Follow-up on sharing dilema..

[birdof1977]

Just a brief out line for all that didn't read the previous post...

I recently started riding a horse for someone, who IMHO hasn't got a clue. She told me that her mare was well schooled and really well behaved both on ground and ridden...
Well, turned out not to be the case, the horse (an extremely strong heavy weight cob) hadn't been ridden for 8 months, hadn't seen a farrier for nearly 10 weeks (barefoot Only needed a trim), was really bargy on the ground, and a menace to ride, rearing and spinning and ready to bolt when ever you try to leave the yard. Talking of the yard, this was a disgrace, mess everywhere, run down and generally an accident waiting to happen. Anything I suggested to the woman concerning her mare was poo-poo'd or excuses made....

.....So I finally phoned her yesterday and told her that things weren't working out (i'm not paying to put my life in danger any more), and she told me that she thought this was going to happen (probably because I went to the yard on monday and removed all of my belongings - hat, boots jackets etc - form the tack shed), but she said that it was ok because she had some people coming to have lessons on her this week, so she would still be ridden.

Well now I'm a bit angry TBH. Was she even going to tell me that she had arranged other people to come and ride her too. I know that it is her horse at the end of the day, but I was paying for most of her costs. I would have out of common couertesy(??) if anything. Plus this mare is seriously unfit, overweight and in desperate need of a good farrier.
I don't know where she going to be 'teaching' these people, the sand school is overgrown with weeds and needs de-stoning? I also hope that she has got really good insurance (doubtful if there is any). That horse is not a novice ride by any means. I've ridden some nightmare horses in the last 25 years, and usually with good results, but never have I felt that unsafe. Her mare is so strong, that its a real struggle to control her in a jointed pelham and standing martingale.

Do you think that my feelings are unjust, am I just being over sensitive, because things didn't work out for me??

 

[Chellebean]

I don't think your feelings are unjust but it does sound like you had a lucky escape hun! there is no point in riding a horse that makes you feel that unsafe.

Good luck in your new quest to find a new horsey

 

[ISHmad]

I too think you had a lucky escape. The woman sounds demented! There are plenty of genuine people out there needing a genuine sharer, hope you find the right match for you. Both in terms of the horse AND the owner!

 

[birdof1977]

Thanks guys.

I don't know what I'd do without advice and support from you lot sometimes. YOU'RE ALL GREAT (creep Creep).

My OH is soooo not horsey, but does tolerate my madness about them, bless him, and my kids are only just getting into it so they're no help. Plus since I moved to a new area a few years ago, I don't really know anyone in the horse world around my way, apart from a couple of the staff at my local riding school.

Keep up the fantastic work, all of you.
Thanks again.

 

[Ottinmeg]

sounds like a lucky escape you have had. Maybe, as the woman said she thought you were going to stop coming so went ahead and arranged for these other people to ride the horse. If the horse is as bad as you say then i hope she is insured to the hilt!

 

[birdof1977]

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sounds like a lucky escape you have had. Maybe, as the woman said she thought you were going to stop coming so went ahead and arranged for these other people to ride the horse. If the horse is as bad as you say then i hope she is insured to the hilt!

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Who Know's. She doesn't seem all that bothered about her. Oh well, Back to having my once a week lesson for now. Do enjoy them though, it's a great riding school with a good selection of horses, and my RI does make me work hard, so it's all good. I think I'm gonna ask them if they want any volunteers. Can't hurt I guess.

PS Horse in your sig is beautiful. Lucky thing.