horses99
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I had a fall two months ago SJ after misjudging a long stride to an oxer and landing on a fence resulting in a broken bone! I am now riding on the flat fine and although SJ a bit hesitant shes confident and even if a bit strong she takes me round confidently. Happily jump 80cm course with her and she hasnt stopped sj since the fall.
However xc has now become our bogey phase. She has started stopping at fences with little or no excuse for it and it is slowly stripping my confidence every time we go. I have been 3 times in the last month and half. First time 1hr 30 session working small fences 70/80 (previously 80/90) having 3 stops but otherwise not too bad. Second time at an event stopped at a ditch and refusing to jump it (she could have walked it!) and stopping at two further fences probably after that upsetting her. Third time went today stopped at a 60cm warm up fence. I went with a trainer to the same place as the first time and she stopped 10/20 times some of which she jumped first time a few weeks ago. A year ago she jumped xc first time no stops now whenever she feels like it.
The problem I now have is while before I was a confident rider who got on a horse who may have been quirky and a friend may have struggled with i now struggle to jump the smallest of courses. I find it hard to fully commit even when she does jump as Im scared of having another bad fall. I realise this does not help but if I think shes going and she doesnt sometimes I almost fall off again! I dont know how to get out of this cycle having tried training with a group and with trainers. I know to some extent to perceiver and continue but I feel every time I go out my confidence goes down and down to the point where I no longer enjoy doing it and now I do not want to go at all.
She has recently had back, teeth etc checked
I am considering having a friend take her round first then rising her but its getting to the point where Im considering selling her as soon it may put me off xc/ jumping all together when I used to enjoy it. But i do care for her very much so dont want to give up. Sorry for the essay just feel a bit embarrassed to admit this out loud ha ha, just thought someone else may have experienced similar, any advice will be appreciated I just feel lost as someone who was always confident rider for years on various horses even if they stopped or ran out and now I dont know why but Ive just lost my bottle with it.
However xc has now become our bogey phase. She has started stopping at fences with little or no excuse for it and it is slowly stripping my confidence every time we go. I have been 3 times in the last month and half. First time 1hr 30 session working small fences 70/80 (previously 80/90) having 3 stops but otherwise not too bad. Second time at an event stopped at a ditch and refusing to jump it (she could have walked it!) and stopping at two further fences probably after that upsetting her. Third time went today stopped at a 60cm warm up fence. I went with a trainer to the same place as the first time and she stopped 10/20 times some of which she jumped first time a few weeks ago. A year ago she jumped xc first time no stops now whenever she feels like it.
The problem I now have is while before I was a confident rider who got on a horse who may have been quirky and a friend may have struggled with i now struggle to jump the smallest of courses. I find it hard to fully commit even when she does jump as Im scared of having another bad fall. I realise this does not help but if I think shes going and she doesnt sometimes I almost fall off again! I dont know how to get out of this cycle having tried training with a group and with trainers. I know to some extent to perceiver and continue but I feel every time I go out my confidence goes down and down to the point where I no longer enjoy doing it and now I do not want to go at all.
She has recently had back, teeth etc checked
I am considering having a friend take her round first then rising her but its getting to the point where Im considering selling her as soon it may put me off xc/ jumping all together when I used to enjoy it. But i do care for her very much so dont want to give up. Sorry for the essay just feel a bit embarrassed to admit this out loud ha ha, just thought someone else may have experienced similar, any advice will be appreciated I just feel lost as someone who was always confident rider for years on various horses even if they stopped or ran out and now I dont know why but Ive just lost my bottle with it.
