Goodbye fellow H&H ers

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millyspaniel

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Since my new years motto is to rid myself of negative people,
I have decided that i am no longer going to post on this forum any longer as am sick to death of peoples sarcastic and darn right rude comments i have on most of the topics i post about.
I joined this forum for advice and help, not to be ridiculed and made to feel like i know nothing and i am a bad horse owner, despite owning 3 horses and horses being a huge part of my life for the past 20 years.
(am sure am not alone in thinking this) and have seen some of the clear ganging up and bullying that goes on.
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I would like to say a big thank you to everyone who has given me helpful advice on the forum and the above is not intended for you guys
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So i will now dissappear off this forum and find another where people actually give kind advice and not slander others views/ways and there are no snotty/snobby people on here making me and others feel bad about ourselves at every oppurtunity they get.
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TTFE!!!
Oh happy 2010
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Aw goodbye, I know just what you mean sometimes people say things that are so unnecessary, I havent posted for a while before today but I cant help popping on to see whats happening!

Happy new year
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Don't go.............just means 'they' have won, yes I agree there are so quite rude individuals that have nothing more than to 'knock' peoples posts, but I have learnt to ignore them!!
Just think of all the good ideas, recomendations, advise that you DO get from this forum.
 
Milly I don't know which posts you are talking about, but I hope looking at what happened with Milly shows you that there are some really great people on this forum, and lots of happy endings made possible by teamwork and the help provided by this forum, please hang around, even if it is only on AAD
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That's a shame as most people here seem genuinely helpful, although obviously we all have our opinions. Forums would be boring without controversial views , just don't get involved
in the bitching.
All the best
 
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I've seen lots of your posts, and yet I'm confused, as I haven't seen anyone be unpleasant to you...
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It's a shame that you are leaving. I have found this place a great wealth of knowledge, and am confident that my horses have benefited from the time I spend on here
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But, if you feel you must go, then goodbye, and best of luck with your horses.
 
I can quite understand where you're coming from. There's some really self righteous an haughty people here with absolutely no sense of humour and some really nasty posters looking to make trouble. I hardly post now, too.
If you find a friendlier forum do come back and pm me about where it is, so I can come with you too.
 
A shame that you feel the need to leave. I can't say that I've seen you being picked on but that's not to say it hasn't happened.

I treat this forum as I would RL. You get to know who has a clue what they're talking about and those whose knowledge is still lacking.

What you need to do is filter out the cr?p and read the useful responses.
 
AWWW don't leave MillySpaniel! Beat the bullies and just ignore the snide comments! Don't let them get you down. You've got as much right as anyone else to be here
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Ahh dont go, some people cant help giving you their I KNOW BEST replies BUT you dont have to read them or listen, just let them rant on and smile to yourself that your life is not that dull you have to pull someone else down to make yourself feel better :-) I can see why youre upset too after just seeing and replying on one of your posts, someone was very rude and obviously didnt read the full post just thought they were right right right!! xx
 
Its a cruel world and i too have experienced what you are referring to on here. I tried to be really helpful and nice and got completely slated because I prefer to use alternative methods and rather than respecting my views I had a group of peopled being extremely nasty to me - I almost gave up as it was my first ever reply!!!
Unfortunately I think every forum has its bad apples so maybe take a step back for a while and have another go in a few weeks?
You have some really nices replies on here today!
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Sod them! They obviously get their kicks being rude and thinking everyone but themselves are imbeciles, but really its they who are very sad. Just let the good prople make up for the bad eggs! Most people really try to give good sound advice and encouragement so I think it would be a shame to miss out on that.. The ironic thing about it is that those nasty people usually have no idea what they are talking about anyway..
 
dont go, i know i dont know you but I came to this forum cause of other peoples sarcastics comments on other more selective forums. I have realised you are going to get it on any forum no matter what but also think there are more people on the H&H forum then most others so would get a more honest point of view, once you have gone through the real negative posts.
 
I think it is a shame too, unfortunately, just as in real life, there are people who are negative or like to make other people feel bad just to make themselves feel better. I think this is probably more so in the horse world than any other where so many seem to have little confidence and try to make up for it by making others seem incapable of caring for their horses properly.

You know how much you know and what your limits are so why let a bitter few spoil it for you. You will find the same people, or same sort on all forums unfortunately. In a recent post for myself I received only positive replies that supported my views and made me feel better for feeling the way I felt. The support and advice available on here and the knowledge that can be accessed is immense. Avoid, ignore and feel sorry for the trouble makers, they obviously have serious issues, and enjoy the forum for what it is.

I really hope you reconsider, without the sane ones the lunatics will take over the asylum!!
 
