teacups
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Likewise!
Also the responses which followed, on both ‘sides’, were very interesting.
Except Ihatework’s - definitely straight over my head.
Falling off
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Also the responses which followed, on both ‘sides’, were very interesting.
Except Ihatework’s - definitely straight over my head.
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I used to be decisive, now I'm not so sure...
Over mine too. Maybe a biscuit isle situation? I've only ever spotted one of those. But IHW may have meant something completely different and I would have no idea who it may be even if that is what IHW means!!!
ihatework
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No, its a good thing you don't get me. I was just being rude tbh!
tristars
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How have people managed to ride well without all this
Dont bother answering........please
Where is the paracetamol just in case
Dont bother answering........please
Where is the paracetamol just in case
AlwaysFallingOff
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Yes I'm having similar feelings. Not sure how much I'm enjoying it.The day I quit jumping was also the day I won a. 1 day event. Came over xc finish line just thinking I’m glad that’s done rather woo-hoo. We’d had a good round I just didn’t get the enjoyment from it. It had been brewing for a while but when a cracking clear xc didn’t give me any form of buzz I knew I was done. Switched to dressage and loved it and then switched to western when I stopped loving dressage. There’s a lot of options out there.
ETA the mare I had at time was super capable but would stop if you didn’t place her right, or ditch you for it. So I can relate
AlwaysFallingOff
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I've not logged on to this for a couple of weeks and just want to say thank you to everyone who has responded. I'm seriously thinking about future plans and what I do going forward. I've been training smaller with a different instructor but things are still very wobbly.... it's the lack of commitment thing from our recent experiences. Tomorrow if the last indoor show of the season at our local venue, then I'm going to really take some time out and sort ourselves out. I'm not sure what this will mean but I'm giving myself space to find out without the constant focus on the next show or challenge. Time to step off the treadmill and reassess!
AlwaysFallingOff
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Yes I do find that. They literally ignore you when you say that today I'm not feeling great - might be totally unrelated to riding - and you ask for a light session and small jumps. It means that you are always having to dig so deep, even when you're really not feeling up to it.I just don't enjoy jumping, I persevered in my teens and early 20s as that's what you did and that's also where i got jobs but i dont think I ever enjoyed it. Now I just do the things I enjoy hacking and flat work/ dressage on my little hairy pony.
It is weird how certain instructors don't seem to take you seriously, the last time I got talked into it I ended up falling on my face
AlwaysFallingOff
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Honestly it started with me (friend had a nasty fall - air ambulance job!), I began riding hesitantly. Then my poor horse who literally feels all my doubts joined in. Then we had a total trust breakdown after some stops and then first fall. It's not all the time, but that's where this started back in November. I think the answer is to strip things back to tiny jumps, forget competition for a few months and see if we can find the joy again.
AlwaysFallingOff
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Thank you. Yes I agree with you, people who jump a lot fall off a lot, and it simply can't be avoided. I'd just like to do it a bit lessI came to terms a while ago that the more you do with your horse the more you will fall off! I know that sounds quite obvious but it actually took a while for the penny to drop with meI looked at my trainers who were brilliant, talented riders and falling off their horses often and realised it's kind of inevitable when you're riding young, sharp horses and jumping regularly that the odds of you getting decked are quite high regardless of how good a rider you are. I think we sometimes fall into the trap of thinking when you get 'good enough' you stop falling off, but you don't!
My trainer even said to me in a lesson once "if you're scared of falling off, you need to get over it because if you want to jump your horse - news flash - you're going to fall off".... he's quite blunt but I understood the sentiment, you do kind of have to accept that you'll take the odd tumble and you have to decide if your self-preservation of stopping that happening is greater than your will to be doing what you're doing.
I think for me it was a psychological shift from 'falling off' being the worst thing that could happen and meaning I'd failed or was doing something wrong, to just being something that happened sometimes as part of the process.
Of course none of us want to get hurt and if each fall is knocking you physically or mentally then maybe step it down a level to more within your comfort zone so you're actually enjoying it. But if deep down you want to carry on and are just beating yourself up for falling off too often, it might just need a mental shift and some support from a good trainer for a confidence boost.
