Going out over the holiday period.

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Why is it whenever the 'in-laws' want you round for dinner its always at 3pm. I have been with my hubby 8years always had my horse they know I need to finish them off and bring in etc. To be there for 3pm means bringing them in at 2pm only to get there and dinner isn't until 5/6pm. Anyone else suffer with this and always made to feel bad. I dont mind sacrificing a ride to not be too late but too early to bring in horses let to mention the messy bed to muck out in the morning lol :(
 
Ah, but the rest of the world does not run on "horse time" and sometimes we have to let the horses revolve around us rather than the other way around. Won't kill 'em.
 
I get my boxes ready, mucked out, piles and piles and piles of hay dinner in, etx then someone else will bring them in for me then I'll go back in the evening to groom etc
 
Boxing Day my Mum wanted to eat at 2pm. So I just left them out til 6pm and did it all in the dark :) my friend got me a handy little head torch so me and horse can see where we are going.
 
Ah, but the rest of the world does not run on "horse time" and sometimes we have to let the horses revolve around us rather than the other way around. Won't kill 'em.

That's where I am too .
I don't let horses take over everything it does not harm them to play second fiddle now and again .
 
Exactly the same CM - but with my step son & his GF (despite GF still having got her old pony, which her mother is now looking after).
DH gets the right old hump (with them) as have explained till blue in the face that NO, I will not do a 3pm lunch on a Sunday (or 2pm for that matter as they are an hours drive).
Fine to do Sat, as I can still see mine in the light on the Sunday, but have told her definately not on Sundays in the winter as I want to do up the final yard chores etc in the daylight & make sure all okay as will be there in the dark both ends of the day for next few days......

Have invited them to us for Sunday lunch many times, but never been accepted....

Even better: This year, in Oct, then Nov & early Dec, we asked them for lunch for any day over xmas period, just to let us know when was best.....we get a text the week before xmas requesting our presence on Boxing day between 1 and 4pm..... apparently we were to cancel any plans as this was the only day they were free....got a bit humpy with me when I phoned back (hate texting decline messages) to explain I was going hunting, as pre-planned a good month before with friends........
I've opted out from this last effort, after 5 yrs of being polite, DH is pretty naffed off, but trying to button lip as still wants to see grandchildren.....

TXF, champion grumpy knickers of December..... :)
 
Let them out early and bring them in early with plenty of hay and feed when I get back.

Still, being farmers having to get back for feeding/milking is a great excuse to leave early, just after watching the Queen, but that assumes Christmas dinner is at 1.00 p.m.

It was later this year, (and it was my fault as I had been getting the stables ready) and as I started to say I should be leaving my OH said that even if I left then it would be totally dark before I got back, so leaving later wouldn't make any difference. I was rewarded by the sound of pounding hoofbeats when I called out into the pitch dark. Thank good ness they didn't get upset because it was late, as I have known horses to be wild if they are very late being brought in, as they are alarmed by being out of routine.
 
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