Had upsetting day today, comfort required please?

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Ok, bit of background. We're having an arena built on our land. It was always going to be a big undertaking because the land is really unflat (think 12ft down at one end, and 4ft up at the other to get it flat!!) and also we live down a small country lane. However, the planning permission went through without any problems, and the work started 2 weeks ago.

Since then, we've had alot of problems, mainly that the lorries delivering the stone couldn't get down the lane. Because of this we have had to put the stone piles at the top of the lane, but to one side so the lane isn't blocked. Not ideal but its fine and the highways agency is also fine with it.

Today, I had a text at uni saying that there was a digger in the road and I should run home and check the horses. So I leapt into the car, flew home and got there to find that the digger had slipped off the side of the bank and landed in the road, with the builder in it. It also took two trees with it and loads of fencing, half the bank and obviously everyone was quite shaken up. I got there just as they'd got the driver out, so I rang the non-emergency police number and asked for them to come and block the lane. They told us to put some cones out right at the top of the lane because it wouldnt be save to only block off part of the lane, so we did that.

Anyway, long story short, police didn't come for a long time and by the time they had come we'd freed the lorry and started clearing up most of the stuff. Only about 4 or 5 cars had come up or down the lane and had to turn around, but 3 people had rung the highways agency!! so they came to investigate (and told us not to worry). Anyway, so I'm stood watching the blokes carry on with what they're doing when a woman storms down the lane, already yelling.

She walks up to me, and goes, "DO YOU OWN THIS LAND?" And I said, no, but it is my in-laws land and its my yard. She said "I can't BELIEVE how RUDE and DISRESPECTFUL you've been, YOU'RE AWFUL NEIGHBOURS and I should REPORT YOU" I didn't ask to who....

She said "I've just had to move the cones that block the lane to get my car in, and my car has skidded on some mud". I said that the cones were blocking the road for a reason because it was unsafe and the police told us too, to which she said "I think its DISGUSTING that you can be so disrespectful, its not your place to decide to block the road" and I explained again that the police had told us too. Then she said "and as for that pile of stone thats blocking the entire entrance (yes, the entrance she'd just driven through...) I want that moved IMMEDIATELY its on my land and I should report you" (again, to who..) I said that firstly it wasn't her land, secondly the HA were fine with it and thirdly that it wasn't blocking the road and cars could easily get in and out. Then she screamed more general abuse about how she'd report us to the planning permission, if she'd known about it she'd never have allowed it to go ahead (the signs were up for the full 6 weeks) and how she hoped the school never worked and we wasted all our money and I was a disgusting person.

Then she stormed off up the road. Ok, perhaps we should have mentioned the stone to them but there are loads of people that use the road. Another bloke reported us on the weekend for there being a clump of mud in the road - he even measured it - 3cm by 5cm!!! We're such good neighbours, we never have loud parties or fireworks and we never ever normally make a mess, and my poor builders are trying their level best to keep everything as neat as possible, but one of them could have been really seriously hurt today and all she could do was yell about mud - when she'd gone through a road closure!!!!!!!!

Argh. Hug please. xxxx
 
You poor thing. what a rubbish day you've had. I hope all goes well from now on and that its a huge success, whatever your moody neighbours think!!!
 
Poor you! What a stressful day! Big hugs to ayou. What a ratbag neighbour she is! I wouldn't worry about it. Tell her that she could be responsible for any accidents that happen if she moved the cones.

The only bit that could be true, is the bit about her owning the land that you have tipped the stone on - we have left quite a few bits of our land beside the lane unfenced to allow tractors to park when they open gates etc, or for out neighbours to pass etc. Some of them look like part of the highway, but they're not...

Don't worry - I bet she's calmed down by now, and it wouldn't do anything if she reported it to planning anyway. Hope it all goes better from now on, and enjoy your menage!x
 
BIG HUG coming your way-followed by large red wine?:)
People like that arent worth getting upset over!

