Gutted!

[gemmagallagher]

Sorry for the moan guys but i'm so gutted i keep nearly bursting into tears. Some of you may have read some of my posts about the cob mare i have been riding with the chance to buy. I fully understood that i cant possibly buy her yet because all my money is being used up learning to drive but someone is interested in buying her now and i'm devastated!! I'm suprised how much it has affected me because i was starting to realise that i shouldnt want to buy the first horse i am offered (Have been out of the saddle for almost 5 years and now back into it with a huge passion). My friend who was going to share her with me has mentioned another horse that is for sale and tbh i think he would be the safer option because he is older, has done more and at the moment is safer to ride hehe. Its a good idea because he is lovely but i'm worried i wont bond with him as well because this mare has really got under my skin. I just hope if these people do buy her, they will look after her properly and understand a bit about her. I think the worse thing is, she was finally showing little signs of trusting me and it makes me want to cry even more

The other horse is nice to handle and well behaved to ride but he's nearly 9 (as opposed to 4 yr old mare) and i'm worrying that because he's older i wont have as much time with him and that the training he has had will be so ingrained that i wont be able to try the things i wanted to do with the mare (Jumping in local shows, in hand showing etc).
Sorry for the rant, i just need to get it out and my OH isnt the slight bit interested about anything horsey (Or in any way supportive for that matter).
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[_April_]

Aww poor you

I sometimes think that when you have to work more at the problems it makes you appreciate the good results more and that is probably what you are experiencing.

I am sure you would love and bond with the other boy just as much and believe me 9 isn't old at all!
April's 23 and we're doing new things all the time.

Hope you can sort something out xx

 

[ponypics]

You sound really confused.

9 is not so old - you'll soon bond and be surprised at how you ever doubted that he was the one for you. Don't buy him on the rebound though!!

Its tough at the moment but you'll make the right decision in the end.

 

[filly190]

I really feel for you, when a horse grabs your heart it is devasting when you are not in a position to own it. Unfortunately thats life and I am sure we have all been in similar positions. I am sure if she is sold and the people are paying good money for her she will be very much loved and looked after, I hope this puts your mind at rest.

As for bonding with another horse, you are clearly a caring person and your love and attention will be gratefully received by another animal. Try and enjoy just being around horses and the envolvment that brings. In time you will feel better, dont miss out on opportunities to ride and enjoy.