I don't often respond to these posts as I think they are a bit silly. If you want to leave, then just go. No need to make a song and dance. however, I took the time to read your posts and considering the fairly basic questions that you ask, the mainly considerate and thoughtful responses you received, your claim that people are rude astonishes me. There may have been one, possibly two blunt responses - that is all. I would be interested if you could point me in the direction of the rude responses.

You obviously need quite a bit of advice on your horse - would suggest you pay for advice from a good trainer/expert.

To me, people only want to make a big thing about leaving if they want to be persuaded to stay. You have only been here for 5 minutes and I am sure you have not annoyed people enough to want to be deliberately horrible to you - and not from the posts I have seen either.

The sad thing is that people who genuinely are wanting help may suffer from posts like this - as people who took the time to post long and comprehensive responses may next time, just not bother if all they are going to get is criticism and no thanks.

But up to you - as I said, pay for some good advice as it looks like you do need some help with your horse.
 
Poor, poor millyspaniel, I hope you find some lovely, kind forum with people who will say exactly what you want to hear, in exactly the way you want to hear it, never disagree with you, and give you lots of attention/love/hugs.
Goodbye.
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I can't think of any posts you've done millyspaniel so cant comment on that. But unfortunately the horse world is EXTREMELY opinionated and bitchy! You'll find the same on other forums as well.

I've found the best way to deal with it on this forum is to simply be careful what you post in the first place...
 
In my time on HHO, nobody who has ever announced they are leaving has actually gone. They may come back with another name, or even another account, but the only people who actually leave are those that just stop posting and/or have their account deleted.
 
some of the responses on here, confirm exactly why Milly is leaving and help others in rooting out who to put on ignore. Thanks Milly.
 
Sorry guys but I have also read some pretty nasty replies and snobby behavior.

I own a million+ pound farm and a large import company but would never dream of talking down to people in the manner some others on here see fit.

I stay because I also read many lovely caring posts and realise there are many helpful kind hearted people here who also post. As with life ignore those who are unhelpful and respond well to those who are kind and are helping.

I try to fit in and make some horsey friends I can add to my MSN or FB to chat horses with sometimes. I live in a very small horse community so sometimes lack some good old British horse friends. I have yet to get chatting to anyone here, I post sometimes and I am gratefull for replies and advice. I wish it was a little more friendlier, I have gained more friends chatting in English on a Norwegian horse forum...That kinda says a lot :-(

I wish I could attend some of the meet ups I see posted on here to get to know people but sadly being here that proves difficult. I will just continue to try to make friends here :-)
 
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some of the responses on here, confirm exactly why Milly is leaving and help others in rooting out who to put on ignore. Thanks Milly.

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Gosh you're such sensitive souls. How do you manage in the Real World when people don't tell you exactly what you want to hear?
FTR, I'm sorry Milly feels she has to leave the forum, but if she doesn't like it here/feels victimised, then I'm sure it's for the best.
 
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AWWW don't leave MillySpaniel! Beat the bullies and just ignore the snide comments! Don't let them get you down. You've got as much right as anyone else to be here
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Firstly, please define 'bully' and give names. I'm at a loss to see where she's been bullied.
Secondly, of course she has a right to be here, but if she doesn't want to be here then best if she leaves for her own peace of mind. As she herself has stated.
 
I think you will find in the real world people are a little more diplomatic when they do not have a screen to hide behind ;-)

I do not think we are overly sensitive souls at all, I am a business woman and I am able to handle what is thrown my way. I do not think it a negative thing that people are able to say when they are unhappy.

I think a gentle reminder on manners and conduct is not a bad thing, remembering that people here have feelings and are not just a name on a screen.

Ok thats my bit now I shut up and smile, off out of the office to brush my boy and pull the Sec A's mane. Life is good :-)
 
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I think you will find in the real world people are a little more diplomatic when they do not have a screen to hide behind ;-)

I do not think we are overly sensitive souls at all, I am a business woman and I am able to handle what is thrown my way. I do not think it a negative thing that people are able to say when they are unhappy.

I think a gentle reminder on manners and conduct is not a bad thing, remembering that people here have feelings and are not just a name on a screen.

Ok thats my bit now I shut up and smile, off out of the office to brush my boy and pull the Sec A's mane. Life is good :-)

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I find this post really offensive and upsetting, Karen_Morsund.
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I can't believe you are actually trying to bully people to stop them putting forward their true views - after all, the people who bother to respond have the horses' best interests at heart - I don't think YOU have the right to stop them by your unkind and unthinking post above.
I think good manners should start at home, and you should accept that not everyone will or should agree with YOU.
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If you find someone asking people to be curteous and use manners offensive what has the world come to!! You do have a right to an opinion, you dont have a right to hurt someone in the process just because they do something differently to you! Now ive probably offended people because its not what they want to hear and this post will go on and on about who is right and who is wrong.......
 
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