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SatansLittleHelper

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I know selling my boy is the best thing to do as I just cant get on with him in the saddle. BUT...I love him and selling him is breaking my heart :(
My younger boy is my heart and soul and I love him like I have never loved another horse..he is 3 years old. I dont love the 5 year old the same but I feel sad, relieved and guilty all rolled into one. Is it normal to feel like this..??
Im just finding having two youngsters far too much for me...Im not a novice but my confidence is shot to pieces and my motivation with this horse has all but gone. Im raring to get started on the baby buy have no inclination for the older one. Sooo selling him is the right thing and maybe getting an older confidence builder to get myself straight before starting on the youngster..so why do I feel so rubbish..??
 
If its not the right horse for you then for your sake na dhte horses anew home and new owenr would be better.

Vet the people and the homes, then you have nothing to feel guilty about.
 
You are very much doing the right thing from what I read. I've always said I'd keep a horse for life until my last two (now that is depressing!) I got it wrong twice luckily they were perm Ioan and 6 mth trial but I still felt like I'd failed and was really sad about the whole thing. However once they were gone the relief was massive and such a weight off my mind. This is the tough bit but like the others said when the right person comes along it will all be ok x
 
Thanks guys. I guess I will feel better once he has a new "Mum" or "Dad" to love him like I do. I have had ALOT of response from his ad and have so far turned down 4 people for varying reasons. Someone is coming to view him tomorrow evening who sounds good and there is another excellent potential home.
I just feel sick everytime I think of handing him over :(
 
SatansLittleHelper said:
Thanks guys. I guess I will feel better once he has a new "Mum" or "Dad" to love him like I do. I have had ALOT of response from his ad and have so far turned down 4 people for varying reasons. Someone is coming to view him tomorrow evening who sounds good and there is another excellent potential home.
I just feel sick everytime I think of handing him over :(
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Poor you, I really feel for you, as I have been fortunate enough to be able to take the cowards way out and let Mum deal with it all for me :rolleyes: so that I don't have to see him and start upsetting myself. The thought of having to watch my boy being taken away makes me feel ill. I'm therefore not really qualified to advise, but I would say, just try and look past that point in time, to the more relaxed and stress free time that will follow. Then go and get drunk. :p
 
SatansLittleHelper said:
I just feel sick everytime I think of handing him over :(
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You'll be fine :smile3:

The thought of doing something is often far more debilitating than the actual action. You'll know when the right person comes along and your sadness will turn into joy when you know your horse is going to the best person who sees what you see in your horse but also a little bit more. Don't worry, just go with it, trust your gut feeling when you meet them and take time to see the connection they make. I find it easy to sell horses as I know myself that I won't let the horse go to someone who is not (in my mind) perfect for the horse. I'm always happy for them and to get those little emails once in a while with a couple of photos of the horse showing how great they are getting along makes it all worthwhile, and it's incredibly heart warming.
 
I cried my heart out when I decided to sell my lad. Then the new owners arrived, and they were wonderful, and they thought he was wonderful, and they will do far more with him than I ever could. I didn't shed another tear, and I was so pleased for him when I loaded him up to go off to his new life. I think you'll feel differently when you meet the right buyer for your boy. I definitely did!
 
SadKen said:
I cried my heart out when I decided to sell my lad. Then the new owners arrived, and they were wonderful, and they thought he was wonderful, and they will do far more with him than I ever could. I didn't shed another tear, and I was so pleased for him when I loaded him up to go off to his new life. I think you'll feel differently when you meet the right buyer for your boy. I definitely did!
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I did exactly this too. Had to sell my pride and joy as my dad was seriously ill. I gave up my job and moved in with his to be his full time carer. I had about 50 phone calls for my pony (Obviously under priced :P) and numerous viewings but I took my time. I cried every single time I got a phone call and after each viewing I was a wreck. Then a lovely family came and I found myself feeling excited for my pony. They kept me waiting all day to make a decision and I was so pleased for my pony when they said they'd take him! The day they came to collect him I was upset but didnt cry. They arrived and they asked if I wanted to load him and say goodbye. I said no, he's yours now and handed him over. Yes I was sad, but in a happy way?

I am still in touch with the lady years later which is also a comfort and I know he's having a fab and pampered life.

You will know when the right home comes along and it will make it easier xx
 
This mightn't make you feel any happier, but I am always excited for any horse that I decide to sell. I don't believe that I am the only person who is able to look after a horse, nor am I necessarily the best rider for the horse either; there are plenty of homes as good or better than the one I'm giving them. Horses need to move on for any number of reasons and I always endeavour to make them as eligible as possible, a bit like sending your kid off to college to secure a better future.
 
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