Feeling sad about loaning horse out :(

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I am 17 weeks pregnant now and have been looking for someone to loan my horse for a while. I can't sell him, I have had him 3 1/2 years and we've been through a lot and really bonded. Husband is happy for me to keep him provided I find someone to help while I am busy with baby.
So I advertised but the only person who is interested is a colleague's 13 year old daughter. So I have been giving her lessons with the plan that she will take over at end of October. I will still be around to help and be able to ride once a week until my bump gets too blobulous! She gets on with my horse REALLY well, she is keen and lives round the corner, she rides well enough and is calm, firm and confident with him which is exactly what he needs. He can stay where he is on the farm at my friend's house with her horse, so she will be able to supervise while I am not around. They live just behind her back garden so are completely safe!

I am now finding I am starting to get upset about handing him over to someone else! It's ridiculous because I know I can see him every day if I want to, and he will be happy and in good hands, and it's not forever!

oh drat these hormones!!!! Tea and choc digestives to all who are interested in my ranting!
 
Congratulations on expecting your baby!!

It must be very hard putting your pony on loan, but look at all the positives you pointed out!! Plus, he'll be kept in good condition for you to jump back on when you're ready!

I'm sure the girl will give him lots of love, and like you say, you can visit everyday. Being 13, and a daughter of someone you know, you can rest assured that he'll be ok.

Just remember it isnt for long, in the grand scheme, and he'll still be there when you've had the bubby.

Youre not handing him away at all, just sharing a lovely horse with a very lucky girl who will no doubt gain a good deal of experience from it too!!

Pregnancy gets all sorts of emotions flowing, I've been there! But enjoy it! :) xx
 
I know how you feel!! except I chickened out and put them out at grass (mine were 2 and 24 though :) ). You have almost the perfect situation for him though, if your hormones are like mine were you'll be fine about it tomorrow!

have you some haribo sweeties :) and remember you'll still be his mum and he won't forget you!! and your giving someone the chance to feel horse ownership but under supervision so when she comes to own her own.. she'll be much more prepared!
 
Know what you mean hun. I've just recently loaned mine out; he was a sweet, lovely boy - but for 19 times out of 20. The twentieth time (i.e. shows, hunting, public events etc) he was a total fruitloop; bronked, vertical rears, and every other kind of explosion possible. Also happens if people gallop near him anywhere else. Such a blimmin shame coz he suited me so well and I'd worked so hard on his various "issues" and thought we were getting somewhere, then we were doing some groundwork, which he didn't want to do! and basically threw his toys out of the pram and kicked me right in the stomach, so he had to go after that as I'd had enough.

I advertised him and had an amazing response; and he's gone now to a lovely girl who thinks he's great, and will be kept on a working livery arrangement which will sort him out coz basically I hadn't got the work for him.

BUT (and here's the heartache bit); she's only had him just over a week and already he's jumping whole courses and getting placed; something which I'd never have managed to get him to do!!! Grrrrggghhhh. Horrid beastie!

But this is the way it is sometimes; you have to be prepared if handing over a horse on loan, for the new "custodian" to do maybe better with the horse than you have, which is hard, very hard, and will break your heart, but sometimes it can and does happen.

Nice for you if this works out though, as you know the people plus he'll be nearby.

Good luck!
 
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