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littlemisslauren

littlemisslauren

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As everyone in the world now knows ;) I have a lovely little Border Terrier puppy.

She is living at my OHs parents house due to us having to take her before we move into our house (This weekend hopefully!). We have had her just under 2 weeks, but I have been away since monday morning (at uni doing exams) and OHs mum assured us it was fine she stayed there and would stick to routine bla bla bla. OH is also away with work.

I felt really good about leaving her there at first, the family have been waffling on about wanting to get a beagle pup for their teenage son so I thought of it as a tester for them.

OHs mum has been dodging my calls!! I finally got through to her and she let me know that the puppy is no longer sleeping, eating or using her crate at all because she 'doesnt like it and its not fair to lock her away'.

The puppy was still crying when put in her crate on a night when I left but she was taking less and less time to settle and we were really making progress.

Now I am back to square one (Probably further back than square one to be honest now the pup has worked out that crying = attention).

Whilst I was on the phone to OHs mum she said 'She is completely zonked out next to me on the sofa - she can even get up by herself now!' - Brilliant. They have encouraged her to get on the sofa.... something we spent a week telling her not to do.

I know these are not major things in the grand sceme of things but I just feel so ignored and frustrated that the pup will now be majorly confused when I get home.

I know this is my own fault for leaving her there. My mum did offer to take her for the 5 days but I didnt want to stress out the older dogs.

Im home tomorrow at about lunchtime... and that puppy IS sleeping in her crate... any tips??

If there is any delay in my house move I am taking the puppy to my parents house, even if I have to keep her away from the older dogs most of the time. My parents do not give in to whinging dogs!

I just re read my post and it is all just a load of ungratefull blabber... I am very thankfull that others have been able to look after Betsy while I am stuck down here (We are paying for the privelage btw) but I'm just upset that OHs family have gone against basically every rule that we have set.

The best bit is OHs mum now thinks its a good idea to get a beagle...good god.
 
I knew you where holding a big rant in and I kinda knew why;)
I think you have every right to be anoyed, and I do actually think it's pretty major in her training routine that you MI is hell bent on destroying it, the only thing that will suffer is the puppy, and you when you move and you have to changer her routine, this is the type of person I want to head butt to be honest:rolleyes: the exact same type that ignores everything you say, then has to rehome the dog in 6 months when it's creating havoc.
If you have lots of time at home, try to get out and about with the pup and take it out of her care, take your carrier, this is jsut like spending time in her crate, don't forget she needs to be in the crate when u are out as well as in for periods of time, and she should not be removed when she is crying (this is making a rod for ones own back:rolleyes:) tire her out playing with her and place her in when she randomlyfalls asleep, keep her in your room if you are allowed u you can keep her crated or in her carrier at night and tell MIL that when u move changing her routine and confusing her is going to stress her, so please can she respect your wishes.
 
I didnt want to rant for fear of being branded unreasonable... but that phone call was the last straw!!

She was really getting used to the crate! I was using a rather amazing puppy guide ;) I printed it off and left it for OHs mum.. god knows where it is now.

I KNEW OHS mum wouldnt listen, but OH was so sure blablabla.

Betsy is clearly allowed in rooms... she has been sleeping in OHs mums bed *Bangs head on desk*

The first couple of nights she slept in her carrier in our room, then we moved it downstairs. Then OHs mum insisted we bought a big crate for the tiiiiiiny puppy (Because im just made of money apparently) so she went in that. erghhhhh.

This poor puppy has gone through so many changes already, she was kept kenneled before we got her and was very confortable in that set up, then she went to basic crate training... now she does whatever takes her fancy.

She even said to me 'Oh im sure Betsy will turn out lovely, charlie is so well behaved'. Charlie is nearly 14 years old and I was 8 when we got him.... my dad trained him and taught me how to do it along the way. And he had a routine and any nasty habits were nipped in the bud very early and firmly.

I need alcohol... Is it too early for alcohol?
 
Of course it's not to early to drink....get lashed and have a good rant:rolleyes: *not that im encouraging bad behaviour:rolleyes:*
You should have said "yeah charlie turned out great, cos u had no hand in it":rolleyes: how sorry will she be feeling for her, when she or you have to withdraw all this attention, jsut to leave the house for 30 mins to grab some shopping, and she is screaming the place down and pitling everywhere:(
 
I know!!
I started leaving her on her ownw for short amounts of time from day 1 - a girls gotta pee. Betsy couldnt have cared less that I left her... just kept on attacking her toy. Im going home to a needy puppy tomorrow... yayyyy.

The wine is open!
 
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