my first suggestion. Horses are so rewarding, I'm sure that you'll find some reason to stay around them
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Isabelle
 
Awww I am sorry to read this.

It must be ever so tough to accept this. I can not imagine how you feel.

Hopefully time will be a help and you will busy yourself with other ways and not miss the riding side of horses so much anymore.
 
Thanks so much to all of you for your thoughtfulness and help, I WILL carry on with horses even if I can't ride as it is in the blood and what's life without them anyway? Thanks again Take care all
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