Feel close to giving up :(

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UKa

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Hey, this is just to let some air off my chest. Have had recurring issues with my horse, long story, related to back issues that have mostly been unresolved but managed over the years, but keep creeping back up. I have spent the last couple of months again trying to help her with vet, physio, chiro, even thinking about her diet and management (as this may need some adjustment for other reasons). Now have been getting back on and she still doesn't seem that right I think she may have got cold in the rain lately - and I am tired of it all and not actually getting any enjoyment out of her at the moment.

Then again I could never think of giving her up - she has been my horse and companion for 9 years and been fantastic throughout both my pregnancies and we have been through so much. Just sometimes it is too much isn't it! Not much point this post but wonder if anyone else feels similarly disillusioned or has ever done so...x
 
I completely feel your pain...been through it for 9 years...had her for 10! on/off work, turned away for more time than ridden! but she is the sweetest girly and I wouldn't swap her for the world.

My friend asked me...would I buy her if I knew? I actually said yes...its has been hell and very upsetting, I often had to borrow other peoples horses...but she taught me sooo much, she is very kind and is the best huge dog I could wish for! I often just walk her out in hand...its a real pleasure which sounds odd!

Do not give up...how old is she...what is the diagnosis?
 
I had years of on-going back problems with my little mare, in the end I decided go retire her and she became the field companion for a rescue horse I got from the Blue Cross. I am lucky enough to have my own little paddock, so the only extra expense was hay & bedding.

But I do sympathise, it's so frustrating that you just want to cry sometimes.
 
Yes, I feel just the same. My mare had to retire through injury 3 years ago. The gelding I bought to replace her as my riding horse has never been right in the 2 years I have owned him. He has bone spavin and recently had a huge kissing spine op. He still isn't right. I have turned him away for three months. I need to start bringing him back into work to see if he's okay, but I really don't have the inclination. I am sure that when I do, it will just spell more disappointment. I can't afford another horse to ride, and I won't put a happy horse to sleep, so I guess this is it! :(
 
I'm having the same problem but with me and not the horse, for the last 6 months i've not been able to ride as i have a slipped disc, i have tried twice but puts me back to square 1! feel really disappointed as mine can be ridden and isn't :(
 
Wagtail said:
Yes, I feel just the same. My mare had to retire through injury 3 years ago. The gelding I bought to replace her as my riding horse has never been right in the 2 years I have owned him. He has bone spavin and recently had a huge kissing spine op. He still isn't right. I have turned him away for three months. I need to start bringing him back into work to see if he's okay, but I really don't have the inclination. I am sure that when I do, it will just spell more disappointment. I can't afford another horse to ride, and I won't put a happy horse to sleep, so I guess this is it! :(
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Wow - sorry to hear that Wagtail, really hope your boy comes right.
 
I have a 19 year old TB/Welsh D that I bred myself, backed her as a four year old and was going well until she bacame lame with an abcess that was 11 years ago and hasn't been right since ( came in lame today again!) so she has been a field ornament for all that time and will remain so until the day she dies. As long as she remains comfortable I will keep her but as I have my own land it does make life easier and less expensive. Good luck with your horse OP and I hope things will get better for you soon.
 
I can totally understand, it is soul destroying when you are battling with lameness etc I have been there (still am). Please don't feel alone there is a lot of support on here, it's really helped me.
 
Thank you everyone for your kind words. Like some of you have said I would not give her away let alone PTS and as I cannot afford another horse she will be with me whatever. Other people have offered me horses to ride, so I could if it came to the worst. but I would prefer riding MY horse :(
I have spent some lovely minutes with her just in-hand pottering about and when I have been riding she makes me realise how much she means to me. But it is a bit soul-destroying isn't it when you try so much for them and when it then doesn't come to anything. Oh well, I will pick it all back up tomorrow, maybe it is not all that grim.
Parker79 there is no clear diagnosis. She was x-rayed and bone scanned a couple of years ago and nothing abnormal showed up but she has a very sore patch in the saddle area that seems to cause problems sometimes more and sometimes less...on top of it she is sensitive to cold and has tyed up in the past so clearly has some muscle issues too...
Such hard work. Thanks everyone again, I don't think I could give her up in reality...
 
If you have time...pm me with what you have tried so far....If I had my time again I would have done a few things so differently and may have got her going before her OCD got too bad. Just a though...you have probably done everything...but you never know!
 
Yep I have been going through the exact same thing for the last 3 years. Vet and Physio have now washed their hands of my mare so she is goin for a 2nd opinion next month.

I have had so many ups and downs over the years and she has been out of work more times than she has been in it.

I have cried more times than I can remember. Have now come to the conclusion she will never be back into full time work but she is happy at the moment so that's all that matters to me
 
UKa said:
Thank you everyone for your kind words. Like some of you have said I would not give her away let alone PTS and as I cannot afford another horse she will be with me whatever. Other people have offered me horses to ride, so I could if it came to the worst. but I would prefer riding MY horse :(
I have spent some lovely minutes with her just in-hand pottering about and when I have been riding she makes me realise how much she means to me. But it is a bit soul-destroying isn't it when you try so much for them and when it then doesn't come to anything. Oh well, I will pick it all back up tomorrow, maybe it is not all that grim.
Parker79 there is no clear diagnosis. She was x-rayed and bone scanned a couple of years ago and nothing abnormal showed up but she has a very sore patch in the saddle area that seems to cause problems sometimes more and sometimes less...on top of it she is sensitive to cold and has tyed up in the past so clearly has some muscle issues too...
Such hard work. Thanks everyone again, I don't think I could give her up in reality...
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I know you are all going to groan at me.....but what do her hooves look like?
 
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