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cassie summers

cassie summers

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i have worked in the same job for 10 years now and feel like i am tied to it being that i am 51 years old i have a horse cats and a dog i work a 60 hour week i work nightshifts i am sitting on my backside for 12 hours then i go home do the horse sleep then get up ride if i have time or not raining then back to work its like being on a hamster wheel i am overweight not only due to eating crap but doing the job i do,i would love a job where i could be active but as soon as people see my age puh not interested i look at my mother and feel myself turning into her which is a miserable bitter old woman am i the only woman over 50 who feels like this or maybe its just a faze and all will get better soon
 
Is there any way you an reduce your hours to a normal 40 hour working week so you have a bit of time for yourself- or are you due a holiday soon?
 
Try to adjust your holiday entitlement to give yourself a longer break when you can, you need to pamper yourself, maybe paying someone to help with the horse two days a week, or find a sharer.
The dog walker might be willing to vacuum, and tidy the house, OK you have to pay for assistance, but we all need a bit of help sometimes.
 
My mother in law has just got herself a job after being unemployed for nearly 6 months and she's 54, so don't feel disheartened! If you enjoy your job, I'd agree with what everyone else has said and try and reduce your hours, as 60 hours a week is a lot! Try and book some long weekends off for some much needed 'switch off' time and really don't think about work or you'll feel just as drained when you go back! If you really want a career change, why not volunteer at lots of different places to get a feel of what you want to do? Especially if you have a passion for something that you could turn into a career. Maybe something might come up and you might land yourself a job that way! I can't say I understand how you're feeling as I'm 26, however, I'm currently having a miserable time at work and feeling incredibly unhappy but only you can take the steps to help yourself out, that's what I keep telling myself! Chin up x
 
I feel your pain. I work 48hrs a week, 4 nights and have two horses, 30 mins drive away plus house, disabled OH and three grown up kids. You do feel as if all you do is work, sleep, poo pick, ride and back to work!! Especially in the winter, or when the weather is crap, as it has been recently.
Rather than one long holiday, I have a few days annual leave every couple of months, and tag them onto my days off, so that I get a good breather from work. This year my girls have been living out 24/7 and that makes a lot of difference. I share a yard with three others and we all take turns to poo pick and check, so if I am completely knackered, or need a horsey break, one of the girls will do my horses and I return the favour.
 
Think it's an age thing - coming up to that sort of age and am right fed up - menopausal maniac is what I call myself - always tired and fed up and I only work part time - really you need to reduce your hours to get some sanity or else you'll burn yourself out!
 
Sounds like you have a lot on your plate and need a fairly strict routine to fit it all in.

In fact you sound a lot like me :)

What I did the other day was write a list of all the things I want to do in my life and as it is a hell of a long list I am getting cracking on it. Made me feel a great deal better.

I have come to the conclusion that when you reach 50ish it suddenly finally dawns on you that this really is as good as it gets and it is not always a pleasant thing :o I always imagined I would be tripping round my vast estate dead heading the roses and gazing at my herd of horses grazing peacefully in immaculate fields not working all hours with only a few weeks a year for frippery.
 
RebelRebel said:
Sounds like you have a lot on your plate and need a fairly strict routine to fit it all in.

In fact you sound a lot like me :)

What I did the other day was write a list of all the things I want to do in my life and as it is a hell of a long list I am getting cracking on it. Made me feel a great deal better.

I have come to the conclusion that when you reach 50ish it suddenly finally dawns on you that this really is as good as it gets and it is not always a pleasant thing :o I always imagined I would be tripping round my vast estate dead heading the roses and gazing at my herd of horses grazing peacefully in immaculate fields not working all hours with only a few weeks a year for frippery.
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thankyou ladies gave me alot to think about and yes your right you get to 50 and think what have i done with my life i do have a grown up son who has done well for himself and we are still very good friends i think i will write it all down and just get on with it i cant reduce my hours as that is the way we work but i hate my job to be honest i would like to be someones housekeeper and look after their horses but not gonna happen at my age
 
As an early 50th club member, I have to say my mood swings been of a certain age were off the scale. I work 37 hours, half that you do but in a very stressful job. I have found by changing my diet and just giving myself a good kick up the backside and really enjoying my horse and dogs. There are days when I feel shattered and my head is buzzing with all I have to take in, but that is what good friends and red wine are for.50 something is not old, if you are in good health you should appriciate it. Keep your chin up and take pride in what you have acheived so far and what is to come in the future
 
Well why not go and do it then? Or start a house/pet/horse sitting business which is a very valuable service needed by many, I know cos I employ someone for this from time to time. I think an older person has more experience of life, can seem dependable with common sense so you might be surprised. I'm not saying younger folk can't do this too of course.
Certainly don't write yourself off but get on and seize the day as they say.
I have had an all consuming job in the past which I had to keep up. Nowadays at 58 I have my own business and have just started another one. No silver spoons here either as I started from nothing and have worked blooming hard for everything, also bringing up three children along the way. But working for yourself is exciting and energising.
My only regret now is that I'm not as fit as I was twenty years ago but can still enjoy my horses in different ways. I'm busy breaking in my homebred 4 yr old which I've never done before, using clicker training, and also getting into carriage driving.

I know that your situation can make you feel very flat, tired and ground down, but really only you can do something about it so go for it! Lets not get written off as we get older, it's a trap easy to fall into. Who knows what is round the corner? I wish you luck!
 
Borderreiver said:
Well why not go and do it then? Or start a house/pet/horse sitting business which is a very valuable service needed by many, I know cos I employ someone for this from time to time. I think an older person has more experience of life, can seem dependable with common sense so you might be surprised. I'm not saying younger folk can't do this too of course.
Certainly don't write yourself off but get on and seize the day as they say.
I have had an all consuming job in the past which I had to keep up. Nowadays at 58 I have my own business and have just started another one. No silver spoons here either as I started from nothing and have worked blooming hard for everything, also bringing up three children along the way. But working for yourself is exciting and energising.
My only regret now is that I'm not as fit as I was twenty years ago but can still enjoy my horses in different ways. I'm busy breaking in my homebred 4 yr old which I've never done before, using clicker training, and also getting into carriage driving.

I know that your situation can make you feel very flat, tired and ground down, but really only you can do something about it so go for it! Lets not get written off as we get older, it's a trap easy to fall into. Who knows what is round the corner? I wish you luck!
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thankyou i suppose just tired and feeling sorry for myself i to have just backed and broken my 8 year old mare she had been a brood mare before i would love to learn to drive her as she is a shire x but she is so bloody nervous about things around her back end think maybe she was covered naturally but appart from that she is great
 
OH gosh, don't feel down! I'm 52, working like mad in our own business and fending off burnout with all my will, but things are doable, they really are. You must make time for yourself, this is what life is for, after all. As someone said, make use of the red wine option!
 
All I can say is is theres something you want to do do it now. Having spent 25 years in the same job, 42 years married, and 40 years in the same house I regret not seizing the day. I retired 7 years ago and hoped to spend my retirement with my husband and horses, but life has had other plans. I feel I have nothing much to show for my life and regret all the things I wasn't brave enough to do. I know its not easy now because of the recession etc. but if there is anything you can change , change it.
 
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