Ever upset anyone in the outside world with what you post here?

[noodle_]

you didnt say anything bad tho??



I know a few of my posts have been seen by friends - dosent bother me as i tell them the same thing anyhow

I wouldnt put anything on a forum i wasnt willing to discuss face to face with someone

 

[Shantara]

I posted something asking for help looking for info on a friends horse. Out of the blue my friend got a text from the new owner saying the horse is fine and to butt out or she'll sue. Whether it was from my post or not, I'll never know.
I never said anything about bad ownership, my friend was just missing her horse.

 

[SaharaS]

Just to clarify Fiona...I think you/your posts are possibly like for like on the offensiveness level as new born puppies..so I really wouldn't worry in the slightest. Be glad you & your horse are now on the greener side of the fence, enjoy your new yard together & everything about it as from what you have said, you have a yard in a million & she was probably just jealous or sour. Put it down to experience & don't lose any more sleep/horse time over it..she's not worth it..perhaps sad to see you go/unhappy there herself/not brave enough to make the move? I remember the original post & think I commented..I think I just felt relieved for you when you said you WERE able to escape...if she turned on you like that & made you upset enough to post this thread..then frankly the grass IS greener your side of the livery fence!

 

[FionaM12]

you didnt say anything bad tho??



I know a few of my posts have been seen by friends - dosent bother me as i tell them the same thing anyhow

I wouldnt put anything on a forum i wasnt willing to discuss face to face with someone

Well I didn't think the things I said were bad. If anyone has the time to trawl through the threads started by me and point out any nasty bits, I'm happy to learn! But I honestly believe there aren't any.

I didn't say as much about my problems with Mollie to the other owners as I wrote here. They all seemed busy and I didn't see them often enough to go into as much detail. But they did know I was having difficulty.

 

[MiJodsR2BlinkinTite]

I wrote something on here a while back about a yard where mine was at; and at that time I showed my profile picture which I'd taken of my boy and me at this particular yard. Not that you'd recognise it coz even people that had been there didn't!!! BUT the YM had obviously read what I'd written and was very upset as she felt I'd identified the yard in question from my profile pic!!! Which wasn't my intention at all; in fact someone else mentioned the yard in one of their posts about the incident and not me, I was careful to not identify it.

It was something that I was (I felt justified) in being very annoyed about at the time; and in retrospect, I'd still feel the same now if that particular incident happened again, BUT I thinkyou do have to be very very careful what you post on here; something that you don't think is very significant and you don't think anyone else knows about or is even interested in, can, ehm, basically set in motion the glorious movement of the proverbial manure hitting the revolving turbine!!!

 

[muff747]

I have upset people, not on here (i don't think) but whilst at the yard I was on at the time. And like you, I was completely unaware of what I had done wrong, or that anyone was upset about me until one day when two people started shouting and bawling at me about picking up some haylage off the floor from in front of my friends stable and giving it to her horse. In the ensuing barrage of insults and totally untrue accusations, apparently I was in the wrong for tying my horse up outside his stable because was stood acrossways and his bottom was in front of this womans stable, and was blocking her horse's view
Sometimes you can't understand why some people are upset with you, just keep telling yourself over and over - you are not the guilty party here, it is they who are being unreasonable.
Try not to let it upset you, you will get over it in time, especially now you are in a better place, good riddence to them

 

[FionaM12]

I thinkyou do have to be very very careful what you post on here; something that you don't think is very significant and you don't think anyone else knows about or is even interested in, can, ehm, basically set in motion the glorious movement of the proverbial manure hitting the revolving turbine!!!

Haha! Very tastefully put!

In reality, unless you're completely disguised and never post pictures, there's always a chance of being spotted. Then however careful you think you are, someone could probably misconstrue.

For myself, I'll carry on posting. I'll bear in mind that anyone I refer to could be reading this, and try not to offend. Beyond that, I'm determined not to worry about it.

 

[FionaM12]

I think you/your posts are possibly like for like on the offensiveness level as new born puppies.

 

[Clippy]

I wouldn't have thought anything you said about your yard could cause offence.

Sometimes though, the replies you get can colour the topic a different way than you intended, say, for example, if someone else replied with bad things about the yard THEY are on

 

[4x4]

Well done for the move and hope you can just improve everything now! I'm sure we've all upset people - I know I have - but then people have also upset me. It's the way of the world!!

 

[Luci07]

Mentioning no names of course!

Ah yes but HELEN would never say what her forum name was. Now THAT was weird!

 

[StormyMoments]

your not alone i know i have hurt some feelings on here, in fact i cried when i found out that they had been upset by it and never said but said to the other lady on the yard, i didnt mean it out of nastiness, i never meant to sound horrible, but obviously i did i do still wish i had the chance to say sorry but i didnt, i said those things out of my own insecurities, not because i didnt like that person i probably came over as a spoilt brat but it wasnt intended i am actually a nice person, i now dont post much on here unless its about my horses and nothing in it can cause offence as i still worry about what i said even though it was months ago

 

[FionaM12]

your not alone i know i have hurt some feelings on here, in fact i cried when i found out that they had been upset by it and never said but said to the other lady on the yard, i didnt mean it out of nastiness, i never meant to sound horrible, but obviously i did i do still wish i had the chance to say sorry but i didnt, i said those things out of my own insecurities, not because i didnt like that person i probably came over as a spoilt brat but it wasnt intended i am actually a nice person, i now dont post much on here unless its about my horses and nothing in it can cause offence as i still worry about what i said even though it was months ago

Oh dear. Everyone, at some point, says things they regret when they're upset. The trouble with the internet is that what you've said is out there for all to see.

You regret what you said, so you'll learn from your mistake. It sounds like you're more upset than the person you think you wronged! Put it behind you, any reasonable person will forgive and move on.

I doubt you'll ever post thoughtlessly again. Time to stop beating yourself up now.