*FUMING*

Yes i haven't ridden for ages and i'm coming back into riding. I'm having a small ride tomorrow but nothing that'll make me be able to compete or anything. I'm not here to get pity i'm just here to rant and talk to people about how i feel.
 
SamanthaUK said:
I'm planning on. I've got a 'horse fund' going. Well there's nothing in atm but I WILL put money in. I just think, If i get one when i'm 20 or so, i'll be too old to ever get into the event world. And i won't be able to try for those 3/4* events. I'll just be going to local shows. :(
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Too old? I don't bloody think so! I'm pushing 40 & still fully intent to run at 4 star before I'm through! Don't wish your life away before it's even begun!
 
FionaM12 said:
I don't know much about eventing, but why would 20 be too old? :confused:
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Everyone has misunderstood what i meant.
I don't mean 20 year old is too old. What i meant was, If you start eventing ad 16 then you can work your way up to be more well known and have more oppertunities.

It doesn't matter.
 
SamanthaUK said:
Everyone has misunderstood what i meant.
I don't mean 20 year old is too old. What i meant was, If you start eventing ad 16 then you can work your way up to be more well known and have more oppertunities.

It doesn't matter.
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If you have the potential and determination it doesn't matter how old you are, I think that is what everyone else is trying to tell you.
 
grumpyoldmare said:
Are you hoping someone on here might give you a horse - to go with all the gifts of riding gear that you are cadging?:rolleyes:
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Certainly not! I am not 'begging' or 'scrounging'. In fact I am offended. Why would you think that. I do not, I repeat, DO NOT enjoy asking for riding things. It makes me sound poor and ''Worse off''. I meerly asked for a few things, you know johdpurs and gloves.

What I don't understand is why you've decided to judge me when you don't know me at all. I think it's disgusting.

I am most definatly not 'asking for a horse' at all.

You don't know me at all, I'll grant you that. But to judge a book by its cover? Get to know me before you judge and have ago at me.
Thanks.
 
SamanthaUK said:
Certainly not! I am not 'begging' or 'scrounging'. In fact I am offended. Why would you think that. I do not, I repeat, DO NOT enjoy asking for riding things. It makes me sound poor and ''Worse off''. I meerly asked for a few things, you know johdpurs and gloves.

What I don't understand is why you've decided to judge me when you don't know me at all. I think it's disgusting.

I am most definatly not 'asking for a horse' at all.

You don't know me at all, I'll grant you that. But to judge a book by its cover? Get to know me before you judge and have ago at me.
Thanks.
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mmmm...shall follow your posts with interest......all is not as it seems..;)
 
SamanthaUK said:
Certainly not! I am not 'begging' or 'scrounging'. In fact I am offended. Why would you think that. I do not, I repeat, DO NOT enjoy asking for riding things. It makes me sound poor and ''Worse off''. I meerly asked for a few things, you know johdpurs and gloves.

What I don't understand is why you've decided to judge me when you don't know me at all. I think it's disgusting.

Thanks.
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Don't you worry yourself. Having a good flaming is all part of the welcoming process on this forum. Buckle up for the ride, grow a thick skin and you will love it as much as we do. ;)
 
I find it hard to sympathise. I have always been besotted with horses. I did have a horse for a while at your age, but he was an aged, sweet boy who could never have competed at anything. I loved him dearly. However, I was also very ill (I had been since aged 5) and spent big chunks of time in hospital. Friends cared for him when I couldn't

I was eventually diagnosed as incredibly allergic to horses. I tried to ignore the doctors' warnings and very nearly died. At that point, I re-homed my old boy and gave up with horses for 35 years. It broke my heart.

Now I'm 55 and finally have recovered (almost) from the allergy. I have an aged horse again. I'm extremely happy about it. I love horses, whether they win prizes or not.

I find it hard to sympathise with a 16 year old who's having a paddy because she might not get to be a top eventer as soon as she'd like.
 
Sitting in the car staring at ponies and thinking your life sucks won't help you get where you want to... at the age of 14 i was messed around with people giving me horses to ride that had problems and promised me that i can compete said horse if i fix it, so i did, days of riding in horrid weather, fighting with the bloomin thing and a few falls, i fixed it thou. so the people sold it before i could compete it, even had the cheek to sell it without even telling me so i turned up to ride it and they said 'sorry it was sold yesterday'. so then i got a psycho horse that nearly killed us both on multiple occassions and then someone lovely spotted me and took pity, let me ride her horsies, i worked my utt of for her cuz i was so grateful, so she helped me get my first horsey on loan, she's now also my best m8. what i'm trying to say is, you wont get a horse handed to you, you have to work really hard to get one, start now :)
 
FionaM12 said:
I find it hard to sympathise. I have always been besotted with horses. I did have a horse for a while at your age, but he was an aged, sweet boy who could never have competed at anything. I loved him dearly. However, I was also very ill (I had been since aged 5) and spent big chunks of time in hospital. Friends cared for him when I couldn't

I was eventually diagnosed as incredibly allergic to horses. I tried to ignore the doctors' warnings and very nearly died. At that point, I re-homed my old boy and gave up with horses for 35 years. It broke my heart.

Now I'm 55 and finally have recovered (almost) from the allergy. I have an aged horse again. I'm extremely happy about it. I love horses, whether they win prizes or not.

I find it hard to sympathise with a 16 year old who's having a paddy because she might not get to be a top eventer as soon as she'd like.
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I'm not having ' a paddy '. I was having a rant/argument/conversation. Call it what you wish. I'm not wanting a 'TOP EVENTER as soon as i'd like' I would actually just be happy with an elderly shetland pony. I want a horse/pony in which i could spend ages grooming and taking for walks. (Leading if it's not rideable) Again, I'm very sorry you feel that way.
And i'm not looking for sympathy. I'm just having a rant.
 
