Feeling a little disheartened ... :(

Good heavens, why on earth do you put up with your husband? How does he enhance your life? I thought for a moment I was reading a Victorian lady's journal! I assume that your husband (as opposed to your lord and master) does have some redeeming features, otherwise you would have taken control of your life and left him? Since you don't seem to be doing financially too well with him in situ and run 3 businesses from home, taking control of your own life and preventing someone else from ordering you about would appear to be the obvious solution to your problems.

I don't know if I agree that its fair to blame other people (ie your husband) for your woes. If your husband works full-time, and you are based at home, is this entirely fair?
 
Mithras - have you read the whole thread? Not quite so straightforward.

OP - be brave and be strong, and at the end of the day do whatever it is you have to do that is right for you. ((((Hugs))))
 
My ex sounds rather like your current. I was allowed to ride the horse PROVIDED all my other jobs had been done.

Fast forward 14 years - I am with a lovely man - who still isn't in because he is working - I work full time and have a horse and spend as much time with the horse as I want.

Get out would be my advice. My ex was controlling, difficult and manipulative. Happily he had an affair which was my get out clause.

Life is for living. And your life is your own. Just because you have children together, does not mean you have to live under the rules of a dictator.
 
Now I know why I'm not married! Seriously though, you sound like a remarkable lady managing to do what you do. I'm sure your hubby loves you very much and just doesn't understand. I idea of a sharer is a great one if you can find a suitable person. Relationships are about compromise so long as it is both parties doing the compromising! Sounds like you have a lovely little family so I hope you get something sorted so you feel a bit happier xxx
 
Mithras said:
Good heavens, why on earth do you put up with your husband? How does he enhance your life? I thought for a moment I was reading a Victorian lady's journal! I assume that your husband (as opposed to your lord and master) does have some redeeming features, otherwise you would have taken control of your life and left him? Since you don't seem to be doing financially too well with him in situ and run 3 businesses from home, taking control of your own life and preventing someone else from ordering you about would appear to be the obvious solution to your problems.

I don't know if I agree that its fair to blame other people (ie your husband) for your woes. If your husband works full-time, and you are based at home, is this entirely fair?
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ITs not that simple Mithras. When you are being abused its not easy to take control of the situation especially when there are young children to look after. I have been there .
 
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