Gulit complex - I shouldn't have done that

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The guilt complex. With your horses, do you ever do something that almost immediately you regret? Oh my, I do. I lie awake some night and think that the rug I have put on is too thin/thick. I also regret the smack I gave my mare after she bit me when I did up her rug. I think I asked too much or not enough! I question the exercise levels my horses do, I am a serial worrier. And yet...............my partner in crime (who is 20 years +my younger) is so laid back and worries very little about anything! What about you, and out of interest what age group are you?
 
I worry massively and I'm in my late 20's. I worry about everything! Need to chill out more I think :)
Incidentally my partner who is in his early 40's doesn't worry at all (he isn't horsey though). I think worriers go with non-worriers very well! If my OH was a worrier I prop would have a heart attack by now!
I also worry that I'm going to affect my laid-back horse with my worrying and make him worry too ha ha!!
 
I am exactly like you, I worry myself sick about them. Cappy has recently gone loopy on his feed and has had to be taken off it, ever though the nutritionist recommended it I still feel really bad. I am just lucky we have a fantastic YO who tells it straight and will let me know if I get anything wrong, eg over rug, which I have done in the past.

Elizabeth, my daughter and Fany's ownner, is the opposite, she doesn't worry she never wakes in the middle of the night worrying he / she is over /under rugged or without haylage or whatever.

Just different I suppose. I am 47 she is 19 nearly, maybe that is the difference?

FDC
 
I am a constant worrier :D I sometimes feel I ask too much... okay he might heavy in my hands but his ears are pricked and he's not miss-behaving? When he goes well though I feel so proud of him and praise him so much. When you go out and see how some others treat their horses and ponies it makes you realize that hey, although nobody's perfect, your actually a pretty nice person :)

Oh and i'm 16, nearly 17 but mature as I have been out of school and working for the past 3 years :) x

PS The fact that your guilty means that your probably not that bad either XD x
 
ElliePinza said:
I am a constant worrier :D I sometimes feel I ask too much... okay he might heavy in my hands but his ears are pricked and he's not miss-behaving? When he goes well though I feel so proud of him and praise him so much. When you go out and see how some others treat their horses and ponies it makes you realize that hey, although nobody's perfect, your actually a pretty nice person :)

Oh and i'm 16, nearly 17 but mature as I have been out of school and working for the past 3 years :) x

PS The fact that your guilty means that your probably not that bad either XD x
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oh how lovely is this reply! thankies. xx
 
Yep another obsessive worrier here, me and my mum both, we'll regularly txt in the morning and say we were awake at night worrying if it rains unexpectedly or whatever.
Constant shall we put the rug on, take the rug off, which rug to use, are they hungry, do we need to move the fencing, mud mud and more mud etc etc etc.
Oh and I'm 30 and my mum is 60. Also as someone else said my OH is a non worrier so I think we even each other out.

I guess the worrying is because we all care so much. I don't have kids so can't comment but I'm sure it's the same for mums!

I think it's the constant worry factor which would be just as much if not more than an issue for me than the financial side of owning a horse. I get people asking me about owning a horse, the financial side and the work side of it, but no one factors in the hours spent studying the weather forecasts!
 
FanyDuChamp said:
I am exactly like you, I worry myself sick about them. Cappy has recently gone loopy on his feed and has had to be taken off it, ever though the nutritionist recommended it I still feel really bad. I am just lucky we have a fantastic YO who tells it straight and will let me know if I get anything wrong, eg over rug, which I have done in the past.

Elizabeth, my daughter and Fany's ownner, is the opposite, she doesn't worry she never wakes in the middle of the night worrying he / she is over /under rugged or without haylage or whatever.

Just different I suppose. I am 47 she is 19 nearly, maybe that is the difference?

FDC
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Bless you FDC! I undersand! I am a tad older than you but my youngest is your daughters age. It is a miricle if we can get on for a week or two in a row so you win hands down! The thing is, the horses are not loyal at all, the person who frets all night or the person who sleeps soundly, there is no difinitive at all. I guess we are all products of the 80's!!!!!!!!!!!
 
