girlfriend wont learn to ride?

My late husband was terrified of horses - whereas I have been horse mad my entire life... I never felt that he 'must' share my interest any more he insisted that I should go stargazing with him. He got used to the car forever smelling of horse and the washing machine clogging up with bits of hay and hair. One of his workmates did ask him if he minded the fact that I seemed to spend aan inordinate time with my (male) best mate (we share horses) and did he think anything was 'going on'? His reply? "Oh no, it's far more important than sex - it's horses!" We were together for over 40 years, so it must have worked!
 
My dear darling other half did take lessons when we first got together, stuck with it and actually had a lovely seat and position, but after getting to the cantering stage and popping a little jump he decided it just wasn't for him and hasn't sat on one since. He helps with the yard and comes to most competitions, takes lovely phootgraphs and is very supportive, but if you ain't got the horsey gene, you ain't got it.
 
not sure if your joking or not but anyway

you seem very pushy if your girlfriend doesn't want to ride then that is up to her and if you really care about her is shouldn't matter one bit

it is a bit strange you want a girlfriend who can ride i cant understand why it should matter? and if that makes you want to dump her then you probably shouldn't be together

give the poor girl a chance to find someone who wants her
 
I'm pretty sure this posting has nothing whatsoever to do with horseriding, more likely that some sad bloke who lives with his mum and owns a stack of Zoo mags is having a bit of a laugh (and probably something else!!) at the expense of a load of jodphur wearing women!!!
 
lhotse said:
i'm pretty sure this posting has nothing whatsoever to do with horseriding, more likely that some sad bloke who lives with his mum and owns a stack of zoo mags is having a bit of a laugh (and probably something else!!) at the expense of a load of jodphur wearing women!!!
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pmsl!!!! :d
 
Your poor girlfriend she should dump you immediately - fancy posting on a forum if your real... you sound completely shallow and you should be ashamed of yourself let her go and find someone who likes her for her!!
 
Leave her be. I think you are being completely unreasonable to want to end a relationship just because she doesn't want to learn to ride. Why can't you have a hobby you enjoy and one she enjoy that way you get some time apart from each other
 
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You should love someone for who they are.
Not who you think they should be or do.

Yes its nice to have similar interests but equally its nice to have different interests.

Saying should you leave her, makes me think you are a troll and trying to wind this equestrian community up.

If you are for real I think you need to take a good look at yourself.
You can't be too commited to this person just because they dont want to learn to ride.
 
I'd imagine like a lot of women your girlfriend likes shoes. In which case I recommend you start waxing your legs every 4 weeks and wearing 4 inch stiletto's everywhere. That way she will see what a dedicated boyfriend you are at showing a mutual interest in her likes and she will probably start horse riding.
 
hey you can't change people - if it is not working get a new gf, other wise just accept you like doing different things. Plenty of horsey women (what a horrible expression) out there looking for men that tolerate horses.

But it is nice to have a hobby that gets you away from your other half once you get over the lust phases.
 
Cortez said:
My dear darling other half did take lessons when we first got together, stuck with it and actually had a lovely seat and position, but after getting to the cantering stage and popping a little jump he decided it just wasn't for him and hasn't sat on one since. He helps with the yard and comes to most competitions, takes lovely phootgraphs and is very supportive, but if you ain't got the horsey gene, you ain't got it.
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I think this is such a lovely post. He's obviously a good bloke. Hang on to him Cortez!
 
If your OH doesn't like horses they don't like horses. My OH doesn't like them, but knows how to muck out, poo pick, make horses feed, do waters, haynets, change a rug, put on and take off a headcollar and lead. We're working on the picking out feet.. He comes up with me if im jumping and comes out with me hacking occasionally and just walks beside us. If its that important you share with your gf, get her a bike and go hacking together? Or let her have her own hobby. at least there's no risk of her pinching pony!
 
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