Following on from My livery problems

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As some of you may remember, I took my livery back Free Of Charge, as she was having health problems a while back, and wasn't coping being on her own.
Well since she's come back, she's acted as if she owns the blumming place, then put my horse to bed in a turn out rug (which she doesn't wear) and without bandages (which she always has) ~ and I didn't know how to ask her to start paying livery.
So, gently bought the subject up the other week, and she's pleading poverty.... single mum, goes to posh coffee shop every morning, brings in her large latte & bacon croissant, grooms her arab, leaves a mess & f*cks off.
But tonight, has really, really upset me. I feed the horses every morning, and I usually bring in 4/7 nights, but my horse had to stay in today, and she'd agreed to finish off.
I've been down to check her (luckily on our farm), and she'd finished off her horse, and fed mine ~ but she hadn't put her bed down or given her hay, and she had NO WATER!!!

What should I do? I know the HHO lot will give good advice

Apologies for rant xxx
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Maybe a little word in her ear might do the trick.

Sounds like she is taking the michael to me. Maybe suggest that she start contributing or pulling her weight more.

Good luck x
 
Tell her that your not a charity and that she needs to sort out paying her livery by a certain date or she will have to leave. I think she is taking the p*** as she obviously thinks you won't tell her to leave.
 
If she can afford to buy latte etc every morning she can pay you something.Sorry but I think she is taking the mick!!And will continue to do so if you let her!Personally I would give her 4 weeks notice.
If someone gave me free livery(I wish!!)I'd be bending over backwards to be helpful.
 
I symathise with you, running a livery yard is not easy! but at the end of the day all our horses need to be looked after and loved and if you are being kind and genourous to her then she needs to realise this, so perhaps wen she swans in tomorrow with her coffee you should bite the bullet and have a gentle word and explain she's upset you, firstly pull the upset card and then if she still taking the michael time to give her altimatum (can't spell) I think you sound very kind take comfort in that, we all think ya kind and she taking the michael. Hows that sound?
 
Give her her marching orders. Be calm but firm and if she starts giving you any argument then tell her the subject is not up for discussion and walk away. Follow it up by sending her a letter confirming that she has been asked to leave and emphasising the date she has to leave your yard (obviously with fair notice). Keep that short and sweet too - don't go into any reasons for it.
 
Think you need to sit down and have a quiet chat with her. Perhaps give her an opportunity to explain why she didn't do your horse just to give her the benefit of the doubt. Maybe she misunderstood you or had some sudden health crisis. Unlikely but you will feel less guilty than if you let rip and she has a perfectly good excuse and you have to back down or apologise. I have the opposite problem of keeping my horse on a livery yard and finding her without water (and she hadn't had any for days, I had been ill and unable to get down, although she was on full livery so shouldn't have to check at all). I was in tears when I found her, she was so thirsty and I could have killed them to be honest so I can just imagine how angry you are. I'm moving yards as I found this to be totally unacceptable, trouble is when you can't trust someone either way and you end up checking up all the time, then there is no point any more is there? Good luck!
 
I agree with every one else and put it in writing.blimey even if she was paying and she left my horse with no water she would be OUT! (if i had a yard !!)
 
Well, you've tried 'gentle'... sounds like time to try 'straight to the point'! I think it would be more than reasonable to tell her to start paying in 4 weeks, or find alternative accomodation. Or if you really just don't want her around (she doesn't sound like a fabby livery tbh!) then give her her notice once and for all.

She may be short of funds (although this sounds debatable) but neglecting your horse is totally unacceptable, even if you weren't being so kind to her... Good luck!
 
I would tell her you want money from next week, she is taking the pee, if she pleads poverty tell her to leave, you arent a charity.

Like others said if I was getting free livery I would be doing everything I could to help out because I would be so grateful.
 
Thank you all.

I've spoken to Moodimare tonight (voice of reason), and after large glass of vino, I've decided that I will tell her that she starts paying livery, and doing normal yard chores.

I hate confrontation, but hopefully tomorrow I'll be able to say it's all sorted once and for all.

Thanks guys xx
 
Sounds like a conniving cow to me !! As someone else just said, if someone was kind enough to give me free livery when I needed it - I would be so grateful I would muck out with my teeth if necessary ...... she sounds awful !! She could at least repay you by helping.... I would have a final heart to heart with her. Tell her she either pays you by helping out, pays you financially or she has to leave.... she is taking advantage of your generous nature. Totally unfair.

Let us know what happens !! ........and good luck !!!
 
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