Talism4n
Well-Known Member
Hi all,
Been having a few issues with my horse being snappy and difficult for anyone other than me and could do with some ideas. He's had all the usual checks and will be starting on an ulcer friendly regime next week anyway, but we're all fairly sure the grumpiness isn't pain related as he will switch from trying to bite my mum straight to being cuddly and lovely as soon as I appear.
When I first got him a year ago, he was very touchy with everyone and if he wasn't getting what he wanted or feeling listened to, he would try to bite or threaten to kick and was generally unpleasant to deal with, as the switch could be over something tiny and he would be very bolshy and had no respect for anyone. With me, he is now very affectionate and cooperative with everything as long as he feels able to communicate with me - eg, he can be funny about his flanks being touched after being knocked about in an old home, so I run my hand down his back to give fair warning, and if something is bothering him, he'll tell me calmly and wait for me to acknowledge him. He'll let me do anything as long as I'm sympathetic. He's foot perfect under saddle and generally a happy horse, though he does take a lot of his confidence from me.
The problem starts when I'm not at home and my mum is dealing with him. I'm not in a position to bring him with me to uni so mum cares for him during the week and some weekends whilst I'm away, and whilst she is very competent, she lacks confidence and is finding him difficult when he gets grumpy with her. Getting rugs on and off can be a struggle as he won't stand still for her, and he threatens to bite if she tries putting his nose net on. He has now also bitten my saintly farrier. I think this is likely a combination of him knowing the boss is away, and not feeling secure enough in mum to trust her like he does me, so he is assuming control of a situation he feels is lacking a competent leader. He can be very fiery at the best of times, but is extremely sensitive and quite an anxious, hot horse by nature - he is at his calmest being hacked out by me.
I've been tasked with spending the summer solving this as mum has another year of horse sitting until I can take him permanently, but I'm not sure how to address behaviours that I don't see - if I'm around when mum is doing things with him, he is much better, although still nowhere near as good as when its just me. Plan thus far is to clicker train a few set behaviours to make sure mum can get him to stand, but I'm in need of suggestions to help build her confidence with him and his manners with other people. Both mum and farrier are happy to work with me on whatever I suggest, as they are his most regular alternate handlers, and I have near endless time over summer to work on him. I'd like to avoid calmers etc as he's perfect for me as is, but would really appreciate any exercises or insights to approach this - I'll accept any advice and criticisms, and happy to give more info if needs be, though I've written quite the essay here!
Huge thanks to all who've made is this far.
Edited to add: ulcer regime is for my elderly pony, but we're moving everyone to match just to check if it helps
Been having a few issues with my horse being snappy and difficult for anyone other than me and could do with some ideas. He's had all the usual checks and will be starting on an ulcer friendly regime next week anyway, but we're all fairly sure the grumpiness isn't pain related as he will switch from trying to bite my mum straight to being cuddly and lovely as soon as I appear.
When I first got him a year ago, he was very touchy with everyone and if he wasn't getting what he wanted or feeling listened to, he would try to bite or threaten to kick and was generally unpleasant to deal with, as the switch could be over something tiny and he would be very bolshy and had no respect for anyone. With me, he is now very affectionate and cooperative with everything as long as he feels able to communicate with me - eg, he can be funny about his flanks being touched after being knocked about in an old home, so I run my hand down his back to give fair warning, and if something is bothering him, he'll tell me calmly and wait for me to acknowledge him. He'll let me do anything as long as I'm sympathetic. He's foot perfect under saddle and generally a happy horse, though he does take a lot of his confidence from me.
The problem starts when I'm not at home and my mum is dealing with him. I'm not in a position to bring him with me to uni so mum cares for him during the week and some weekends whilst I'm away, and whilst she is very competent, she lacks confidence and is finding him difficult when he gets grumpy with her. Getting rugs on and off can be a struggle as he won't stand still for her, and he threatens to bite if she tries putting his nose net on. He has now also bitten my saintly farrier. I think this is likely a combination of him knowing the boss is away, and not feeling secure enough in mum to trust her like he does me, so he is assuming control of a situation he feels is lacking a competent leader. He can be very fiery at the best of times, but is extremely sensitive and quite an anxious, hot horse by nature - he is at his calmest being hacked out by me.
I've been tasked with spending the summer solving this as mum has another year of horse sitting until I can take him permanently, but I'm not sure how to address behaviours that I don't see - if I'm around when mum is doing things with him, he is much better, although still nowhere near as good as when its just me. Plan thus far is to clicker train a few set behaviours to make sure mum can get him to stand, but I'm in need of suggestions to help build her confidence with him and his manners with other people. Both mum and farrier are happy to work with me on whatever I suggest, as they are his most regular alternate handlers, and I have near endless time over summer to work on him. I'd like to avoid calmers etc as he's perfect for me as is, but would really appreciate any exercises or insights to approach this - I'll accept any advice and criticisms, and happy to give more info if needs be, though I've written quite the essay here!
Huge thanks to all who've made is this far.
Edited to add: ulcer regime is for my elderly pony, but we're moving everyone to match just to check if it helps