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traceyann

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As i posted before my horse iv had for four months rears and boxes at my head and can bolt anyway put round my friends that he might be for sale they all know how bad he is my riding teacher friend nearly ripped my arm of for him for two thousand 500 pounds so why do i feel sick at the thought of him going i feel close to tears at the thought iv never sold any of my horses before they stay until they die. But i cant help feeling iv let him down some how what should i do i didnt think id feel this way about him.
 
tbh, if he's that dangerous, I don't think you should pass him on at all - and if you do, you should make the buyer sign a disclaimer, or it will come back on you.
 
Think of him as a beautiful pair of shoes that kill your feet :).

Just because they kill your feet, doesn't mean they will kill the next persons. And would you carry on wearing a pair of shoes you just couldn't walk in? No, you could consign them to the back of the cupboard, or you could sell them on ebay and let somebody else have the pleasure.

I know that is pretty simplistic but you aren't failing him but you could be if you hold onto him. Let him go and get something more suitable :)
 
quirky said:
Think of him as a beautiful pair of shoes that kill your feet :).

Just because they kill your feet, doesn't mean they will kill the next persons. And would you carry on wearing a pair of shoes you just couldn't walk in? No, you could consign them to the back of the cupboard, or you could sell them on ebay and let somebody else have the pleasure.

I know that is pretty simplistic but you aren't failing him but you could be if you hold onto him. Let him go and get something more suitable :)
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I agree with this^^^^
 
You can't think of it like that, your not letting him down in fact your making a brave decision. And as long as you are honest and make sure you find a good home for him. Then that's all you can do.

You hear plenty of stories where horses have transformed when with a new owner. This isn't a reflection of you personally,we just have to accept that like people there are just some horses...

I know a lot of people who have kept horses that weren't right for them, because they always focused on what the horse could be...
Most of the time the poor horse ended up in the field with the owner looking longingly whilst bragging how it could of been the next Milton... if only it didn't have issues.
 
Thanks everyone i think it because i saved him from going to the meat man and hes so much better than he was i feel i have a duty to him i have three other horses so i do not want to replace him whats so annoying hes excellent to ride and dressage would be his thing and only rears when bringing in never when going out to the field.
 
Big hugs, I did this about in Feb this year. I'd had my horse 3.5 years and had tried and tried to make it work but in reality i would have had an accident with him (how i hadnt already is anyones guess) Things came to a head when he started violently double barreling people i was riding with, this was out of a calm walk with no warning!
I could no longer risk it as it was mainly my little girl i rode out with. I found him the best home and the girl adores him- he is also much happier as he is training to event rather than hacking with a child and pony in tow!
It was the hardest thing and yes i cried (lots!) but he's happier and i'm happier. You will get over him and find your ideal horse. Dont feel guilty. I too have never sold a horse (i gave this one away with a full 100% honest description and stay in regular touch) but this was the best thing and i'm sure it will be for you.
 
You're bound to feel sad, but also be proud that you have been brave, generous and mature enough to do the best thing for the horse - which after all is what counts :)
 
You'd be pretty hard hearted if you could just wave him off without any emotion. But if the two of you were never to be, well there's no amount of work that can change that. It's such a lottery sometimes, when you take a horse on, that you are the right partnership. This time the lottery didn't work out - but you've made a sensible decicsion for you AND the horse. Chin up!
 
My sister thinks that my older mare hates her, and just wont ride her and dosent even like getting her in from the field despite the fact that she's been used to teach someone to jump before and has given lessons to a complete novice. If you dont get on with a horse, then you dont get on with a horse. My five year old wont let me any where near her with a wormer (i'm about to chop her head off with an axe apparently), but my sister can do it without any fuss. If your friend took your arm off then she knew what the score was and was happy to take the horse on. I can understand that you might feel awful but sometimes these things just happen and your perfect partner is around the corner.
 
traceyann said:
Thanks everyone i think it because i saved him from going to the meat man and hes so much better than he was i feel i have a duty to him i have three other horses so i do not want to replace him whats so annoying hes excellent to ride and dressage would be his thing and only rears when bringing in never when going out to the field.
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I had a mare who did this - she was so bad to lead that we had 2 people lead her, wearing hard hats. Then we changed her diet, took all cereals and sugar away and her behaviour changed within a week. It was like giving a junkie 'a fix'. She was ready for the next fix (her tea) when she was coming in but going out, either she had just eaten or she wasn't expecting to eat - depending on what we happened to be doing with her that year. She had also been a 'rescue case' and the person we bought her from had tried to feed her up in about 3 months. IMO giving her far too much of the wrong food, too quickly.
Hope this helps.
 
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