Gelling with a new horse!

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Coldfeet!

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Hi,

I rehomed my little slightly built section D I have posted about earlier, I was totally obsessed by him, I backed him myself and he was supposed to be my life partner but didnt really make the height, certainly didnt make the build, I let him go to a wonderful new home and he is doing well.

Fast forward 3 weeks!

I am a firm believer in things being meant to be and I, through word of mouth, (after going and meeting a few on my shortlist, I never tried any as I just didnt "feel it" with them on meeting them, and I wouldnt waste anyones time) was put in touch with a horse that couldnt have been more perfect if I had written a list of wants and musts!

Passed the vetting, got him home, but I just couldnt gel with him, I think I was still greiving for my last one and couldnt focus.
This poor boy hasnt put a foot wrong and finally I am starting to like him. I dont love him yet but he has really given me my confidence, Im enjoying riding him, I can sing his praises, I just wish I would hurry up and get to the stage where I realise how lucky I am and I can love him as much as my last boy.

Anyone else taken a long time to gel with their horses?
 
It usually takes me eighteen months to two years before I'll let myself stop seeing a horse as "on probation" and feel like we're long term partners.

It's so much more sensible to buy with your head than your heart, I'm sure you'll be great together.
 
I have a new mare (really for OH to learn on) who is the model of good behaviour, lovely face, sweet horse, but I don't yet have the bond I do with my gelding. But then again he's a complete softy and I've had him since 6 months old so it's not surprising. Plus the mare she replaced was one of the family, I'd had her 28 years. I don't worry about it, she's happy, I'm happy, it'll come with time.

Having said that I once owned a mare I never really bonded with. Nothing wrong, she was just not that kind of horse!

I find just spending time doing nothing with them makes a big difference. Watch them in the field, graze them in hand, blah blah...
 
Coldfeet! said:
Hi,

I rehomed my little slightly built section D I have posted about earlier, I was totally obsessed by him, I backed him myself and he was supposed to be my life partner but didnt really make the height, certainly didnt make the build, I let him go to a wonderful new home and he is doing well.

Fast forward 3 weeks!

I am a firm believer in things being meant to be and I, through word of mouth, (after going and meeting a few on my shortlist, I never tried any as I just didnt "feel it" with them on meeting them, and I wouldnt waste anyones time) was put in touch with a horse that couldnt have been more perfect if I had written a list of wants and musts!

Passed the vetting, got him home, but I just couldnt gel with him, I think I was still greiving for my last one and couldnt focus.
This poor boy hasnt put a foot wrong and finally I am starting to like him. I dont love him yet but he has really given me my confidence, Im enjoying riding him, I can sing his praises, I just wish I would hurry up and get to the stage where I realise how lucky I am and I can love him as much as my last boy.

Anyone else taken a long time to gel with their horses?
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I have had my pony for coming up to a year now and am just at the stage where I have bonded well with her. Before I was still grieving for letting my other horse go and I kept comparing the whole time and couldn't get him out of my head. She was also very difficult at first, so this didn't help. We know have a great time out and about and she has really given me back the joy of riding. Sometimes it just takes time, especially when you haven't gotten over the previous one.
 
I can't "quote" for some reason! LOL

Yes I definitely bought with my head this time, Im usually led by the nose by my heart! LOL Funnily enough non of my past horses were ever the right horse and the horse that was right for me in the past was lame a lot and had bad health so I never got to really enjoy her in all the long years she was alive.

I do feel like there is a "probation" period going on, I want to throw my whole self in but having just parted with a much loved pony I dont want to go through that again ever so I suppose being more aloof is making me test him without the emotion and once I know he is the one it will all just click.

He is silly and cheeky like my last boy so I dont suppose it will be very much longer before I succumb to the love thing.

I suppose its all a matter of time! Glad im not the only one who didnt have the instant rose tinted specs of love at first sight!
 
Got my horse in may and took me till about august/september to really gel with him and trust him and he was the same really well behaved
 
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