Feeling really helpless

Tnavas

Tnavas

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so far away in New Zealand. The call I've been dreading for years - my brother rang to tell me, as soon as I heard his voice I new something had happened to mum, she's fallen and broken her hip and is in Stoke Mandeville Hospital awaiting surgery. She's 82 and I can't be there.

I've just spoken to her on the phone and she sounds in so much pain.

She had to wait ages for an ambulance to come from Milton Keynes to Amersham as there were no local ones available.

Please send her healing vibes - I love her so much and haven't seen her for several years now.

Love you mum get better soon.
 
It's so scary when that happens and they are only a few hours away. I can't imagine how you are feeling. Is there no way you can get over to see her?
 
jemima_too said:
It's so scary when that happens and they are only a few hours away. I can't imagine how you are feeling. Is there no way you can get over to see her?
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My passport has expired and being unemplyed I've no savings left. I will phone each day, my brother is close by and my sister an ex nurse is on her way from the west country. She will have masses of family there but its distressing not being able to see her.
 
so sorry to hear about your mum, you must be frantic with worry. do you have skype? if you do and one of your family does on a laptop they could ask the hospital for permission to take the laptop in and you could skype your mum, just an idea and no idea if it would be allowed.
 
If you have maintained a good relationship with your mum even after emigrating then I'm sure she'll understand. If interflora or similar is a bit expensive right now you could always ask one of your siblings to take something on your behalf and give them the cost price rather than delivery charges etc, etc. Even something cheap like a magazine can be much appreciated if she has long waits around for treatment and recovery.
 
Ibblebibble said:
so sorry to hear about your mum, you must be frantic with worry. do you have skype? if you do and one of your family does on a laptop they could ask the hospital for permission to take the laptop in and you could skype your mum, just an idea and no idea if it would be allowed.
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Thank you :D - never thought of Skype I have it on my computer and I think my brother does too.
 
Just to reassure you, Stoke Mandeville is a really good hospital. Much better than MK.

Hope your mum gets better soon. Dont blame yourself, these things happen and even if you had just been up the road you couldnt have stopped it.

(((((vibes)))))
 
Thanks for the vibes, mum through the op - now has a new hip joint - bionic mum!

Just the recuperation to go through. I've managed to speak to her twice now which is lovely, also caught up with my sister who is not easy to get hold of - crazy woman lives in a converted ambulance in the middle of a field!

Good things come out of bad :D
 
O E. I'm really sorry to hear that. Especially as you're usually so upbeat on here, was a bit strange to see that as the title of your post.

Lots of vibes for your mum. I'm sure she knows you're thinking of her and that will help keep her positive and make a speedy recovery
 
Thanks everyone - I love living in New Zealand so much but there are times when I wish I lived closer - I really miss my mum. I last saw her for her birthday about 8 years ago - I turned up unnanounced - it was lovely, her chin almost fell off her face in surprise. We spent two great weeks together including a trip to Paris - on the train.

She is one funtastic lady. Since I can remember she has given me an advent calender every year, even in NZ it arrives without fail at the end of November. Postcards from every day trip she goes on she maintains the link with home with so much love.
 
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