Feeling impatient. Anyone else?

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Arghhh horses! Feeling a bit horsed-out at the moment, both are being a bit hard work and it all feels terribly serious, lol!
Just posting to see if anyone else is feeling the same. Perhaps it's the coming of spring or something but I feel all out of sorts.

Had a tough winter in personal life but horses are feeling well and happy... a bit too well.. Kira was making great strides and is now in the season from hell and being an awkward little wotsit so I've had to rein in my plans for Novice Silver domination (haha!) and do some jumping instead.
Millie is just about on the cusp of getting her changes (when they are true, they are good, hurrah!) but it's a case of one day we can do them, next day we can't for love nor money.

Have to keep reminding myself that this will pass, Kira will get back on an even keel and Millie *will* get it, just have to keep plugging away. Just feels like we are going over the same ground day after day!

Don't think I'll bother riding today as it was a hacking day and the weather is lousy. Anyone else stuck in a rut?
 
Was feeling a little like that a few weeks ago.

Then horse went off colour, swollen glands, not himself. 3 weeks of groundwork and light lunging so I could assess him daily and now he's ready to ride and I can't wait :)
 
Was feeling a little like that a few weeks ago.

Then horse went off colour, swollen glands, not himself. 3 weeks of groundwork and light lunging so I could assess him daily and now he's ready to ride and I can't wait :)

lol, good point, I shouldn't complain or else one of them will go lame!
 
Yep - bored of going round and round in the school, the farm is still too wet to ride on and i cant hack out after work as the roads are too busy and its not light enough yet to go out after the evening rush!

I've been plugging away at Ruby's canter transitions for what feels like forever, some days they are brilliant, others she panics about them and they are bad, i know this will pass but its hard not to be defeated by it. when we are jumping or XC they are fine if a little weak still so i know they are there just on the flat they can cause a bit of a panic :(

Summer please hurry up!
 
Yep. I'm bored of getting rained on and only having 2 hacking routes available from the yard, one of them involving 500m on the main link road between town and the M4. And really struggling for time as they're back on every-other-day turnout.

Yard move on the cards for us, horse is going on full livery and double the distance away from me but we'll have hundreds of miles of off-road hacking so I'll deal with it :).

Horse is ready to go out and be competitive at Prelim and maybe have a bash at Novice but I just really cannot be bothered with all the faff of getting ready. The last 3 times we've tried to go XC schooling it's been cancelled at the last minute because the ground is too wet.

Moan, moan, moan, moan. Ignore me, I'm having a bad day!
 
I know how you feel, but it does pass and everything comes right again :). We spent most of last year feeling in a rut, but slowly our scores improved and we came out the other side. Didn't help that last year I had an oldie that was broken and the baby wasn't old enough for backing until the autumn, so everything was on Topaz.

Feeling a bit of a loss currently with the direction to go with Topaz, but at least our scores are improving still :D. Thinking of going to some clinics with her and getting some more opinions/ eyes on the ground, hopefully we can get a bit more motivation going. Starting to think I'm the only one who believes in the bonkers black beast but maybe I'm the only one that needs to.
 
Same here..... And the weather is so awful again, hasn't stopped raining since Friday :(

Hubby has missed the first three events over here, and not entered the third, and as we are having work done to sand school in a fortnight, I can see him not doing anything in the spring season at all..

Wee man had a great time at PC easter camp, but first rally tomorrow has been cancelled because of the weather :( and I really want to keep him going as he loses confidence v quickly if he doesn't ride for a while.

Fiona
 
I've been struggling with my health quite a bit so haven't got as much done with the horses as I would have liked. Asked one of the girls to ride a couple of them and I'd pay her but she rode one once and has never got back on (he wasn't even badly behaved) and there's no one else up at the yard that can help.

I went away playing horseball this weekend on my new horse (who tried so hard for me) and it's really given me a kick up the bum to get training not only for that but for some dressage and jumping.

Just need it to stop raining so the horses can be turned out and I can give myself a bit of a break.
 
I've been plugging away at Ruby's canter transitions for what feels like forever, some days they are brilliant, others she panics about them and they are bad, i know this will pass but its hard not to be defeated by it.

That's the thing, isn't it - seeing it as a phase rather than just the way it's going to be forever... easier on some days than others ;)

Moan, moan, moan, moan. Ignore me, I'm having a bad day!

Lol glad I posted now, sometimes it's good to get it off your chest :)

Starting to think I'm the only one who believes in the bonkers black beast but maybe I'm the only one that needs to.

Well, that probably is true (the 2nd part, lol) but clearly other people agree with you otherwise your scores wouldn't be getting better...