If she skidded on mud then she wasnt been careful as to where she was driving? and hello! ROAD CONE!!!! kinda gives it away that something is been highlighted for road users???:eek:

As for machinery going over with driver still in it-Id have been more concerned by that than a bit of mud on the road!:mad:
Your neighbors sound like numpties? you clearly arent as you own horses and are building a well drained school! and her wishing it doesnt work? hows that gonna happen? the fence falls down,the sand gets blown away? total muppet tell her to kop on to herself!! xx:)
 
Oh god what a day you have had :( Big hugs and some choc coming your way to keep the red wine company!
It sounds as though you are doing everything you can to keep disruption to a minimum..perhaps she was having a bad day too - although not as bad as the poor guy in the digger.
Hope tomorrow is a better day xx
 
How stressful. Ignore the silly bint she is clearly an idiot and you sound like you have gone down all the right channels in terms of planning, and been very sensible reporting it to the police. Have a large glass of vino and/or some chocolate and think how lovely your school will be when its all done :)
 
She sounds like a right nut. Don't let it get to you...at the end of all this you get to have the amazing arena all to yourself and that crazy woman has to make do with her fabulous personality!
 
Ah but you see Christi, my story is actually real, rather than a made up fairy tale. Grow up.

Thank you everyone else! Feeling a bit better now I've eaten and settled down at home. Just cant believe the cheek of some people! Boyfriend saying he'll go over there tomorrow but dont think it will help. The joke of it all? Shes moving house in 2 weeks! So why does she give a crap?!
 
She sounds like an idiot and has prob gone home to moan all night to her partner!

You have done everything correctly and cannot be faulted. Have a glass of wine and a bath to destress :)
 
don't you just want to poke them in the eye when they're like that, what a horrible day, you know you've done nothing wrong, in fact gone out of your way to be helpful. hope you feel better now you've told somebody. go and have a big bar of chocolate and pretend it's her head!!!
 
Oooh what a cowbag she is. Ignore her, no point letting people like that get your goat up, not worth it. If everythings above board then she can complain till the cows come home.
 
Agree with all of the above - what a total t*t.
Don't let it get to you - she has made herself look an idiot. xxx

I would have been tempted to plonk one of the cones on her head.
 
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((((((hugs)))))) and lots of them
hmmm i know its wrong but if it were me i would love to ride my horse there and let it take a big steamy poo right outside her entrance
 
Big hugs hun, have had someone meddling in our lives, very distressing. Have a nice relaxing bath with some candles and choclate xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
 
Just agree with her 'yes it's awful'. As really it is awful for you too. This pacifies the irate and stops you getting involved with someone who isn't in a frame of mind to be reasoned with.
 
Remembered the other ironic thing - a horse rider came down the road on her horse that went absolutely ape when it saw the digger, she swiftly turned round and went back again, but not before apologising profusely for getting in our ways!! How nice!
 
InkyandSunny, thats basically what I did, just stood there and said I'm sorry for any inconvienance, oh yes I can understand why you found that stressful, etc...!
 
InkyandSunny, thats basically what I did, just stood there and said I'm sorry for any inconvienance, oh yes I can understand why you found that stressful, etc...!

Sometimes the only thing to do. I find if I try to explain I get defensive, which they interpret as aggression. I find it better just to agree that they have a point and before the end of the conversation they are almost feeling sorry for you ;)
 
Ah but you see Christi, my story is actually real, rather than a made up fairy tale. Grow up.

Thank you everyone else! Feeling a bit better now I've eaten and settled down at home. Just cant believe the cheek of some people! Boyfriend saying he'll go over there tomorrow but dont think it will help. The joke of it all? Shes moving house in 2 weeks! So why does she give a crap?!

you are a nasty little girl !

in actual fact every word i said was true !

i feel its you who has to grow up or learn how to reply in a mature manner ! and not name calling !
 
Sending hugs - ignore them - they're only jealous because you doing something - use their bitterness to help make it a success so you can ride past in a few months and wave (politely of course) in their direction and thank them for their words which helped you!:rolleyes:
 
Some people can be idiots, at least you say they are moving so you wont have to see them anymore! Just think of your nice menage when it is finished. Have some chocolate, it works for me!
 
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