Ever feel like just giving up riding & having pets?Just me?

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Feeling a bit 'meh' this afternoon. Everything we do lately seems to end in tears or not be enjoyable and I'm starting to wonder if I can really be bothered anymore! One horse has gone wild and cant seem to do anything without utter silliness, the other has had a virus.

I can't be the only one!
 
I'm very close to the edge at the minute. I'm disabled and life is hard for me generally. Managing the horse keeps me going but also drains me. Hes not been right for a couple of weeks and I had it confirmed today hes redone an old problem. I can try and rehab him again but he wont ever do what I want to do now and it will go again, its just when. I cant retire him as he just will not live out and I cant cope or afford 2 on livery. So its keep him and keep trying or have him PTS and walk away I think. The same thing happened at this time last year, different horse, different thing, but I cant keep doing this. Problem is I love this horse beyond words and hes what keeps me going. It all feels like such a mess at the minute :(
 
So so sorry LW :( :( I know the feeling of the timebomb horse, it sucks.

It's an especially difficult time of year when things aren't going well too, the cold dark days just makes everything even more bleak.

To the OP, how would you feel just taking a break for a few weeks? Turn them away until you are feeling a bit less down, and then maybe arrange some lessons or something to get you back on track?
 
I just have pets now essentially, two guinea pigs can be just as much bother :p while the pony resides 200 miles away and manages to generate as much worry as he did when he lived outside the back door.... just waiting to see how he is when he comes off the bute he really shouldn't be having because of his liver over the next few days...
 
Oh LW thats awful im so sorry.

milliepops, that could be an idea but I worry that I may quite like not riding the crazy mare and just never get back into it! I dont know, maybe im just having one of those days. I will ride said unreasonable highly strung opinionated nutjob tonight and see how she goes....
 
No OP, you're certainly not the only one and I don't think there's any of us that can honestly say we haven't felt like you at some point!

Horses are hard work and generally there are more downs than ups... but there's something in us that just keeps driving us on.

Me and my lot (OH and 3 liveries) have all had a really rough time of it, of late. Just in the last few weeks one tragic accident which resulted in a livery losing her horse, my competition lad been diagnosed with a suspensory problem and another livery with foot abscess after foot abscess.... trust me there have been times when I've thought (and said) let's just give it all up... but I'd be lost without them.
 
MissGee its just never ending isnt it. Hugs to your livery, we really take them for granted when its not quite going our way. I will give mine an extra squeeze tonight!

I feel like a meanie now as I rode her lastnight in a pitch black school as only one floodlight was working and she was the best she has ever been....musn't say mean things about her!
 
So sorry to read LW :(

Easy to lose motivation at this time of year. I always try and plan a few quiet weekends at this time of year with no pressure or stress to just enjoy them.
 
MuffettMischief said:
MissGee its just never ending isnt it. Hugs to your livery, we really take them for granted when its not quite going our way. I will give mine an extra squeeze tonight!

I feel like a meanie now as I rode her lastnight in a pitch black school as only one floodlight was working and she was the best she has ever been....musn't say mean things about her!
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sorted, just ride her in the dark :D
 
Honestly? There was a moment while horse was recovering from surgery earlier this year that I though that I actually quite like not riding (still enjoyed the care side).

back on board now in rehab work and love riding her just as I always did - but it was quite a revelation that actually I might not miss riding one day. Horse is knocking 20 and I had always assumed I'd get another when she retires - now not 100% sure!
 
Having pets is the most honourable kind of horse ownership! (IMHO) A pet costs as much as a ridden/driven animal and you keep it for love and engagement rather than in return for the work it can do. Purest form of horse ownership.

(I also deeply respect some of those in third world countries who keep animals as part of/to support their family - but that isn't a situation many people in the UK are in)
 
Completely. Lost my horse unexpectedly and tragically this year. Bought a project whose been so difficult physically and mentally. I did everything with him myself from day one but finally accepted a month or so ago that I just didn't have the capacity to deal with him anymore. Got a pro rider for him and its been a revelation. No more pressure on me, horse is happy, I am happy when I ride him, its fab. Maybe ill get back into competing one day or maybe I won't..sometimes you just need to hand the reins over and focus on what makes you happy. In my case - mucking out!
 
I would try a break. A lot of them have gone a bit loony recently and a holiday won't hurt, even a few months until the worst of the winter is done.
I was having some issues with my girl last year and really had to push on. We had been out to 2 shows recently and finally felt I was getting on top of my issues and then she went lame. She is having tendon surgery on Monday (my birthday would you believe) and then there will be a long recovery. She is not the most chilled of horses so the thought of hand walking and box rest is pretty dismal and may require drugs for us both!
 
Yep - horse has been injured for so long I have gone and bought a mountain bike! That is my new passion while she recovers in the field over winter. I don't mind paying for her as she's my buddy but I need something else to focus on. I have no real desire to ride, despite being offered other horses, I'm a bit heartsick with it all.
 
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