Same here..... And the weather is so awful again, hasn't stopped raining since Friday :(

Just need it to stop raining so the horses can be turned out and I can give myself a bit of a break.

^^ bit of a theme here :blue: hopefully it will improve again soon, bit of sunshine helps everything along and the wet weather just makes it all so horrible.

I've given myself the day off and will be back on message tomorrow :wink3: just got to keep on keeping on :rolleyes:
 
I want decent weather (which we have right now, it looks gorgeous outside) and some money for lessons and to not have to work so I can ride more. We're slow and steady but my confidence is shot; I constantly worry about him stumbling over uneven ground after we both had a fall about 18 months ago. I need to get out more and build my confidence back up!
 
:D Always nice to have the judges on side too :D. The weather always plays a big part for us, the sun is topaz's cryptonite :D, it's hard being black sometimes ;).

Just feeling a bit meh about things, I don't like snipy comments or put downs :(, makes me second guess myself!

Need to get the oldie fit and get a saddle for the baby, then me and mum can get out bouncing round the countryside :D.
 
:D Always nice to have the judges on side too :D. The weather always plays a big part for us, the sun is topaz's cryptonite :D, it's hard being black sometimes ;).

Just feeling a bit meh about things, I don't like snipy comments or put downs :(, makes me second guess myself!

no need to doubt yourself though, she's going well and improving all the time. You must be doing something right. But I totally understand the meh feeling. Hence the thread ;)
Understand the sun thing, Millie's headshaking comes back in the sunshine. There's always something against you :o Millie likes cool and slightly overcast days, Kira likes warm sun, you can't win!

Ha, I meant more that I think the break and reduction in pressure has done us both some good :)

yeah, fair point, but I would do well to remember that I'm lucky to *currently* have 8 sound legs between 2 horses and seize the day, haha!
 
Ugh, know the feeling! Totally unmotivated after a winter of slog slog slog! When will the weather be nice :(

Heard a great piece of advice though which I say to myself every time I have a bad session(s!) - "Remember when rising trot was hard?". Kind of puts into perspective how far we have come and that we can master new challenges, just takes time :)
 
Gosh, not like you Milliepops, you are always so positive (despite the setbacks). I love the way you ride, was watching a video of you only last night (no, I'm not a stalker). Chin up! Let me know if you are competing anywhere near and I'll come and cheer, buy you a coffee or just enjoy watching you. Still not got Mr B to a comp but he is a bit less of a stress head!!
 
Gosh, not like you Milliepops, you are always so positive (despite the setbacks). I love the way you ride, was watching a video of you only last night (no, I'm not a stalker). Chin up! Let me know if you are competing anywhere near and I'll come and cheer, buy you a coffee or just enjoy watching you. Still not got Mr B to a comp but he is a bit less of a stress head!!

Haha! It won't last. I'll get all motivated when I get some more entries in ;) just it's a bit pointless when kira's being so weird and millie is qualified at medium so no point going out again and I won't do AM again until the changes are fixed, it's a bit of a waste of money, lol
Got a 3 day stay at Adams at the end of the month but that seems like an age away!

& i caught your video, so good to see :)
 
Yeah I am feeling the same although more along the lines of I wish I could do more with the horse. I would love to have the confidence to jump him and canter a lot or to take him on hacks alone but currently don't. I am taking him to a show though at the end of April so it's a step forward. Feel like we are going nowhere but as others say the horse doesn't care if he is eventing.
 
MP you're most definitely not the only one! I struggle, every time we go out, we don't seem to improve very much despite putting in hours and hours of hard work and training at home. Sometimes I feel as though we will never be anything but last. It's sort of nice to know that someone I consider rather successful has doubts and frustrations too.

Just as I thought we were getting somewhere and had some plans in place to crack it, G goes and kneels on a flint so that's several weeks out of our schedule. Sigh.
 
I can't complain about the weather living in So Cal. However I am fed up of feeling like I am taking 1 step forward, 1 step back. I know I am lucky that with two young children I am able to keep my horse ticking over riding 4x a week but like today I was going to do grid work but he came out a bit stiff and by the time he had warmed up to my satisfaction and had trotted and cantered nicely down the poles 30 mins was up and I had to finish to get back home. I thought never mind I can start where I left off tomorrow morning but No, I have to sit in on my son's preschool class plus other things I need to do. Wednesday I can't ride either as my husband needs me to watch the boys and by the time Thursday comes along its going to take me the 30 min session again just to get the wiggles out of my boy from having 2 days off so if I am lucky I may get to jump but no doubt it will be warm up, quick pop a fence and finish agggghhh.
I am also fed up of having no hacking and no one to ride with. However the plus points are at least I *can* ride, I can ride around the 20 acre farm and have the arena to myself.
I think I would feel better if I could trailer out somewhere to hire some jumps or go for a hack or a show but I simply can't leave my kids for that long. When I compare us to two years ago when we were coming 2nd in USEA events and winning 1m jumping classes and now I am having to fight to get him to canter down a line of poles sensibly because he's bored and fresh I could cry.
However I know it is only for a short while, trying to give myself a break and tell myself I am a hero for having the energy to exercise my horse with an 8 month baby and a two year old!
 
