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I have created a new account as I do not feel I can post under my usual name.
I am pregnant with me & my OH's first children, he has now gone off to fight in afghan & i'm just feeling really low. I feel like there is no one here for me & am starting to wonder what is the point in me still being here.
Not really sure why I posted, suppose just need so reassurance
 
Oh hun, I understand that your OH going away must be intolerable, but you are having a baby :) Try to concentrate on the good things (I know this sounds cliched and trite). You can really throw yourself into your pregnancy even whilst on your own and your OH will love any update you can give him. And as for being alone - do you have friends / family you can spend some extra time with, chat with? You know on this forum you are never alone, any time of day, so keep posting and don't get so low. Easily said I know. Your OH must be feeling pretty much the same I suspect but you have a lot to look forward to - his home coming, the baby developing, planning your future. Chin up, try to be positive and keep busy, great times are ahead for 3 of you. xxx
 
I've got friends out there at the moment.
I really feel for you, when did OH go?
You've got so much to think about at the moment especially the little one inside!! Think about the things you will be able to do when OH comes home and all the preparation for the little ones arrival. I cannot speak from personal experience but your hormones will be all over the place too. Are you on a camp? If you are why don't you talk to the Families welfare office. Someone else may be feeling exactly the same as you and you could support each other.
 
Aww hun i can only offer you hugs and lots of them!!

what is the point in me still being here. Answer below

Your creating a beautiful new life for you and your husband surely there is your reason!!

If you want to chat PM me ((((HUGS))))
 
pretty-ponies said:
I feel like there is no one here for me & am starting to wonder what is the point in me still being here.
Not really sure why I posted, suppose just need so reassurance
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Firstly, there are lots of people here for you.
Secondly, of course you need reassurance! You are going through a hugely emotion time having a baby(babies?).
Hormones all over the place, and you are all alone at a time where sharing things with your OH is something you want desperately to do!
Then you are worrying about your OH being away from you in a dangerous place.
Is there no mother and baby group for army wifes/OH's near you? You would then be able to talk things through with other women in the same boat as you.
(((hugs)))
 
Hugs!!

Hot chocolate, with sprinkles and a flake (or whatever is your beverage of choice at the moment).

You are most definitely not alone! We're here for you :D. Not the same as your OH admittedly, but we don't snore or leave the loo seat up or dirty socks all over the place.

PM whenever you feel the need hunny.
 
Oh hun I can only send you big hugs and dont feel you are alone . And remeber you are carrying the most precious gift for you and your OH - concentrate on staying well and whilst hard keep happy thoughts of the future you have with your OH and your baby. Try and enjoy your pregancy and note every little movement just any little detail so you can tell your OH so he can share with you from over seas . Just hugs to you xxxx
 
More hugs!
It will be hard to be apart when you are expecting your first baby but Love can cross any divide, I really believe this, even when you are physically apart .
Be kind to yourself. This time will pass and you have so much to look forward to.
x
 
Big hugs to you and congratulations too!

You really are having a tough time, OH away, big scary experiance of your own and crazy hormones as well! Not good! There was something in the way you wrote though that struck a chord with me. When I was expecting my first child I felt awful, I used to think of killing myself and could even hear the train line over a mile away that I usually wouldn't notice, it was terrible. Anti natal classes were a night mare as everyone else was so excited! Finally I spoke to my midwife about it who diagnosed pre natal depression. Not so well known as post natal but just as awful. The good news is it only lasts till the baby is born, soon as I held my baby boy in my arms it was like the sun coming out finally.
Might be worth talking to your midwife? If you need to chat pm me. As others have said keep a note of all the little weird things that pregnancy throws your way so your OH can share in some of it, I dare say he is upset at missing out on it too.
Take care.
 
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