Goodbye, and thank you...

MizElz

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Yesterday, another forum member posted about how upset she was regarding what had taken place on a thread. I tried to reassure her, and advised her not to be too sensitive to what other people think. It seems I am now going completely against my own advice, for yes, I am being very sensitive, to the point that I just dont think I can post here any more.

Many of you have described me as 'immature'; my posts as 'silly', and said that I 'infuriate' you. I apologise profusely for causing you any offence; it was not my intention, believe me. I simply believe in honesty, in all aspects of life, and I feel that it is only through learning of others mistakes and regrets that you can make more informed decisions in life.

I am not 'immature' enough to admit that I have made mistakes in life. Yes, at the age of four, I kicked a pony in the stomach once because it was what my dad did, and thus I thought that was what you did when a horse didnt stand still. I learnt very quickly that it was not, and, as well as never having done it again, I look back on that day and feel desperately sorry for my poor little pony.

I am also grown up enough to understand that not everybody will necessarily agree on how to handle certain horsey situations. Yes, I admit that I broke off a stick to use as a whip when my horse was misbehaving; given my time again, I would do nothing different; it was horrid to think that I had caused her hair to stand up, but this was only due to her very thin skin - the marks were gone within two hours.

I am, also, guilty of bringing up for discussion incidents that occured several years ago. This is not because I have nothing better to do with my time; in fact, believe it or not, I have been through a fair amount in my 19 years, and thus have a fair bit to talk about, and many questions to raise which, due to sensitive circumstances, i could not do at the time of the incident.

Perhaps I am too word-handy for my own good; I am sorry if any of my posts have had misleading titles - this IS my fault, and I am willing to take the blame.

Thank you to the peeps who have read my posts in their intended light - it is reasssuring to know that not everyone wishes to label me a horse beater. I have truly appreciated your support; this also goes for the people who have not necessarily agreed with things that I have said/done, but have been prepared to agree to disagree in a civil manner.

Believe it or not, I have thoroughly enjoyed my few months posting on here, so thank you! and byebye.
 
Bye now, take care! Im sure you will be back they always are!
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So if you like it here, stay. Everyone on here is allowed to say exactly what they like - none of us have to like it, but that is the way it is. As someone once said to me on here "if you raise your head above the parapet - then you run a higher risk of being shot!" Never a truer word spoken, as you will notice I have more than my fair share of people trying to get one up on me - I don't care though - I just keep on being civil and get on with the point in hand.

Water off a duck's back and no need for you to leave in the slightest as the only person who will regret it is you. Don't cut your nose off to spite your face.
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what I dont understand is if people want to leave why dont they just not post, why do they have to do a big announcement telling everyone...

because they are dredging stuff up again, and that is what imo is silly and immature.

If you dont want to post, dont.

If you do, then do!

I certainly have nothing against you, but if you really wanted to leave, then why not just stop posting.

Its only a forum!
 
Everyone is entitled to their own opinions... That is what makes a forum so interesting to read. However, what you must remember is that most of us have never met the other users on here. I do not like or dislike those that make comments on here, mainly because I do not know them.

Do not let others push you off here if you enjoy it. No one has more of a right to be on here than others. No matter how experienced people are, we are all equal on the forum in that we come on for advice, to chat to like minded people and read interesting discussions.

You need to learn to accept this forum for what it is... after that, you will soon realise that everyone feels the way you do at times but they ignore the comments and get on with it. There is a post in every topic with comments like you endured on yours.
 
Well on the one hand, if it is an established member who just disappears, it saves loads of people asking where they are. So I can understand it in that respect - it would be kinda rude to just up and leave without saying goodbye.

On the other hand, I am sure there are plenty who do it so that people will say "oh please don't go, we love you!" Ego boost and all...
 
Im sad you are leaving but at the same time I do have to agree with above as to why you have posted this rather then just leaving....is it for ego or just because you are sad...

In the past I have found your threads to be a little nieve, ignorant and yes at times I do believe to just wind people up....
I can understand you do have things to say but there is such a thing as tact & respect for others and alot of the time I havent seen it in your posts unfortunately......