Well, I'm absolutely getting impatient about getting out and about! Weather is good here at the moment, summer's inferno has all but left (although it did get to 31 today, over a month into Autumn...) the flies are gone, and my horse is going super dooper. We've been training solidly all summer, and we haven't been out since November. My lorry is being smartened up to sell and is currently in my Dad's shed, and my new trailer... well... it's a real fixer-upper. I'm sure she will look amazing once the OH has a few weekends work on her, but she's nigh unusable at the moment! So for once the horse is good, the weather good, the local good venues have good comps coming up, but I have no way of getting there! *sigh* maybe after winter...
 
You are not alone!

I do wonder if this time of the year is the hardest as we start to expect better weather after the long slog of the winter but it is not quite her.

I have a very enthusiastic pony at the moment which also makes things tricky (but fun!)

It will get better - well that is what I keep telling myself!
 
MP you're most definitely not the only one! I struggle, every time we go out, we don't seem to improve very much despite putting in hours and hours of hard work and training at home. Sometimes I feel as though we will never be anything but last. It's sort of nice to know that someone I consider rather successful has doubts and frustrations too.

Just as I thought we were getting somewhere and had some plans in place to crack it, G goes and kneels on a flint so that's several weeks out of our schedule. Sigh.

Bummer! Typical horses. Hope he heals quickly :) and yes, we all have doubts and frustrations! I don't think they ever go away, look how green some of the top riders look before competition ;)

Come on Milliepops- I love your AM dressage vids

Hehe don't think there will be any this time round, I'm on my tod most of the time :p

Rode Kira this morning before everything else got turned out, and she was much better behaved without another horse hooning around the field next to the school. Worth sacrificing a bit of kip for. Perhaps the end of that problem, at least, is in sight... Still have to be patient though, we haven't got many points left to play with for Silver Novice quals so every test has to count... no point going out until I *know* she's going to behave. too much pressure! Arghhh!
 
Yep, I believe it's the weather too! Sick of it raining, or being sunny but blowing a gale! Horses are fit and ready to jump, barring the youngster who is once again crazy! Can't wait to get the 2 mares back out doing a job instead of riding in circles in the school.
 
I have felt a bit fed up recently. Not for riding... Fig is going (touches wood) great guns in his work. It's just everything else!

He had an ulcer attack late last year and lost a lot of weight. Then did the splits in the field and was out of work for a short while (massive haematoma on butt!). Then the tree in my saddle went in Jan (again?!). He's since had another ulcer attack.

I've been struggling to get his feed right as there's plenty he can't have due to temperament and intolerances. His saddle was an obvious but expensive choice (my back is feeling O-L-D). He then decided he absolutely hated his double bridle so I've had a massive faff with bridles and bits (parrot mouth got the absolute OK from EDT).

So... With the saddle... The vets bills... Still not getting his feed right... I'm desperately hoping I've got it sorted now.

I constantly worry he's going to lose more weight, eat less, I'll waste more time money effort trying my hardest to set him right.

I think I've found the answer but I daren't say it out loud just yet!!!
 
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Stuck in a massive rut as Kai's been lame since the 8th January :( Nerve blocks and MRI this week though so hopefully we'll get to the bottom of it and get riding again. Only bought a trailer just before he went lame too - typical! At least it means I can get him to the vets without having to hire/beg lifts/etc.
 
I've been feeling totally unmotivated lately too! Riding in the arena isn't helping, over and over and over. like others not getting out to hack much as I've recently changed yards and not happy going alone too much as there is only roads which are busy in the evenings after work.

I currently have two so its double the arena work. I'm really getting bored of it as are the horses. Old yard had great off road hacking which I am starting to miss now. It was super handy when I didn't feel motivated.

A few people in the new yard have suggested I should sell the more difficult fella that I've put so much work into and we are starting to go great together. Really knocked my confidence as it was suggested in a way that I am not able or doing a good job on him. Asked a few good and honest friends and they said that I should ignore and that they all can see the difference in him and that I am doing a good job. I really don't want to sell but I hate being judged.

Still its knocked me a bit and made me less confident in my own abilities and wondering what its all about.
 
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