Have to share my gorgeous boy even though I don't want to

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Perfect_Pirouette

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I've only had my share horse on full loan for about 6 weeks but I'm already going to have to find a sharer and start sharing him again
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He is kept 24 miles away from where I live, which wasn't too bad when I was sharing him as i only had to do the journey 3-4 times a week. When his owner asked me to have him on full loan I jumped at the chance as I love him so much, I thought I could handle the distance 7 days a week as he is only kept 5 miles from where I work.

But I am finding it hard, going through so much petrol and the journey there and back is time consuming and tiring and during the week if I ride I'm not getting home until 8.30 and i'm up again at 6 to go turn him out etc before work.

I talked to his owner the other day and asked if I could move him to a yard nearer me, one that two of my friends are on, it's only 10 minutes away and would make my life and having him soooooo much easier, but she said no that she couldn't bear to part with him and not see him everyday etc. So I said i'd have to get a sharer then.

So my instructor gave this lady my number who is looking for a horse for her and her daughter. They're coming to see him on Friday. She sounds really nice and i'm sure they're lovely but i don't WANT to share him
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I want to move him closer to me
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I'm also a bit worried as the daughter is 11 and isn't that the sort of age that they love tearing around jumping everything in sight? Or am i just being really paranoid?!

I'm just worried he'll get broken or something, although I am going to insist they take out insurance. Meh, I know I should be happy to have found someone and hopefully get help time wise and financially which will be nice, I just wish it didnt have to come to this.
 
What a shame you can't move him. Perhaps in time the owner will come around to the idea, at the moment it is still a new loan after all.

Where is he at the moment?
 
Maybe, I know it's a new loan but I was sharing him 8 months previous to that and I get on with the owner so well and she's always said she wouldn't want anyone else sharing or looking ater him apart from me, meh I dunno. Just wish he could be moved I guess but nevermind.

He's kept near Whymondam
 
Meh, nowhere near me then
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My last share was round there and it was just too far to go regularly and also in completely the wrong direction for work
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Shame, there are some nice yards and good hacking round there!

Maybe she's having a bit of trouble moving from sharing (and therefore her having control) to loaning (and therefore her not having the control day-to-day)? Not saying she's right or wrong, just trying to see it from both sides.
 
Woah- you're close to us then (in a same county sort of way... :P). Maybe he'll enjoy a different outlook every now and then, and although me and my sister were loons when we were 11 it was because our ponies were too. If we'd had horses who weren't so into the whole mad thing, we'd have calmed down, as we did when I got my next pony, age 13!
 
For the 11 year old if you can suggest some "exciting" activities she can do instead of "zooming around and jumping" you can alleviate your stress. I was riding a pony that couldn't jump when I was 11, we did pony games and things instead (at walk...he had no other gears!) That kept me entertained and although I would have loved to learn to jump, I couldn't so I tried my best to do another activity.

Also, (sorry teenagers! I don't feel so bad as I still am one) an 11 year old is less likely to stress your horse out than an older teenager, at least if you tell them NO they are more likely to listen.
(I know some of us teenagers are fab, you just have to find us
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Sorry you cant move the horse closer to your home,but I woulfd be the same and say NO. It could be she wants to be in control and maybe she would feel lost not seeing him everyday.As for 11 yr olds they do listen you know!!
Hope it all works out for you.
 
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