Gift for seller of horse?

[supagran]

We are picking up new horse in the next few days, and I think we should take a small gift for the seller who is gutted that they have to sell this horse (horse is very very special!). However, I’ve been “shot down” my daughter who says that seller is getting a substantial sum for the horse and they should be satisfied with that. I’m thinking of a bottle of wine or perhaps some flowers.
What are your views on this?

 

[Gloi]

The best present would be for the horse to live a great life. You could send them pictures as time goes by.

 

[Patterdale]

I wouldn’t give or expect this. I would however keep in touch if they were nice people and wanted to.

You sound very kind hope you enjoy your new horse!

 

[webble]

You sound lovely

 

[Barton Bounty]

Me? I would take her a bunch of flowers and a bottle of wine. And the promise you will keep in touch

 

[Snow Falcon]

Flowers and card would be a nice touch. I sold a much loved pony last year. The purchasers gave a lovely card with the promise to keep in contact.

 

[Mahoganybay]

When I bought my beautiful horse, the seller had bred her and it was a very genuine sale of a much loved family member.

I paid a decent amount for her, but I still took her a card and a bunch of flowers as a thank you for entrusting her to me.

 

[fetlock]

Keeping in touch with them is probably the greatest gift you can give.
I wouldn’t buy anything personally.

 

[Horseysheepy]

We made a lovely sponge cake when the seller dropped the horse off, so she could have a quick cuppa and cake and watch her much loved horse settle and tuck into a haynet in its new stable.
I like to think she drove away with a feeling of contentment. She was a lovely, kind lady.

 

[supagran]

Thanks all, card and flowers it is. Thank you!

 

[nagblagger]

And remember the mandatory photos !

 

[Fieldlife]

Ask them if they want to stay in touch. Not everyone will, for some it is too painful, and prefer limited updates. Others do wants lots of updates. Find out first.

 

[ycbm]

I have previously been bought flowers and given a card with a wonderful message in it. The message meant more, but both were lovely. The buyers each knew I was very upset about having to sell the horse to them.
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[Abacus]

If your instinct tells you to do it, then go with it. It’s a lovely gesture. Yes the most important thing is that you’re giving him a good home, but by being thoughtful and kind to the sellers they will see you as a kind and thoughtful person.

Maya Angelou - people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.

 

[Surbie]

I bought my horse's previous owner gifts and a card to say thank you. Slightly different scenario as he was gifted to me, but I know how much she cares for him and it wasn't an easy decision. She's a FB friend now, we keep in touch and she can see him having fun.

 

[Domirati]

When we sold my daughter’s pony years ago the lady who bought her gave my daughter a huge Easter egg. She was very happy and it reassured me the pony had gone to a caring home.

 

[littleshetland]

I'm big fan of random acts of kindness.

 

[SEL]

I did box of chocolates - felt honoured to be entrusted with her first homebred.

She's also on FB so gets to see the hooligan's day to day life and knows he is loved (except when he destroys my fencing....)

 

[Tarragon]

You just sound like a nice person. If you want to give something, then give it. I am sure that it will make them smile.

 

[Birker2020]

We are picking up new horse in the next few days, and I think we should take a small gift for the seller who is gutted that they have to sell this horse (horse is very very special!). However, I’ve been “shot down” my daughter who says that seller is getting a substantial sum for the horse and they should be satisfied with that. I’m thinking of a bottle of wine or perhaps some flowers.
What are your views on this?

When I bought Bailey from a dealer back in 2004 she was £4680 and we rounded it up to £4800 because we were that delighted with her and because we thought it was quite a cheap price for the quality of horse we were getting, she was Nimmerdors Grandaughter (Big Stars half sister a year before Big Star was born although it meant nothing to me at the time) The dealer had probably made in excess of £1500 on her as imported WB's at that time were going for around 3K mark before the dealers mark up.

She was my best friend for nearly 17 years and we were lucky enough to do such a lot together, so to me she was well worth paying an extra £120 as a little thank you, my Dad agreed with me at the time.

Would I do the same again??? Probably not so much. I didn't give anything extra for Lari but then he was thousands of pounds more anyway and I felt more than he should have been.

 

[Annagain]

Offer to keep in touch but be understanding if the seller doesn't want to. Wiggy's owner was forced to sell due to her deteriorating health and she's found it really difficult to keep in touch as it's just too upsetting. I find it quite hard as I love hearing how well Charlie's doing (I had a lovely Christmas card from him) and would love Wiggy's seller to know how loved and appreciated he is but I have to respect that it's hard for her. I've made sure she has my number and told her she's always welcome to message to ask about him or to visit but that I'll leave the ball in her court and it doesn't matter if she gets in touch after 6 months or 6 years. I hope one day that she will because apart from anything it means she's coping better without him.

 

[vhf]

When I sold my undoubted horse of a lifetime, the buyers gave me a jumper. They were quite "in" at the time so not something I would have had otherwise, it was blue, with white horses on it in a line pattern! It meant so much to me that I still have it 37 years later...
A few others have given me cards etc. but the keeping in touch after has meant more. As a teen, one family invited me to stay in their mansion for a few days to visit my old pony - it was a bit 'how the other half live'...

 

[Ample Prosecco]

Dolly’s owners gave me a card when they picked her up. And they have sent Katie framed pics of Dolly twice since then: soon after they got her and for Christmas this year. They stay in touch very regularly and she’s living her best life with a family who adore her. Knowing how loved she is really has helped Katie

 

[poiuytrewq]

Really lovely idea. I’ve never sold a horse but would be really delighted if I did have to and the seller turned up with a little something.
I became good friends with the owner of one of my horses and she actually visited and even used to come hacking with me from time to time.

 

[minesadouble]

I've never bought a seller something at the time of sale but when I had a drawing done of my daughter's old pony I sent a print to his old owners who missed him very much.