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Hey Guys
I am so desperate for any ideas that people may have to help with the situation I am in. Trying to keep this short.
My much loved Staffie died in my arms on Saturday after fighting with useless vets for months, being told nothing wrong with him. As a family we are totally distraught at the loss of him.
I have another dog Charlie, who is a very timid, deaf border collie I rescued a few years ago. My Staffie and him where like brothers and he is pining terribly and I don't know what I can do to help him. He won't eat, he lays all day on the spot where Ty died (which I find heartbreaking). He will go for walks, but the moment another dog comes near him he throws himslef on the floor in total submission and then won't move. He goes totally catatonic. He was previously fine with dogs, got picked on a little but nothing major. He is ok wiht all the dogs at the yard just not when he goes to the park.
To see my other dog this way is soul destroying, he is going to the hospital at Potters Bar next week for tests as he has not been to well either.
We are very, very worried about him. Please if anyone has any ideas how to help him get over his mourning I would love to hear them. I know it hasn't been long but we want him out enjoying the park and his doggie friends like they both did before our loss.
 
my opinion would be to either speak to your vet to get something to calm hisnerves a bit or use something like escue remedy but in fairness its going o take your dog time, i had something along the same line my hound pining when i lost my lovely collie and the rescue remedy helped.
 
So sorry to hear about Ty. When my Buffys dam died in 2006 Buffy pined terribly. She had been very dependent on her mother and really fell apart when Chaka died, it really doesn'thelp your own grief does it? I just did lots of different things with her to take her mind off it, I actually started taking her to training at 6 years old! She did come through it, but it took a couple of months before she had really perked up. Rescue remedy would certainly be worth trying, as your collie is deaf he probably depended on Ty quite a lot, but I am sure with time he will get over it. Hugs to you both.
 
If your dog saw his friend when he had died, that should help him to get over it! I was told by a very knowlegeable lady that you should always let an animal see a deceased friend and not just remove it whilst still alive otherwise the animal left will just keep waiting for its friend to return. Sounds like your dog saw his friend die, so after a period of grieving, he should be fine. I'm sure you are doing the right thing by keeping him busy with walks. If he is frightened at the park, then I would just stick to the stables for the time being. I'ts great that you are such a caring owner and both your dogs are lucky to have had such a wonderful, caring home. xx
 
When we lost our lovely Holly suddenly my ridgeback was in a dreadful state. They were very close. We rehomed a 6 month old rottie within days. Wasn't intentional but she needed a home and it made a massive difference to both us and the dog. It is a drastic step but it worked for us.
 
I am very sorry to hear your news. I would say the same as popsicle. It helps for the dog to understand why and where their friend has gone. It is like losing your friend and not ever knowing where they have gone.

I should also think as your collie is deaf he relied on your staff alot to help him get around. All I can suggest is perhaps rescuing another dog to help him through his grieving process but obv. this is not necassarily realistic and you yourself I would expect are probably not ready to take another dog into your life after the death of your loved companion.

Like mattilda said it is a drastic step.

I am very sorry to hear about your collie,

Good luck,

Laura.
 
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