SamanthaUK said:
Thank you Ringworm! I just don't like been judged when nobody knows me.
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That's a fair comment, but you have judged others in your OP. It's impossible for you to be aware of all the different financial circumstances and lifestyles of all these 'lucky' horse owners. Perhaps they have demanding jobs, work away from home, study at Uni, have children to look after, or elderly parent to support?
 
shiny-ISH said:
Sitting in the car staring at ponies and thinking your life sucks won't help you get where you want to... at the age of 14 i was messed around with people giving me horses to ride that had problems and promised me that i can compete said horse if i fix it, so i did, days of riding in horrid weather, fighting with the bloomin thing and a few falls, i fixed it thou. so the people sold it before i could compete it, even had the cheek to sell it without even telling me so i turned up to ride it and they said 'sorry it was sold yesterday'. so then i got a psycho horse that nearly killed us both on multiple occassions and then someone lovely spotted me and took pity, let me ride her horsies, i worked my utt of for her cuz i was so grateful, so she helped me get my first horsey on loan, she's now also my best m8. what i'm trying to say is, you wont get a horse handed to you, you have to work really hard to get one, start now :)
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The same thing happened to me. I used to look after a 3 year old COB X Trotter. I was helping to break him in to drive and I looked after him. With the promise i could have him, do what i wanted with him etc..

So anyway, One day, 7 months after i'd been looking after him, I went down to the stable to find a note saying, ' Sorry Sam, Charlie was sold yesterday. We didn't have it in us to tell you. '
I burst into teard and ran home. This was last year and it seriously knocked my confindence. But now, as you can see it is making me want a horse more than ever.
 
Your posts make you sound like a rather immature 20 yr old. By the time I was your age I had been working on yards for over 5 years. I did not have a horse, could not afford driving lessons or a car and would accept ANY ride offered to me. I have ridden enough horses (usually the ones no one else would ride) for other people, usually the fittening or "boring" schooling, then when they are up and ready to go compete the owner takes over. I have taken pride in my part of the process in getting the horse to the stage it is ready to go out and compete.

20 years on.......I can just about afford a car, I work all the hours teaching others to ride so that I can afford to ride my own horse. This is the first competition horse I have owned and we are starting from the bottom and working our way up.

I have worked for international riders and learned so much from keeping my eyes open and my gob shut unless it was to ask a well thought out question. I accepted long ago that I am not ever going to set the competition world on fire but I am savouring every moment I have with my horse, because believe me over the years I have seen how even the most well looked after horses can cause heartache. I cherish every ride, even a quiet hack and when I look at my horse I am just grateful I am lucky enough to have him in my life.

SO you came to rant...fair enough....but your attitude comes across as spoilt and sulky and wanting things handed to you on a plate and for everything to be immediate.

Life is not fair...get over it
 
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SamanthaUK said:
I'm not having ' a paddy '. I was having a rant/argument/conversation. Call it what you wish. I'm not wanting a 'TOP EVENTER as soon as i'd like' I would actually just be happy with an elderly shetland pony. I want a horse/pony in which i could spend ages grooming and taking for walks. (Leading if it's not rideable) Again, I'm very sorry you feel that way.
And i'm not looking for sympathy. I'm just having a rant.
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If that is what would make you happy, then it would have been an idea to re think how you came across initally, you did sound a bit of a brat! I would def get in contact with your local RDA, they are often crying out for help, you will get pony time and it is incredibly rewarding! Even if you can only manage an hour a week they would be grateful. I would also call your local riding schools and see if you can help with mucking out/tacking up etc to help you get your horsey fix.

Being without a horse when they are what you love is hard, but it is also how life goes. Sometimes to get the things we want the very most we have to wait longer than we think is reasnoble. Makes the achievement all the sweeter though!
 
DH1 said:
That's a fair comment, but you have judged others in your OP. It's impossible for you to be aware of all the different financial circumstances and lifestyles of all these 'lucky' horse owners. Perhaps they have demanding jobs, work away from home, study at Uni, have children to look after, or elderly parent to support?
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That's a fair comment too. I respect you for pointing that out. Yes, I don't know their financial situation or their school life/work life etc..
I know it is wrong to judge and i'm deeply sorry!
 
I'm extremely sorry. I didn't wish to come across as a spoilt brat. I love horses and ponies more than anything. And i'd give anything for them!! I promise. I'm nothing like a 'spoilt brat'.
 
SamanthaUK said:
Certainly not! I am not 'begging' or 'scrounging'. In fact I am offended. Why would you think that. I do not, I repeat, DO NOT enjoy asking for riding things. It makes me sound poor and ''Worse off''. I meerly asked for a few things, you know johdpurs and gloves.
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begging

scrounging

OK, so how would you define asking for riding gear from people you don't know from Adam?
 
Im sure there are lots of people who dont have enough time to ride that you could approach...

You cant judge other peoples financial situations...if they arent at the yard to bring their horse in, they are probably stuck in an office somewhere, wishing they could get down to the yard....i know i used to be one of them!
 
You know what? I can't take all those people having a huge go at me. STILL.
I've apologised and I meant it.

The johdpur thing is just a one off and i'm desperate.
I didn't realise everyone would have a go at me. If i knew i wouldn't have done it.
 
Lu1 said:
Im sure there are lots of people who dont have enough time to ride that you could approach...

You cant judge other peoples financial situations...if they arent at the yard to bring their horse in, they are probably stuck in an office somewhere, wishing they could get down to the yard....i know i used to be one of them!
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Yeah I know. I feel bad for them. I wasn't writing this post to judge at all.
 
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