Finding a new horse friend for Little Lad

Gingerwitch

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Well - decided that the little lad has to stay, he has done his best to cheer me up since we lost the big lad last Wednesday.

I still cant face the stables on a morning, so the yard is turning the little lad out for me.

Poor little lad is so fed up without a friend though - he is a nutter when he is turned out with anything else - so it was perfect with the big lad as he was so quiet and just wanted to be left alone.

So decision is made a new friend will be found for the little lad - but where on earth do i start - as it costs as much to keep a good one as a bad one, then i will get something else to ride and compete - and that is a whole new ball game.

I know my heart is not in it - and a few good suggestions have been made, and possibly i will see if i can get a horse to keep the little one company over the winter - well i have to pay for the stable if i want to keep it, so it may as well be used for some poor mite - but then would i get too attached - what would happen if my perfect horse came up ? no way could i turn the "loanie" out into the cold and the snow.

Or do i say stuff it and let the little lad just put up with being on his own for 6 months ?
 
Is he completely on his own or can he see other horses? As long as he can see other horses he'll be fine once he's adjusted to the loss of his friend.
 
Why not just start putting out feelers and see what comes up?

I didn't want to look at another horse after I lost Tiggy, but then I found I had such a horse shaped hole in my heart that I needed to fill, so started looking. Looked at loads, with no clear idea of what I wanted, saw the Dizz and fell in love. The rest is history.
 
good to see you are beginning to focus on the future for little lad. why not try one of the rescues for a quiet companion and then if you did find a horse to ride , the companion could go back....perhaps just tell the rescue you want to loan for approx 6 months, that would give you breathing space and if you decide not to get something to ride you could keep the companion for little lad.....hope all works out for you ....
 
Im probably going to go against the grain here & say if your lad is happy on his own why not keep him on his own,in my experience sometimes introducing a new horsey friend can cause more problems than it is worth....seperation anxiety being my biggest phobia! Perhaps not rush into anything, just wait & see & enjoy spending some one to one time with your lad & then perhaps in the spring look for something to ride.There is no rush you have just lost your dear fella.xx
 
So glad to read this, it might not feel like it yet but you are beginning to come through it.

I was going to suggest a youngster from one of the charities because they expect to take them back to break until I read that you don't really want a youngster. however I'd bet that the charities will be pleased to put something on loan over the winter and take it back in the summer, unless of course you can find someone by word of mouth who needs somewhere for a horse locally.
 
Gingerwitch, what area are you in hun ?
I'd be more than happy to lend you my 3 year old New Forest filly until you find yourself another horse to ride/compete.
She is very good natured, isn't the type to fly around silly in the field and lives in or out.
If this would help you, you could loan her for as long as you needed to. x
 
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