Eurgh! Pestering Parent?

Really feel for you, hope mother will get the message. I agreed to let a young girl part share my ploddy cob, mother told me what a good rider she was. In fact, when I saw her ride she could barely do rising trot. I let it go for the months trial we had agreed then tactfully told mum I didnt think it was working out, mum went off in a strop shouting well he's a real dobbin anyway. Just as well he was as child would not have managed anything with more spirit!
 
I've had it a couple of times when people know you from other areas of your life. Find out you have a horse & it starts with 'my daughter loves horses / riding'. I never bite so then they start trying to invite themselves along. That gets instant no (polietly) from me, & they get grumpy. Cant understand why you don't want to spend time / money having horse for their little darling to ruin (of course they're always a really good rider) for free so they don't have to pay the local riding school for an hours lesson a week.
 
I've had the mental parent too!

Back in the 90's we lived in Suffolk and we had a horse and two ponies. One of my sons' friends' mum asked if her children could come and see the ponies one day after school.

All the kids had a great time, playing in the field, jumping off the muck heap (a particular favourite game of my sons!), and having a little sit and plod up the track on the ponies.

The request to come and see the ponies started to get rather frequent, two or three times a week, and my sons were starting to get upset as these children were telling everyone at school that they had bought my sons ponies and they were now theirs, but they let my sons see them when they wanted!

I spoke to the mum and said it wasn't convenient to go up straight from school so often. She said it was ok, she would take her kids up by herself. We had words :D I thought it was over and done until someone told me they had seen her car at our privately rented yard a couple of times the following week. Always when my sons were at football practice or some other after school club, so she knew the likelihood of us being there was minimal.

I was livid! Instead of confronting her again I decided that my old boy, who was a nasty beggar and 16.3 could graze down the grass on the track to the stables. There was no other way in but up the track without crossing a field full full of cattle and the woman and her kids were petrified of my lad :D :D :D

She wasn't a happy bunny and accused me at school of ruining her childrens lives, of child cruelty (hers, not mine), and of stealing her horses :o

Luckily her husband was posted back to the USA a few weeks later (USAF) and we were rid of her, and I never invited anyone to come and see the ponies after that.

There really are some strange people about!
 
I've had my field for 3 years now and have had sheep, lambs, goats, ducks, chickens running all over it - no problems

I got a pony a month ago and another a week ago and have had kids hanging over the gate since then

Think they have an inbuilt sensor for ponies

I've put up a bit of string across the gate with a couple of electric fence warning signs on :)
 
Terrible behaviour by the mum - what kind of example is she setting to her daughter??

I also think you should report it to the police, there's absolutely no need for her to be sending such vile messages to you when she's never even met you! Keep a close eye on your pony, and move him if you can, even if it's only temporarily until the dust has settled on this.

I hope you manage to enjoy the rest of your holiday anyway :D
 
Good grief !these people beggar belief!!
Just can't get my head round how these people think!!
Luckily I appear to be a grouchy old c** so folk tend to leave me in peace !!
 
Woke up to a few nasty texts this morning too saying if I don't hand over my pony she will "chop him alive".
Police have been notified and have given me a crime number and I have to report to a Police station as soon as possible when I return from Wales to provide evidence.

I have also learnt on Facebook that she is known locally and turns up on yards demanding ponies, starting off friendly and turns nasty when rejected. She has been known to the police before.

Pony will also be moved with my Gelding onto another yard for the time being.
 
I would just like to add this woman has completely ruined my holiday. I am worried sick now as these texts are threatening me and my pony.

YO has said she will keep an eye out and 2 of the dogs out 24/7 until I'm back and able to move him.
 
Florrie said:
Woke up to a few nasty texts this morning too saying if I don't hand over my pony she will "chop him alive".
Police have been notified and have given me a crime number and I have to report to a Police station as soon as possible when I return from Wales to provide evidence.

I have also learnt on Facebook that she is known locally and turns up on yards demanding ponies, starting off friendly and turns nasty when rejected. She has been known to the police before.

Pony will also be moved with my Gelding onto another yard for the time being.
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That is such a vile thing to say :eek: some people are beyond belief!!
How long til you will be back? I hope your friend didn't tell her how long you will be away for, in case she comes back before you!
 
You poor thing :( what a horrendous thing to happen to you. I'm not surprised its ruined your holiday. Do you have a friend or someone who could get him moved today for you?

I just do not understand people like her :(
 
Unfortunately not Grumpymoo. If I knew anyone I would ring them up as soon as possible. He also gets stressed easily when moved so I would like to be there to settle him.
 
At least it's not too long until you are home :) Fingers crossed its an empty threat and you won't hear anymore.

Good luck with the move and let us know how you get on
 
She sounds like Verucca Salt from Roald Dahl's Chocolate Factory.

Don't care how, I want it NOW!!!

