Feeling sad , owner wants loan pony back

It was totally unexpected to get the text on new year eve , I was upset and sad
But I have always been happy with loaning him and have enjoyed having lessons , schooling him , looking after him etc
I don't want to buy another horse at my age , so I am happy to loan , with whatever pitfalls and upset it entails
I understand teenagers change , that's absolutely fine . I just hope he lives up to her pony dreams and she looks after him well
 
Agreed that texting and timing was a crappy way to do it & understandably upsetting. It was a child when it happened to me, must be 22 years ago now and I can still remember how horrible and upsetting it was. I hope the pony is well cared for and that something else finds it's way to you.
 
wills_91 said:
OP I am sorry that you are having to say goodbye to your pony.

However, I feel some of the posts on here are a bit ridiculous. At the end of the day it's a loan and this is always a risk - I've had it happen to me so can fully understand the heartache of it. I also had 2 out on loan who I didn't visit once in 5 years. The loaner terminated the loan via text giving 2 weeks notice out of the blue 😬. It is perfectly normal/acceptable for a child to loose interest in something and then come back to it at a later date. Not sure how I'd feel if I stumbled across this post as the owner!
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Quite true, really. It's just the shock of hearing about it, imagining what it would be like and all that. I've certainly had some reactions.

Personally I think loaning is for the birds. I gave a very nice mare to someone who I knew from where I kept her, and this girl had her for 4 years and one day she rang me up. She told me how much money she'd spent on my horse over that time. She felt she really should be the owner. She didn't want to pay anything, she wanted me to give her the horse. I was taken aback.

I think this is a common feeling. I felt bad about things (and there was no reason why I should feel bad) and told her she could keep the horse. And that was fine. But for her to feel this way was somewhat ridiculous, but I suppose human. So that's why I think loaning a horse out is for the birds.
 
Lois Lame said:
Quite true, really. It's just the shock of hearing about it, imagining what it would be like and all that. I've certainly had some reactions.

Personally I think loaning is for the birds. I gave a very nice mare to someone who I knew from where I kept her, and this girl had her for 4 years and one day she rang me up. She told me how much money she'd spent on my horse over that time. She felt she really should be the owner. She didn't want to pay anything, she wanted me to give her the horse. I was taken aback.

I think this is a common feeling. I felt bad about things (and there was no reason why I should feel bad) and told her she could keep the horse. And that was fine. But for her to feel this way was somewhat ridiculous, but I suppose human. So that's why I think loaning a horse out is for the birds.
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I think arguing finance as being a reason to get given the horse you're loaning is daft. You know even before agreeing to the horse that you're making the financial commitment and that's before emotions even come into play.

If the owner of mine comes back again the only thing I would ask for is money for the fitted bridle and saddle which I bought myself. If not, they'll be coming with me.
 
TheLopingPony said:
I think arguing finance as being a reason to get given the horse you're loaning is daft. You know even before agreeing to the horse that you're making the financial commitment and that's before emotions even come into play.

If the owner of mine comes back again the only thing I would ask for is money for the fitted bridle and saddle which I bought myself. If not, they'll be coming with me.
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Yes, I agree, it's daft.

I was working out how old my mare was at that time while I was driving home from dropping off my daughter. This horse was 9 years old. She was in excellent and fit condition, had had one foal, was a nice sort of mare, blah blah blah. I did suggest at the time that this girl could buy her. Somehow it was decided that no, a sale wouldn't happen (they didn't want to for whatever reason) and so they picked her up (it's hard to remember now the details as this would have been in '83).

All was going swimmingly. I remember I went out and saw my horse once. She was at a beautiful place. (That place is a golf course now, sadly, and posh housing.) I remember going and visiting again in a new place she was at. I didn't like that place much but the mare was well. (This girl was very good in looking after the horse.)

And then that phone call, and the guilt I felt. Crazy business.
 
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