Fed Up Tonight....

JadeyyAndLadyy

JadeyyAndLadyy

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Havent had the best afternoons tbh...
I'll try and keep this as short as possible... my friends (people we share a field with) go down to the field in the mornings, do the breakfasts and go to work. I go to the field after college/work and do the dinners, brush and maybe ride.
Things have been dragging on for a little while now., but this weekend has really hit me hard and i broke down. My family, and my friends went on holiday last week, so friends grandparents were left to feed the horses while we were away. Came back to find no food left :( just enough sugabeet for one bucket to be made up, and half a bag of Alfa A Oil. Nothing else. Im not sure if my friends knew or not....Either they havent been feeding the horses so havent noticed the lack of food, or they just couldnt be bothered to tell me and were just going to leave the horses with no food....Mentioned to friend on saturday that there was no food left, and she said she would pick some up. She always gets the food (we give her money) because she lives near coutrywide.
Anyway, gave the horses sugabeet and alfa a oil, thinking "theyll have some nuts in a day or two..."
Carried on as normal, went to the field sunday night and sorted the horses out, but fed them in a different place to normal. Monday night i went down to feed, the buckets were in exactly the same place i left them the night before. They hadnt been fed :( Still no cubes either.
Went down today, again, buckets were in the same place as the night before, so hadnt been fed again that morning. And again, there were still no cubes. So off i drove searching for countrywide, found it in the end and picked up some cubes and went back to the field.
By now, i felt angry, upset, frustrated, and most of all, let down. I just stood there in the middle of the field and cried. Went up to Lady and hugged her, just cuddled into her neck and stroked her while i sobbed and wailed and moaned and cried. She just stood there. Shes never just stood there before, shes always backed away. She kept looking round at me to see if i was ok, and kept nudging me with her nose...Maybe she knew i was upset? i dont know, but we were stood there for a good 15mins. I felt like such a bad owner, i rely on my friends to feed her in the morning because the field is 40mins from my house, they live just down the road. Theyre meant to be my friends, meant to be people who i could trust. Not anymore. Ladys losing weight now, after last year i spend so much time, effort and money getting her on the right track again, its all going to waste. It's the same every year and im just fed up with everything, I just cant stop crying :( Lady will be moved out that field ASAP, ive talked to a friend and shes letting me visit her and see her fields on thursday, hopefully itll work out with her, the sooner Lady is out of this field, the better...

and to top it all off, on the way home, still crying, there were some fecking idiots out driving. People pulling out right infront of me while im doing 60mph. Some idiot driving straight towards me on my side of the road cuz he couldnt be bothered to wait in the long line of traffic (id expect this from someone in an emergency, but he was cruising down slowly with one arm out the window....)
Sorry for the moan, just needed to let it all out.... :(
 
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What a shame your friends have let you down badly, trust once gone is hard to regain, see how you get on at the other place and hope Lady starts putting her weight back on, but do tell them the truth that they have let you and your mare down badly.
 
What a horrible day for you, hope you are not feeling too down. Thank goodness though that you are attentive to your horse and you have noticed whats going on at the field very quickly. No real harm has come to your horse which is the main thing and now you can make alternative arrangements to stop this happening again.

Hope it all works out well at your new field and that you and your horse experience some more reliable help in the future. Its not unusual with job sharing and horses to be let down, its happened to me quite afew time, so don't worry too much about it.

Hope you have a happier day tomorrow :)
 
Huge hugs! I too know the strain of a skinny horse. It seems they only have to miss a meal and they look poor again. Spring has most definitely sprung though so hopefully with some better quality grass she will start picking up again. :)
 
Thanks guys :)
Its not the first time theyve let me down. During winter, Lady got an infection in one of her feet, which i was told by my vet and farrier to treat with peroxide everyday. During this winter, due to personal reasons, i was unable to get to the field everyday (once a week at the most, worst winter ever!) so my friend promised me she would treat Ladys foot everyday. I bought 2 new bottles for her so she wouldnt run out. Everyday i would ask how ladys foot was... "Oh yeah its fine, she let me do it no problem today!" a few weeks later, went to treat Ladys foot, both bottles were unopened, the infection got worse and im still having to treat it now because they neglected it :(

Theyve also changed her feed without telling/asking me. I was trying to make lady put on weight so had her on build up cubes, sugabeet and alfa a oil 2-3 times a day. went down the field one day to find some food which is meant for fatties, very low calorie!!! She was on this for one week and had already lost weight from it :( I had to go out myself to get the proper food :mad:
 
Sorry to hear you've been having trouble with your field sharers. Have you spoken to them and asked why they have not fed the horses? Perhaps they are ill and couldn't get there?

Anyway, good luck viewing the new place and I hope that works out for you. Bear in mind that wherever you go (bar your own field) you will find something that does not suit you so weigh up the pros and cons of where you are now and the new place and make sure the move is right for Lady.

She won't have lost too much condition missing a few days feeds and at least now you are on top of it.
 
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Sorry to hear you've been having trouble with your field sharers. Have you spoken to them and asked why they have not fed the horses? Perhaps they are ill and couldn't get there?

Anyway, good luck viewing the new place and I hope that works out for you. Bear in mind that wherever you go (bar your own field) you will find something that does not suit you so weigh up the pros and cons of where you are now and the new place and make sure the move is right for Lady.

She won't have lost too much condition missing a few days feeds and at least now you are on top of it.
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Today, they werent fed because my friend had a bad back so couldnt get to the field. But usually, if she cant make it, her dad comes to do it for her, without fail. I havent spoken to them about it, i dont want arguements :( but i will prob mention it when i leave, im sure anywhere is better than the place shes at now, there are about 10 cons to every pro!

And she has lost a noticable amount of condition, before i went on holiday, she looked well, now i can see her ribs :(
 
This just goes to show that, we all have to be responsible for our own
Horses, and not rely on other people for their needs.
You seem to have struggled for a long time with you horses weight, at this time of year i would expect to be feeding less because of the grass, maybe finding better grazing will be better for the both of you.

I have just read that back and it sounds harsh, sorry, was'nt supposed to be ment as having a go at you.
 
I totally know how your feeling, felt like this quite a bit latley!! Hugging my horse always seems to make me feel a tad better i also sit and tell him whats wrong with me and i swear he listens!! Feels so much better just getting it out even if he doesnt talk back :)
 
Having been let down by so-called friends a good few times over the years I know how the OP feels. One time I got back after a 9 hour drive and found my horse standing on a bed that squelched when you walked across it - cue a full dig out. All they had done was stick half a bale of fresh down that morning. They would only have had to take the wet out once in the few days I was away but they were too busy getting p**sed which of course also meant my poor old girl didn't get her breakfast until nearly lunchtime. Funny that the same person insisted (as if I'd do otherwise) that their horse had a full dig out every day for the fortnight I was looking after it. I also made sure he got to stretch his legs every day and was brushed over and feet picked out. Now I'm strictly do -it -myself which means Christmas on my own, and this year I don't think I'll see my family at all.
 
Jade, I think moving Lady will be the making of both her and you. Hopefully it will all come together quickly and you can put all this behind you. It would be such a shame to lose the result of all the hard work you put into her.
 
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