Found someone riding my horse on facebook! So angry!!!

millreef said:
It was a random person YES.
I feel like I'm being attacked by some of the posters on here!
I love my horse and for the past seven years I have spent three months a year riding and schooling him. For the time I am not riding him he is well looked after but NOT ridden.
PLEASE just ignore this post if you're going to be mean. I am very distressed about this and wanted to come onto the HH to share my anger and to hopefully feel better and not to be attacked.
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i wouldnt come on here looking for sympathy tbh, it seems to be like gold dust! :)

Hope you get the problem resolved. Id go crazy mental if someone rode my horse without my permission.
 
I would be upset to find a picture of some one on one of my horses without my specific permission OP, especially if you are paying for a service with specific instructions, so I understand why you are distressed and upset.

It must be very difficult being half a world away from an animal you care about, especially if the culture is different in how they see and value animals.
 
Adopter said:
It must be very difficult being half a world away from an animal you care about, especially if the culture is different in how they see and value animals.
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Thank you. Yes, you hit the nail on the head. This horse is so very, very special to me. And he's just another horse to them.
I know that people keep saying it's cruel to have him lunged and stabled but he's turned out daily and handwalked too. I give him everything I can when I'm not there.
 
millreef said:
This horse is so very, very special to me. An he's just another horse to them.
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The horses at the yard I mentioned were all known to the staff as individuals. The guys all had favourites and laughed at the horses little ways and things. If you feel your horse is considered an object than I really urge you to consider my earlier advice.
 
I feel for you OP and don't know why you are having such a hard time on this thread. No one should have ridden your horse without permission it is totally unacceptable for the YO to have allowed this to happen. Plenty of people leave their horses in other yards, like training yards, or retirement yards and expect the people who care for the horses to keep to the agreement. Hope your husband can sort this out.
 
I'd be ripping mad if someone was riding my horse without my permission, am i right in that your horse is stabled in Morrocco but turned out for periods daily and worked on the lunge or hand walked for execise ? If so, dont see the care as a problem, many horses are turned out and only see the inside of an arena for exercise, not ideal but not cruel, i do however see it as a problem for you that your horse is so far away, and have lost trust in the people who've allowed this to happen, can you not have him supervised and visited by someone you trust or move him ? Not a great position to be in op :-(
 
Not sure why everyone is going on about only being stables and lunged when the OP has stated about 4 times since that he is turned out. By all means state your opinion but read the thread. I agree it is a bizarre situation to most of us but the OP clearly adores this horse. I don't imagine many of us can imagine what it must be like to be in her position or why she has to keep her horse like this. If someone was working away but keeping her horse on full livery in the UK I think the responses would have been more sympathetic.
 
I really get your upset because basically you aren't getting what you paid for.

What I would do as a horse owner that loves my horse, is that when I am with him during the summer, I would try and find someone I could trust to ride him. That way when you're there you can make sure they get along with your horse. If you really sit and think about it it may be the best option for your horse. I would do just that and I love my horses too. Clearly he likes being ridden. Then you could get pics and videos from FB and you'd know all is ok.

What I wouldn't is go all guns ablazing where he currently is. I agree rant away and get it all out but be firm in what you expect yet not rude.

Terri
 
millreef said:
I rescued him from a very bad situation. I am the only one who rides him when I am there but I cannot trust anyone to be sympathetic enough with him when I'm not there. He isn't just stabled and lunged. He's turned out and handwalked too. Please don't judge me. I love my horse and don't want anything wicked to happen to him as happens to all the other horses I see in Morocco. He's my special horse.
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So bring him home to the uk where he can be looked after solely by you.
 
Also in extreme heat like that in Morocco it is fairly cruel to leave an animal out 24/7 the sun and the flies are terrible and given the choice most animals will seek covered shelter for protection.
 
Facilities for horses are extremely limited in Hong Kong, with insanely expensive livery with no turn out - I suspect that is the OP's problem with transporting the horse all the way to Hong Kong.
 
