Feeling like a bad mother :(

[RubyFrench]

Hi everyone.

I've had my horse for 2/3 months now.. he needed some work when I got him, he's lost all his muscle on back end and top line as he had been out of work for 8 weeks. We were happy pootling around the fields and going on short hacks with some friends on the yard until one day he decided to plant me onto the concrete. Didn't ride him for 3 weeks waiting to get a new saddle for him as I thought his old one must be the cause for the bucking. When his new one arrived I was excited to get riding again until he bucked me off in the school. I'm now waiting to get his back checked so that's more waiting and no riding! And as he is on grass livery I'm feeling very miserable and guilty as I don't feel like going to see him some days (I do go every day) and feeling like I should of just bought a horse that was 'ready to ride' etc etc as don't know if I have the experience to bring him on.

There really is no point to this thread, just wanted to vent as feeling like a bad mummy for not wanting to go see my boy.

 

[Arizahn]

The main thing is that you are going

Don't be embarrassed to ask an instructor to work with both of you and help to get to the bottom of his bucking...his bucking isn't acceptable. As long as you explore all the possible reasons, then I don't see why you should feel guilty for being upset by it. I hope you get things sorted with him soon.

In the meantime, he's a horse; he's probably loving being out in the field. As long as you check him every day and keep working with him on the ground until you can ride him, then you are doing all you can, really. It's good that you are being patient enough to wait and get everything checked up.

 

[nirikina]

8 weeks is not a long time to be out of work. He shouldn't have lost too much fitness, especially if he's living out. Why was he out of work? And what was he doing before?

 

[smellsofhorse]

8 weeks is not long out if work.
My gelding was on box rest for 14 weeks and didn't look too bad after.

I suspect your horse was out of work longer, get teeth, back all tack checked, feed correctly to bring him back to health.
Exercise and fitting isn't just riding, do ground work to build up a bond and get him thinking, things like walking over raised poles with help stretch his legs.
Get an instructor to help and see things from the ground.

 

[RubyFrench]

Thanks everyone. Well I think he was out of work much longer too, and with me now time is pressing on! He was only used as a hack in previous home, home prior to that he did a bit of jumping and rc stuff. She said he was out of work due to lack of time but who knows if that is the truth! I will definitely be enlisting some one to help me once his back and tack have been checked! Thanks guys