I worry about all sorts.... Sometimes get up in the middle of the night and drive down to the horses in my PJ's, coat and wellies, because I've had an irrational dream about them being in trouble/ill/being stolen.

I'm in my 30's.... is this normal?! ;-)
 
Im a constant worrier and the daft thing is because its normal for me I dont realise Im worrying :D:D My epitath sp?? will say 'what if' :D:D
I am getting better, I think. I used to lose sleep over what rug Ive put on but I dont seem as bad now.
Im approching 40 :eek::eek: OH is the oppoisite, really laid back!
 
oh yes, can totally identify with this thread. I am a worrier, in fact if i am not worried, i worry that i have nothing to worry about :D

I worry that she is too hot or too cold, too fat or too thin. I think a lot of people with horses seem to be the same. I think probably because so much can go wrong with them, they don't seem to be the best designed animals on earth.
 
I'm another constant worrier, about absolutely everything! I was ok until last year when things changed but now I hardly sleep, don't go to bed several nights a week because I can't sleep because of the worrying. Have they got enough grass, did we put enough hay out and are they coping with the paddock pillows or hay balls (and what if someone has pinched them out of the field and left them hungry), are they warm enough, can the welshies cope with only natural shelter and no rugs, are they wet and cold because it is raining, are the hens and geese safe, can a fox break into their shed, can I afford food for tomorrow, can I afford petrol to get to work, have I even got time to go to work, how can I make that work appointment AND check/hay ponies and turn out hens and geese without ruining my work clothes! It is all a bloody nightmare, so no, you are not the only one who worries!
 
I am 23 and I worry a lot! My main problem is that I live 30 minutes away from the horses who are in my parents' field. As I am studying I usually only see them 3 or 4 times a week and rely on my mother (who has ridden/owned horses all her life) to feed them and rug them when I'm not there.

She is less of a worrier than me though and can be quite casual about rugging (I mean she does it but doesn't worry about if a certain rug is the right choice etc) - this leaves me sat at home wondering if she made the right rug choice and wishing I was there to assess the situation. I also thought Belle was looking a bit porky and it turned out Mum had been giving her speedibeet as an extra, hehe. :p

Having said that, I am aware that I'm extremely fortunate. I just often wish that the horses were with me so that I knew exactly what was going on with them. I'm the sort of person that will go outside at midnight to change a rug if I'm concerned (my parents' field is right outside the house so this is easily done if living there) so I do worry when I don't have the option to check them when I want.
 
Yep worry about everything to do with animals, family etc. Horse has a runny nose just now and I decided to keep her out on a stormy night. Did not sleep a wink! Thankfully when I spoke to the vet she said "spot on" that's exactly where the horse should be i.e. out and not in a stable!
 
Oh dear, I'm sure you will think I'm a heartless old cow but I very rarely worry about things like that!

The only time I have been really worried was when it was raining and our field flooded, me and my friend went down there at 9pm to get our horses in and the water was already up to their knees! We go them in and I went home much happier and I know I would have worried all night about him then if we hadn't have gone down there.

The horses in the next field were left out and the 3 of them were huddled on a small raised island in the middle of a lake that was their field :(
 
I used to be a terrible worrier, but after being diagnosed with IBS and knowing stress and worry will make me suffer i tend not to.
Still wake up in the middle of the night now and again worrying how the hell i am every gonna pay my ever increasing vet bill
 
I used to be a terrible worrier for horses; I'd check the yard twice before I left and I'd still be convinced I'd forgotten to do something. Usually the next morning I'd be dreading arriving at the yard as I'd convice myself all the horses would be dying of a colic because of something I did or didn't do the night before.

Now I'm much more relaxed as I've learned that the majority of horses are hardy little beggars and do not need to be wrapped in cotton wool. Although I still worry much more for them than I do for myself.

I'm coming up to 30 now (a lady never reveals her true age!)
 
Not just me then ! I worry every night when horse is in the stable because he is in from about 4 till 9 next morning and I am several miles from the yard. Never used to worry when he was out all night but always convinced he will have got colic, been pinched, hung himself on his haynet etc ! I think its genetic as my mum was a terrible worrier.
 
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