My geography is terrible but is there anywhere is even vaguely sensible transport distance of morocco where you could take him OP where you think they would have a better culture of horse care.
If you don't see him 9 months of the year does it matter if he's in Morocco or France or South Africa etc..... (please don't take the mick out of my geography knowledge!!)
 
millreef said:
I'd appreciate it if you could offer help and not attack me.
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Golly don't be so melodramatic. Yes we all understand you are upset, and I agreed no one should be riding your horse without your permission. I suggested you find someone (perhaps the person riding him in the photo) to ride and look after the horse. I also suggested you phone them up and tell them to stop riding the horse. What exactly can your husband sort out by going all the way to Morocco from Hong Kong, if, as you say, there are no other livery stables around? Surely the only course of action is to phone up the yard owner and ask what the heck is going on and tell them you don't want anyone riding your horse?
 
i think a lot of people are mis-reading the origonal post and presuming your horse is stabled 24-7 except for being lunged, which then makes them think he must be bored and would benefot from being ridden. but as you have clarified, he is turned out and walked in hand.

can't really give any helpful advice i'm afraid. but i do feel for you :( i also would be upset if someone rode my horse without permission. but sadly you are far away. i would still no right off the yard your horse is it, as you know that they care for your horse, as i presume after 9 months you see he is fit and healthy? but i would simply call them, be truthful. they may just not think it was a big deal- they know your horse is sound and ride-able and that you are not around for 9 months, so may not think of it as a big deal someone else just riding him. you need to ensure they know this- if anything they may think they are doing you a favor- he is ridden without charge! (sounds silly but that may be their thinking- completely innocent, not that they are bad and taking advantage- may be they are, but they could just not realize it is an issue)
communicate with them.
 
pippixox said:
i think a lot of people are mis-reading the origonal post and presuming your horse is stabled 24-7 except for being lunged,
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No one misread the original post. She clearly states that the horse is *just lunged and stabled*. Absolutely no mention of turnout in her original post.
millreef said:
I have him stabled in Morocco and only ride him in the summer months when I'm there. The rest of the time he's just lunged and stabled.
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amymay said:
Ok. So take him to Hong Kong - especially Iif you're only riding him in Morocco for 3 months.
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Why should she have too ? due to circumstances the cost to the op to do this more than once a year would be collosal, surely if shes paying for specific care its not unrealistic to expect to get it. I feel some are being very judgemental here, op i hope you get it sorted out soon
 
Marydoll said:
Why should she have too ? due to circumstances the cost to the op to do this more than once a year would be collosal, surely if shes paying for specific care its not unrealistic to expect to get it. I feel some are being very judgemental here, op i hope you get it sorted out soon
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All fair comments.

However OP has stated that Moroccons don't treat horses well. And only sees it for 3 months a year. Surely the obvious thing to do is to keep it in the country you reside in for the majority of time. Especially one that is so loved and cherrished.
 
There may be other reasons that the horse cant be moved, i always think people are jumped on in this forum no matter what they do, theyre dammed if they do and if they dont.
Op has given this horse a home and trying to ensure a good future in a country like Morrocco, that alone should be admired, paying for and expecting to get the care is something we all do, its a shame its went pear shaped
 
I can understand your anger OP, they should have asked permission if they wanted to ride or not done it at all. However, you don't know the full circumstances and it could have been totally innocent. Maybe they can actually help you out with your horse?

You mention how much you love this horse, but yet you only see it for 3 months of the year? The rest of the time the horse is just an ornament. Personally, I think you need to bring it to Hong Kong and at least then you'll have full control over its care (sorry, not sure if a gelding or mare?) and you can actually ride more or sell to someone who will devote more time and love and even bring out it's full potential.

I guess it's hard for anyone else who see's their horse everyday/every week and puts in lots of time and love, compared to someone who lets someone else look after it for most of the year then rides when it suits.

I might get bashed for that, but it's just how I see it.
 
Feel for you, there is no way someone should ride your horse without your permission, however you can't prevent it if you are not there 9 months of the year, I'm betting this is not the first time he has been ridden withobut your knowledge
 
gembear said:
I guess it's hard for anyone else who see's their horse everyday/every week and puts in lots of time and love, compared to someone who lets someone else look after it for most of the year then rides when it suits.

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really? the horse has not been abandoned in a field, owner is paying for full time care! as far as we know this horse's needs are being met, its probably better off than my lot living in a quagmire atm.

sorry OP, not sure why you are having such a hard time. if someone had posted a thread about this happening to their horse in the UK, they'd be told to get the guns out. I don't blame you for being upset.
 
I can understand that you feel upset that someone else has ridden your horse.

As others have said though, if you have very limited involvement with your horse surely it's understandable that others might get attached when they are providing day to day care? It could all be well intended and not malicious or harmful to your horse.

Would you be happy to let someone else ride him/ her if you had vetted them?
 
I know the feeling - I saw photos of a girl on my horse out hacking with everyone. A week before she admitted to jumping him, I said she wasn't allowed to ride him and so from then on I got phone calls to check when I was going to the yard. Soon realized that was when she rode him. Now moved yard. Its infuriating!
 
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