I am sorry to say that I thought the thread would end with some horrible threats from her for the safety of your lad. It's absolutely awful and I really feel for you. I'd probably end up sleeping in the stable for worry (but please don't do this, I'm very silly and have to be supervised because I have silly ideas).

I'd imagine that this woman has some severe mental health problems. She's lucky in a way that she's threatening horses; if she'd made that threat about a person, I daresay some agency or other would have to do something about it. To my mind, she should be sectioned. I pity her child.
 
Well luckily then it isn't long til you get back and can get him moved. I wouldn't have thought she would do anything further than just sending messages tbh. You say she is known to others in your area - do you know anyone else she targetted specifically? If so do you know if she sent the same kind of threats to them, and were they followed through? Really is shocking though what some people can be like :mad:
 
Vile, vile woman. She needs a serious lesson to be taught.

Im sorry to hear about your holiday being ruined, its certainly the last thing you need. Your meant to be able to relax on holiday, not be worried sick.

Have you got any family members that can go and check on him a few times before you get back? Or a genuine friend (unlike the other tool who started all this by handing out your number without asking you first - idiot!) Just for peace of mind for yourself too, knowing he has eyes and ears on him until your return?
 
She has been known in the area to loan horses and sell them if not suitable for her child. If the pony is suitable she will beat it senseless and she has been banned from various yards and shows. A girl a few yards down told me over Facebook she put her sound, bombproof pony out on loan to them and now the pony is headshy, kicks, bites and is difficult to ride and has been forced into retirement.

I haven't told my mum yet as she is very ill and anymore stress would upset her and make her worse.

I don't have a horsey family and they don't know where the yard is :(
YO is always out and about and she promised to keep a close eye on him as she lives on site.
 
I'd be asking the police to have a word with Social Services too as she obviously isn't fit to be a parent.

OP can I ask where in the NW you are - you mentioned the Moss which suggests you may be somewhere near me. PM if you prefer. There seem to be a high proportion of these nut jobs in the NW (inbreeding maybe???? ) We had one on our farm bringing a lovely but severely lame horse for her teenage kids to ride. Vet said it had serious pelvis problems and should never ever be ridden as it could collapse at any moment but that didn't stop her sticking the kids on it. She claimed to have kept arabs in the past, but didn't seem to have a clue how to put a bridle on. She blatently robbed any unlocked tackrooms of anything edible then finally (hooray) left and went to another nearby yard where she told everyone there that we all beat and abused our horses. The vast majority were elderly and retired and never ridden so how she worked that one out is anyones guess. I heard that within 2 weeks she had been escorted off the new yard by the police when she lost it with the YO and started shouting her mouth off and refused to leave.
The children were pleasant though :)
 
Oh my goodness I am sorry to hear you are still getting these horrid messages! I hope the police will take it seriously, if she is known to them then hopefully they will go and speak to her. I shouldn't think she will do anything horrrible though (i really hope not)!
 
I can't believe how useless the police seem to be...
She's sold ponies that were on loan - ILLEGAL
She's harassed you and others - ILLEGAL
She's sent you and maybe others death threats - ILLEGAL
Amazing how she's still doing it and I imagine she hasn't even been punished yet!
Pretty sure that's a lack of duty of care... If anything were to happen and they are found out to already know about it, but not taken any action, they could be in serious trouble.

How disgusting is it that one person can make someone else feel like you are and get away with it!

Hope your pony is all well and fine when you return, and how the move goes ok.
 
Is pony microchipped and freezemarked?

If not might be worth getting them done, just in case she does try and help herself to him later.
 
Phone them - don't text - and tell them the pony is happily in a private home - he is not for sale and not for loan.

Be firm and take no prisoners!!!!

OK - edited - didn't read to the end! Phone her and tell her the police have been informed. Call the police and tell them you have been threatened - don't let the police fob you off - keep pestering them until they call the woman and warn her off!
 
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Muckypony I have been told she has been to court over selling ponies on loan and she apparently got away with a caution, a fine and told to pay compensation! That's what I've heard down the grapevine anyway.

Had a nasty Voicemail today too (Which has been saved for evidence). She sounds like she was dragged up instead of brought up.

I have texted her once today using BackRidingAgain's suggestion but she totally ignored and carried on. She's stopped for now thank god.
 
:eek: madness!

I wonder if she ever paid the compensation... Not that that would be the most important thing for me if it had been my pony sold. So sad that some people its acceptable to behave like that.

I agree with mcnaughty - keep pestering the police until they do something!
 
What a complete bloody nightmare. I wonder how easy it is to get a restraining order?

If someone can get a photo of her it would be a public service to send it round every yard in the area.

Paula
 
Yes he is Microchipped Wench. On the new yard he will be in a field around the back so he will be out of sight.

When I go to the Police tomorrow McNaughty they should do something, if I don't hear anything back from them in a few days I will start to badger them to warn her off.
 
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