Fitting Tribute or Memorial for a Lost Friend?

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I lost my old mare yesterday and I'm devastated. I'd had her 14 years and adored her.

I need to try and focus on something positive so I'm trying to think of a suitable way to remember her. Would love to hear ideas/suggestions for what other people have done. Unfortunately, everything happened so quickly that I didn't have time to take some tail hair. :(

So far I've thought about a memorial plaque to go up in her field, a nameplate for her old stable (don't know why I didn't do this when she was here), commissioning a piece of jewellery or even having a tattoo (don't have any tattoos so not sure about this one!).

Would love to hear what others have done to remember their old friends.
 
We have a tree in the yard, known as "Bella's Tree". We also provide a trophy at a local show, it is a memorial trophy in the name of her son. We also have two trees in the field in memory of our late parents, but the sheep keep trying to eat them!
We also have a weather vane which looks like another of our late mares, on top of the stable block.
 
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These are lovely ideas, thank you.

Planting a tree seems to be a popular idea. I also like the idea of a bench with a plaque somewhere where I can sit and remember her.
 
I had her front shoes turned into two interlocking hearts. I've turned some her tail hair into a cord to hang them up by. I'm also on the look out for an appropriate plant to remember her by ...something flashy and "look at me" just like she was.
 
I sponsored a Pony Club Trophy for a much beloved boy lost suddenly a few years ago. We were able to take tail and made hair - although I felt like I was mutilating the dead. Wish I'd had the courage to ask for shoes too - but its all such a blur when its an emergency. Sorry for your loss. Take some time. The right thing will come to you.
 
I've got a lavender bush, affectionately referred to as "Jim's bush", which his owner sent me after he was PTS a few months ago. It lives on my patio, and I think about him whenever I get a whiff of lavender!
 
I always plant a tree for my dearly departed pets. I also had a big canvas done of a collage of pics of my mare and more recently another canvas with a head shot of my mare and my more recently departed gelding. Makes me sad looking at it, but I felt I needed to be able to see them if that makes sense.
 
We will be planting an apple tree for our dog (we'll scatter his ashes there) and an acer for my mares at our current place. We're fencing off an area like a little orchard. I'm also going to put the stable plate I had for one of them with her name up there.
 
Sorry to hear of your loss.I lost both my veteran TB's over the last year or so.Both have their own small memorial gardens at the yard planted with lots of wild flowers.They are a lovely place to sit and remember them.
 
These are all really lovely ideas thank you. I think I shall plant something lovely in the garden for her but also have something in her field or on her old stable.

Thanks again for sharing and sorry to hear of so many lost treasured friends. x
 
I have sponsored a class/trophy at our local show in my boy's memory and had a quote rather than "in memory of" on the rosettes as I wanted it to be something positive.

I took a lot of his rugs to the Blue Cross and do the same every few years in memory of him.
 
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