lexibell
Well-Known Member
Hi All
Just wanting some advice as to how to handle a situation.
I find talking about money difficult if Im honest, not sure why, just feels a bit like bad taste, so have been putting off a conversation with a friend, but I really need to address the issue now.
Since around last September/October a friend started coming to the field with me and riding one of my horses on a saturday morning. I thought this would be once in a blue moon type thing, but she started to come more and more often. At the time, going into winter with 2 horses to keep in work and a youngeter in need of handling and socialisation, I was happy to have her around, she would always offer to muck out stables etc after riding.
Weve been friends for quite a few years, but have now become quite close friends mainly due to the amount of time we spend together at weekends and I really value her friendship.
Trouble is, shes now coming twice a week, almost every week and commented the other day how she couldnt wait until the clocks changed so she could ride in the evening!
She has bought a few odd bits and bobs for the horse, headcollar, new brushes and numnah, but has never offer any financial contribution or significant time contribution.
She occassionally poo picks.
I feel a bit like Im keeping this horse for her to ride!!
I would like to ask her for a contirbution towards his keep, as the cost of hay insurance etc continues to rise, and my salary doesnt!! I have hinted a few times but she hasnt picked up on this, Im not sure how to go about ringing it up in a more forthright way without damaging our friendship.
I know I need to bring this up with her soon, as its grating on me a little.
also, for unlimited riding and minimal yard duties of a 14.2 9 year old dales pony, who is a dream to handle, no vices, bombproof in traffic and pops a couple of foot nicely, what would be reasonable to ask for moeny wise.
Sorry this is long, but just wanted to give the background as thought it might help. Ovaltine and Chocolate bourbons all round
Just wanting some advice as to how to handle a situation.
I find talking about money difficult if Im honest, not sure why, just feels a bit like bad taste, so have been putting off a conversation with a friend, but I really need to address the issue now.
Since around last September/October a friend started coming to the field with me and riding one of my horses on a saturday morning. I thought this would be once in a blue moon type thing, but she started to come more and more often. At the time, going into winter with 2 horses to keep in work and a youngeter in need of handling and socialisation, I was happy to have her around, she would always offer to muck out stables etc after riding.
Weve been friends for quite a few years, but have now become quite close friends mainly due to the amount of time we spend together at weekends and I really value her friendship.
Trouble is, shes now coming twice a week, almost every week and commented the other day how she couldnt wait until the clocks changed so she could ride in the evening!
She has bought a few odd bits and bobs for the horse, headcollar, new brushes and numnah, but has never offer any financial contribution or significant time contribution.
She occassionally poo picks.
I feel a bit like Im keeping this horse for her to ride!!
I would like to ask her for a contirbution towards his keep, as the cost of hay insurance etc continues to rise, and my salary doesnt!! I have hinted a few times but she hasnt picked up on this, Im not sure how to go about ringing it up in a more forthright way without damaging our friendship.
I know I need to bring this up with her soon, as its grating on me a little.
also, for unlimited riding and minimal yard duties of a 14.2 9 year old dales pony, who is a dream to handle, no vices, bombproof in traffic and pops a couple of foot nicely, what would be reasonable to ask for moeny wise.
Sorry this is long, but just wanted to give the background as thought it might help. Ovaltine and Chocolate bourbons all round