dancingkris
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Sorry but I just need a moan. Feeling really fed up tonight and just not sure where to go. Long story but here goes. I am the very lucky owner of 3 horses, 2 TB geldings, one of whom is retired and a mini kept at a private field/stables. I have 1 horse which is capable of being ridden - I have had him for nearly 3 years but due to various issues, including hoof neglect when I got him, a hock fracture which resulted in surgery and then my subsequent pregnancy I have hardly ridden him . He's an ex racehorse and quite green to ride. I had a chap riding him last year whilst I was expecting and he did well with him in hunter trials and xc which is what the horse loves. He was never a straightforward ride and seemed to hate schooling but loved to gallop and jump and hack out.
Fast forward to this year and nothing seems to be going right. My original rider now has a new job and can't commit to riding but I have another lady helping me who is currently lunging him with a view to riding him - she's lovely and doing a great job with him. He's had more problems with his feet which have resulted in a change of farrier and he's now barefoot on a barefoot diet (which he's been on for ages) but sadly I can't seem to find boots to fit and as we are on a very stoney bridlepath the only riding options are in the field. I am limited for time with a new baby and also am not the best at schooling. My background is riding racehorses (since I was 15 and Im now nearly 40!) so I tend to ride 'that way' and it's a habit I am desperate to break.
Still with me...sorry it's long! Anyway I have been riding my boy in the field but he's getting more and more unwilling to go forward. I had his back checked a few weeks ago but nothing wrong and just put it down to napping and boredom as he loves to hack and can't, and an element of trying it on with me too. So I booked a lesson together with my sharer tonight and now feel like the worst rider ever and I should just give up and get hamsters. She was a Centred Riding instructor and the lesson was fascinating and very informative - but really highlighted to me that whilst I can ride a racehorse I can't ride traditional style very well. She thought his saddle wasn't a good fit on him - which I can sort out - and that his feet are still causing him some discomfort and suggested he should have shoes back on, which I'm not keen on doing really at the moment although it would mean he can hack out again. She has suggested that my sharer has lessons on him as he went so much better for her and she likes schooling and I should have lessons on a different horse as I can't really teach him much. She was really nice and very helpful but I just feel very low now. My horses are my sanctuary and I love them to bits - money is tight at the moment with me being on mat leave and I feel like if I ask my non horsey husband to pay for lessons etc on another horse when he's already paying out for 3 he'll hit the roof! I think my sharer also feels a bit uncomfortable about schooling him as she's just recovering from a bad fall and needs to regain her confidence, and also feels like as he's my horse that she's treading on my toes a bit (which she isn't btw). I honestly feel tonight that I want to just give up - I have had horses all my life and worked with them etc but feel like I know nothing about riding and feel useless. I am even thinking about putting him out on loan to someone who can give him the education he needs but I would miss him so much - and don't think my sharer would ever forgive me! I feel like it's 1 step forward and 2 steps back! Apologies for the self pitying post - I just needed a whinge! Red wine and giant buttons on offer if you have got this far! X
Fast forward to this year and nothing seems to be going right. My original rider now has a new job and can't commit to riding but I have another lady helping me who is currently lunging him with a view to riding him - she's lovely and doing a great job with him. He's had more problems with his feet which have resulted in a change of farrier and he's now barefoot on a barefoot diet (which he's been on for ages) but sadly I can't seem to find boots to fit and as we are on a very stoney bridlepath the only riding options are in the field. I am limited for time with a new baby and also am not the best at schooling. My background is riding racehorses (since I was 15 and Im now nearly 40!) so I tend to ride 'that way' and it's a habit I am desperate to break.
Still with me...sorry it's long! Anyway I have been riding my boy in the field but he's getting more and more unwilling to go forward. I had his back checked a few weeks ago but nothing wrong and just put it down to napping and boredom as he loves to hack and can't, and an element of trying it on with me too. So I booked a lesson together with my sharer tonight and now feel like the worst rider ever and I should just give up and get hamsters. She was a Centred Riding instructor and the lesson was fascinating and very informative - but really highlighted to me that whilst I can ride a racehorse I can't ride traditional style very well. She thought his saddle wasn't a good fit on him - which I can sort out - and that his feet are still causing him some discomfort and suggested he should have shoes back on, which I'm not keen on doing really at the moment although it would mean he can hack out again. She has suggested that my sharer has lessons on him as he went so much better for her and she likes schooling and I should have lessons on a different horse as I can't really teach him much. She was really nice and very helpful but I just feel very low now. My horses are my sanctuary and I love them to bits - money is tight at the moment with me being on mat leave and I feel like if I ask my non horsey husband to pay for lessons etc on another horse when he's already paying out for 3 he'll hit the roof! I think my sharer also feels a bit uncomfortable about schooling him as she's just recovering from a bad fall and needs to regain her confidence, and also feels like as he's my horse that she's treading on my toes a bit (which she isn't btw). I honestly feel tonight that I want to just give up - I have had horses all my life and worked with them etc but feel like I know nothing about riding and feel useless. I am even thinking about putting him out on loan to someone who can give him the education he needs but I would miss him so much - and don't think my sharer would ever forgive me! I feel like it's 1 step forward and 2 steps back! Apologies for the self pitying post - I just needed a whinge! Red wine and giant buttons on offer if you have got this far! X
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