bouncing_ball
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Somewhere you mention HRT. You have to take into account as some people get older they become more risk adverse, more worried, the tiny things in the past that have upset the horse in that location have also worried you. However much you think it is just him they upset your brain may have latched onto these and is now in self preservation status.
Just because you have done lots of brave and daring things in the past doesn’t mean you will still be able to carry on doing them. You are cross and frustrated but your brain still won’t let you.
You may have to accept you are never going to be able to ride this horse in the open spaces and it is pointless beating yourself up. Give up. Go somewhere else where you are happy and enjoy your horse.
If you get the chance borrow a safe horse and ride the open spaces to i
you mentioned HRT. You are getting older and I would guess this is a fair amount of your problem. Just because you could gallop with racehorses, jump 6 foot walls or whatever in the past doesn't mean that you will continue to do so as you get older. Some people especially females seem to get affected with confidence issues as they age.
As you have got older recently your mind is processing it all differently. Whatever you actively think it is in protection mode.
You give examples above of being chased by a dog, you coming off etc. Not only has that upset the horse but also even sub consciously you. So now this lack of confidence (however many times you sing) is coming to the fore and your lack of confidence = horse not getting support so it is the downward spiral.
will it be gone forever? who knows but maybe it will.
I think you will have to give up on the open spaces area with this horse. You are not going to get over the confidence part and the horse is not going to get over it without a stronger (more confident) rider. Stick to more enclosed areas and enjoy your horse there
If you get the chance ride a different horse on the open spaces just to keep your confidence up.
I would imagine that if he fell in hoof boots this may have made you especially nervous and that is difficult to get over.
I appreciate everyone else sees a pain problem but unfortunately I see it as a "you" problem and it is a case of finding a way to make "you" happier.
I don’t believe it’s a pain problem, I believe it’s a mind problem. In both his mind and my mind.
But it would be my mind that needs to lead change, which as you say is no longer happening and it’s got worse mentally not better (repeated reinforcement)
Yes it’s become a downward spiral.
My understanding with HRT was if get dose right, would not have wider loss of confidence as that’s caused by low oestrogen.