Im sad you feel you have to leave as I always liked having a heated discussion.....I have enjoyed our battles...
 
The world is full of differant people with differing views,that is what makes the world go round,this place is not so differant.Lets face it we have all done things in our lives that we are not proud of whether it is horse related or not.Thats life.But if somebody agrees or disagree's with someone the place/world/forum with not fall to pieces.There are a huge amount of people on this forum and their opinions may differ from yours/mine/whoevers but in a way thats a good thing as we can all take and learn something from somebody else's experiance's.If you tick someone off one day the chances are it will be forgotten the next day.Please dont stop posting because you think there is a lynch mob or forum Mafia.It's an internet forum at the end of the day and no matter whats been said there will not be a horses head in your bed in the morning
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.So the short version of this essay is Chill who cares.
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Stop being so dramatic. Don't worry about it, carry on posting. Gosh I have disagreed with people on here who I respect (well what they post) it's what the forum is about.
 
If you feel unhappy being on here have a break for a while, but really the answer is to think before you post if you don't want any flack.
I posted something in haste earlier today and obviously upset someone, I hold my hand up when I'm wrong and say so. I probably should have thought first and posted second.
Don't forget one vital thing about this forum; it's cyber space and really if someone says they think you're stupid/hates your guts on here, does it matter? You are highly unlikely to ever meet the majority of them , I for instance haven't a clue who you really are, so don't let yourself get upset by comments.
Try not to take arguements personally, I always view here as an enormous livery yard, if there are 100 people on your yard you're bound not to get on or like all of them all of the time!
Have a break then come back under a new name if you want, lots of people do that.
As Tia says, people will soon be having a go at someone else tomorrow!
 
It could be worse.
You could have been the poor victim of two threads debating your gender (I speak from experience here).
Ah well
Happy horse thrashing - you'll have more time to beat them if you're not reading HHO!
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Do you know I don't give a t*ss what people think of me on 'ere,and they don't give a t*ss about me......and really it's not real life is it, and every person on here will have very different ideas,approach's,methods....call it what you like,dress it how you like......but ,for f**k sake don't leave on account of what people say.....as for me I ignore some on here and replie to others! End of!!!!
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It could be worse.
You could have been the poor victim of two threads debating your gender (I speak from experience here).
Ah well

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lol wasnt mmmeeeeee
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This post saddens me. I do care about the others on here who are going through a bad time and, do actually worry about them throughout the day (OK, no life
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) OC, I read your posts, good and bad and get excited or sad for you! (nah, Im not a stalker either
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), as I do others. 19 is young and she is sharing her life experiences with us - at 40 summat we learn not to. What is important to OP is that she has a vent to her feelings - the forum has allowed this. OP will learn in time and with experience to monitor those who she shares her innermost thoughts with. Wish I could give her the experience of age.
 
MizElz, I don't think you need to say goodbye, like most people have said already, rise above it, think about what you post before you do it and learn from the bad experiences.

See ya back here soon
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well, I for one have found your posts refreshing and honest.

50% of a forum will choose not to say anything rather than speak the truth (if the truth is wrong), and the other half will just talk out their backsides
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I guarantee you, LOADS of people here will have forgotten to worm their horse, or will have lft having it's feet trimmed for an extra week because they're strapped for cash. Most people will have you believe they're world experts and loaded too. Let me tell you now... they're not
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where ever you go in life, no matter how well you do, there will always be one who would have done it differently or better, and there's always someone ready in the sidelines who'll try and make you feel like poo.

Take it with a pinch of salt and get on with it. You are who you are, be proud of it (unless you're a chav
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well,miselz said she kicked her pony in a way that she is now ashamed of and has learnt from this,but she also sayes that she beat her horse with a switch,made weals and felt that it was the right thing to do and would do it again.
i`m a little confused by these statements but i do know i wouldn`t like anyone like that near my ponies.
lets hope that she matures and so does not feel the need to throw her weight around.if it comes to brute force the horse will win.we must use tact to overcome differences of opinion.
 
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