buffy2
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So sorry,hugs to you,xx
HARDEST DECISION EVER....
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tinafletcher1
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so so sorry. we borrow them for a short time then have to let them go.
carthorse
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What a lucky horse to be loved to the end and for someone to love him so much that they made the descision, if only we could be so lucky .Hugs
guisbrogal
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Having just lost my mare my heart aches for you
It is the most awful thing to go through. I wish I had had a chance to tell my mare how much I loved her though and had enjoyed having her as my best friend, unfortunately she died in the fieid very suddenly and I never got to say goodbye.
My first instinct was to get out of the yard I am at because everytime I went to see friends, all her things were there in her stable and I sobbed everytime I went near it. I decided to not go to the yard for a few weeks (3) and now I have gone back to ride friends horses I have found it a lot easier. I think because you have to go and do your other horse it may be a little quicker for you but give yourself a few weeks at least to grieve.
Huge hugs x
My first instinct was to get out of the yard I am at because everytime I went to see friends, all her things were there in her stable and I sobbed everytime I went near it. I decided to not go to the yard for a few weeks (3) and now I have gone back to ride friends horses I have found it a lot easier. I think because you have to go and do your other horse it may be a little quicker for you but give yourself a few weeks at least to grieve.
Huge hugs x
Pasha
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My heart goes out to you! I know there is nothing I can say that will help you at the moment but please hold onto the fact that he knew how much he was loved and you did everything you could possibly do for him right up until the very end! I can only hope I will be as brave when I have to be! ((( HUGS )))
andieash
Member
You poor love, I have just had to do the same thing for my mare, it is truly awfull, I posted a help plee on H&H forum Sunday to help with my decision with PTS my beloved mare.
Hold in there you did the right thing, he is no longer in pain and will be grateful to you for it, just think he can eat as much grass and apples as he likes now in Heaven lol
Hugs and kisses Andie x
Hold in there you did the right thing, he is no longer in pain and will be grateful to you for it, just think he can eat as much grass and apples as he likes now in Heaven lol
Hugs and kisses Andie x
pottamus
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So sorry. xxx
Moggy in Manolos
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Kezz, i am so sorry, your post has brought a tear to my eye, my thoughts are with you at this very tough time, so many sad losses on HHO just now, RIP all xxx
andieash
Member
Hey hun, don;t rush into anything about changing yards, our other mare is calling for Bailey too but she will get used to it, I feel worse that they were both at the livery my daughter works and teaches at, she has had to go past the empty stable each day since monday night whereas I have chickened out going up there at all as just can't face it.
I will go up this weekend as have to clear her stable and tack space for a new horse to move into !!!so need to be strong. You have been very brave but I do think you should try to stay at your yard a while or another change may be too much for your 23 yr old
Take care you, I am thinking of you Andie x
I will go up this weekend as have to clear her stable and tack space for a new horse to move into !!!so need to be strong. You have been very brave but I do think you should try to stay at your yard a while or another change may be too much for your 23 yr old
Take care you, I am thinking of you Andie x
Chestnutmare
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Andie - I am trying to be strong and brave each time i go up the yard i try not to look at his stable they are next to each other so it's quite difficult, again this morning i broke down looking at an empty stable just wishing he could come back home....but knowing he's not going to, I am being very careful about the decision I'm not rushing into anything, i tried to sort out his stuff yest but couldn't....maybe in time I will be able to.
Like you I have found moments of laughter thinking of the daft things he's done and we've done together, I know he's happy up in the great big field with the rest of the others that have sadly passed, can't believe there has been soo many this week, I am strangly comforted by this, if that doesn't sound too weird??
I hope you manage to keep being strong and brave....
please take good care xsxx
Thank you also to everyone on here for their kind words and thoughts, I will be staying on this forum now!!!!
xxx
Like you I have found moments of laughter thinking of the daft things he's done and we've done together, I know he's happy up in the great big field with the rest of the others that have sadly passed, can't believe there has been soo many this week, I am strangly comforted by this, if that doesn't sound too weird??
I hope you manage to keep being strong and brave....
please take good care xsxx
Thank you also to everyone on here for their kind words and thoughts, I will be staying on this forum now!!!!
xxx
maybedaisy
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Hi, Kezz.
I lost my mare aged 44 in October 2005. I'd had her 20 yrs and reading your post has me in tears. I don't think we every truly get over it.
I am at the same yard as its my friends place she Folly was cremated and is buried at the yard and I have planted a tree on the spot.
We put another horse into her stable so that it was no longer Folly's stable but for a long time afterwards I would get upset expecting her to be waiting at the gate for me.
I now have two new neds a ten yr old and a recently acquired 19yr old. ( I am a sucker for the older ones ) But I still think of Folly all the time.
Re your mare, my friends horse had kidney failure and gradually went down hill. He died one Saturday afternoon after having a mad ten minutes with his best friend in the field. Collapsed and had a heart attack. We were with him when he went.
It took about a month to intergrate his best pal with the other horses as we had to try two different groups as he didn't bond with the geldings, just hid in a corner.
Eventually I put him in with the mares and he ran over and whickered to them. Made me cry all over again.
Long and short it, you will always miss him but it does get easier and if your mare is happy and safe at the yard she too will get over her loss.
<<<<<Hugs for you>>>>>>>>>>
I lost my mare aged 44 in October 2005. I'd had her 20 yrs and reading your post has me in tears. I don't think we every truly get over it.
I am at the same yard as its my friends place she Folly was cremated and is buried at the yard and I have planted a tree on the spot.
We put another horse into her stable so that it was no longer Folly's stable but for a long time afterwards I would get upset expecting her to be waiting at the gate for me.
I now have two new neds a ten yr old and a recently acquired 19yr old. ( I am a sucker for the older ones ) But I still think of Folly all the time.
Re your mare, my friends horse had kidney failure and gradually went down hill. He died one Saturday afternoon after having a mad ten minutes with his best friend in the field. Collapsed and had a heart attack. We were with him when he went.
It took about a month to intergrate his best pal with the other horses as we had to try two different groups as he didn't bond with the geldings, just hid in a corner.
Eventually I put him in with the mares and he ran over and whickered to them. Made me cry all over again.
Long and short it, you will always miss him but it does get easier and if your mare is happy and safe at the yard she too will get over her loss.
<<<<<Hugs for you>>>>>>>>>>