dark_prince
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Me and a friend had been helping each other out with our horses since Sept. At first we had organised I would do Mon-Fri mornings as I live closer to the yard than she does, and she would do Sat and Sun mornings as I work all weekend.
At first it was fine and worked well, but then she got a sharer who would do Saturdays. This left me doing Mon-Sat for her, and she would do Sunday for me. Sharer gave up after 2 months so all went back to normal. Again, fine. My friend then offered to do Thursday mornings as she was now able to use her car for that morn.
Since November now, my mother has been pointing out how much I do for her, but I hadn't really noticed or bothered as I don't mind helping her out as she did do me a few favours in return. However, the couple of weekends ago we went out on a night out..late night etc. I ended up going up to T/O before work and she stayed in bed. I didn't really think anything at the time but I know I should have made her do it seeing as she had the day off..
Inbetween all this, I have had a family member come with me to pick up haylage and shavings in bulk for the both of us. I feel bad asking for favours from him now as he hasn't had so much as a thanks from her.
Between all this, she has had an old injury that has become a problem again. It has meant that the doctors have said she isn't to ride for 3 months and she potentially needs an op in Jan. I feel awful for her and know she must be cut up about it, but I now feel she is taking her frustration out on me.
At the weekend we had shared a few words about who would turnout on Sunday morning. She said she couldn't as she would be working on Sat night til 11.30 pm and would be too tired. I said I was sorry, but we had an arrangement and I couldn't as I started work at 8am on Sun. She ended up doing that morning but asked if I would be able to bring our horses in that night, even though I was at work til 6pm. I said yes, even though, again, I knew I shouldn't have. That night they were loopy and I could barely catch my horse, with 2 others helping me. Hers was galloping round like a madman. I tried, but couldn't get her horse. I then text to tell her and she went mad. Like really over the top. A lot of nasty comments about how I am determined to make things difficult for her when she's not supposed to be around horses as it is.
I feel really shocked, upset and angry. Would like some advice on how to patch things up and deal with this. I am fine to do everyday, though it will be a strain, but I can't go back to running round after her because she simply can't be bothered.
Tea and mince pies for anyone who has got this far and is willing to throw something useful at me! Think this time of year is too stressful!
At first it was fine and worked well, but then she got a sharer who would do Saturdays. This left me doing Mon-Sat for her, and she would do Sunday for me. Sharer gave up after 2 months so all went back to normal. Again, fine. My friend then offered to do Thursday mornings as she was now able to use her car for that morn.
Since November now, my mother has been pointing out how much I do for her, but I hadn't really noticed or bothered as I don't mind helping her out as she did do me a few favours in return. However, the couple of weekends ago we went out on a night out..late night etc. I ended up going up to T/O before work and she stayed in bed. I didn't really think anything at the time but I know I should have made her do it seeing as she had the day off..
Inbetween all this, I have had a family member come with me to pick up haylage and shavings in bulk for the both of us. I feel bad asking for favours from him now as he hasn't had so much as a thanks from her.
Between all this, she has had an old injury that has become a problem again. It has meant that the doctors have said she isn't to ride for 3 months and she potentially needs an op in Jan. I feel awful for her and know she must be cut up about it, but I now feel she is taking her frustration out on me.
At the weekend we had shared a few words about who would turnout on Sunday morning. She said she couldn't as she would be working on Sat night til 11.30 pm and would be too tired. I said I was sorry, but we had an arrangement and I couldn't as I started work at 8am on Sun. She ended up doing that morning but asked if I would be able to bring our horses in that night, even though I was at work til 6pm. I said yes, even though, again, I knew I shouldn't have. That night they were loopy and I could barely catch my horse, with 2 others helping me. Hers was galloping round like a madman. I tried, but couldn't get her horse. I then text to tell her and she went mad. Like really over the top. A lot of nasty comments about how I am determined to make things difficult for her when she's not supposed to be around horses as it is.
I feel really shocked, upset and angry. Would like some advice on how to patch things up and deal with this. I am fine to do everyday, though it will be a strain, but I can't go back to running round after her because she simply can't be bothered.
Tea and mince pies for anyone who has got this far and is willing to throw something useful at me! Think this time of year is too stressful!
