Feeling a little deflated and not sure what to do......

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Nothing major really but could get long! the last few months my gelding has been coming on really well and I've been hacking out and doing some schooling and even had a lesson and my instructor was over the moon with the progress we have made. My confidence is still low but I have made progress. The last few weeks however I have gone backwards a few steps with him trying it on and he is definately more full of it (not badly behaving just not behaving perfectly!). There could be a few different reasons for this so not blaming him as a few changes have happened recently.

I feel a long way off being able to hack him out completely on my own which is ultimately what I enjoy doing and for me the whole point of having him.

I feel like we have a good bond now and he has become part of the family he is always pleased to see me and I have been enjoying some time just chilling out with him.

However this week I have been unable to ride so the groom who has been working with him has ridden him every day so far. She took him out with her dog (she regularly hacks him on his own or with just her dog so nothing unusual for him) and when the dog ran off into the woods he freaked out and reared with her and was generally messing around. She dealt with him and made him walk calmly back to the yard. She then made him go back out round the village (without the dog) on his own and he was fine. She did the same ride again yesterday and she said he was fine but agreed he is more full of it and needs to go back to basics a bit.

I just feel like now I am another step further from being where I want to be with him. I expected me to go backwards a bit as confidence is like that but not him as to be honest he had been a bit of a superstar.

Hubby and i have decided that once I turn 30 (year and a half away and dependant on our situation) try for a baby. I know it could take well over a year for me to get pregnant (or might not be able to at all) but I am thinking long term and is all this effort with him worth it if I end up not being able to ride for a while anyway.

I have put so much time money and effort into him but I feel like I could be at least a year away from where I want to be.

I don't really know what the point of this post is to be honest. Just need someone to give me a shove to carry on and tell me it will be worth it. Give me a slap!!
 
Having been in a similar situation recently, where I wasn't enjoying horse ownership and being my hobby it should be mostly enjoyable at least. I sold the horse and bought something that suited my needs. If I were you, Id put your horse on selling livery and consider loaning a schoolmaster/confidence giver type.
 
Spring Grass??? :) Lots of horses go a bit asbo this time of year. See if he settles in a few weeks and in the meantime focus on the progress that you have made. :D
 
Oof, not sure if I can be much help with this one, but I can try as am in a similar position.

After losing my old boy whom had been my best friend for 20 years, I bought the horse that I have always wanted 6 months ago, a 5yo with some potential for RC type stuff, who to top it off is an Anglo Arab, and is a lot more inexperienced and requires a helluva lot more work / bringing on than I had ever imagined.

I will try and keep this short. I have been making good progress with my confidence issues that I believe stemmed from making such a big transition between horses, along with a touch of anxiety, etc. We did however have a set back at the weekend when I rode him to a local show with the objective of letting him take in the surroundings for experience. He ended up kicking my Dad and breaking his arm - (this is another story and all in all I don't believe it was an act of mindless violence on my horse's part).

I sometimes have thoughts of how nice it would be to just go and buy a 'get on and go' type that is a bit older with more experience, as this whole project is really going to take time, effort, and patience. This would however mean letting my boy go and thus breaking my promise to him, so for the minute I have decided to strip things back to basics and not write the situation off just yet.

I am now 31 and the idea of one day having a kid myself does play on my mind, and I too am left in the position of wondering whether all my hard work would end up going to waste if I did end up pregnant.

So I guess I am trying to say that you are not alone, I don't have all the answers, so actually am probably not being much help, but for what it is worth, I am trying to remind myself that patience is a virtue and none of us know what the future holds, and sometimes it is best to cross these bridges when you get to them without worrying about trying to forward plan too much.

There, how useless was that? :o
 
In addition to my previous essay, although on the one had I could accuse myself of being too sentimental what with talk of breaking promises, the idea of potentially jumping from the frying pan into to the fire also worries me. Sometimes better the devil you know
 
Thanks for posting guys. And for your understanding smanf!

I feel a lot better this evening. Apparently he was perfectly behaved today and he was being super cute and loving when I went to see him.

I definately am not ready to give up on him and I do enjoy riding him now its just that I get frustrated at times as I want it all perfect NOW lol
 
Did you not buy the other horse then?

IIWY I would stick with the other horse and sell the pally or if the little cob didn't work out for whatever reason, look for another like him who makes you feel safe and still sell the pally.

If you do want to keep on persevering with the palomino, best of luck with it and I hope the decision ends up being the right one for you. :)
 
Hmmm..

If the whole point of you having a horse is something (not particularly unusual) that your particular horse doesn't really take to (with you/your groom) it simply seems like a bad match.

Is there any reason that you have to keep him? I.e. is he sale/loan-able to another home for a different job?
 
Do you trust your lad even when fresh? Then stick with him, my lad is about to be ridden for the first time since Oct, we still had sheet ice at Easter and life gets in the way, knowing I have a good bond with both my horses, I have no qualms about his behaviour, he may be lively but he will respond to my requests to slow down (Xtrotter), likewise, I know my mare will also behave, she's been ridden once since Sept, due to pregnancy and Arthritis concerns.
 
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