Having grumpymare PTS tomorrow

I am really facing this dilema ffs. Id really rather not be I can promise you that. Would you like to come and see it happen or ring the huntsman at the hunt and check my appointment! Ffs why would I make it up. Ive never had a horse pts before and its not a decision I found easy. I posted about it on a parents group im part of and got absolutely torn apart. I suppose I came on here to be told its ok. Yes similar stories of ppl going through the same stuff.
 
stealthninja said:
I am really facing this dilema ffs. Id really rather not be I can promise you that. Would you like to come and see it happen or ring the huntsman at the hunt and check my appointment! Ffs why would I make it up. Ive never had a horse pts before and its not a decision I found easy. I posted about it on a parents group im part of and got absolutely torn apart. I suppose I came on here to be told its ok. Yes similar stories of ppl going through the same stuff.
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Don't let other people bother you. You are doing right by this poor mare.. she can't live out her life with those levels of stress and fear, especially if she also has ulcers.

Trouble is there have been an awful lot of trolls in the past and some real heart-wrenching stories from some of them, so to a degree you can understand why some people are wary. The way I look at it is that even if you are a troll there is possibly someone else facing this sort of decision and they will also be helped by the thread.

I hope it all goes as well as it can do tomorrow... stay strong for her and keep your tears for afterwards. xx
 
If you search and find my bad day thread you will see I did a similar thing in November.
My horse sounds a lot less extreme than yours .
It's supposed to be fun having a horse it's not about worrying about the next time the horse hurts itself or a human .
Be strong you are doing the right thing a dignified safe end not passing her on again be proud of yourself .
 
dogatemysalad said:
You joined the forum to post this and yet you post like someone very familiar with forums.

FWIW. Unless there's a miracle, my horse is due to be PTS on Christmas eve.

And its offensive to read attention seeking fairy stories.
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She also said she had posted on other forums, so yes, she probably is familiar with the, most people are these days.

I am so sorry to hear you, too, are losing your horse. It's been a bad few months for HHO members and their horses.

Unless you know this person in real life it is a little unkind to accuse them of making this up; she is probably just as upset and doubting her decision as you are. I hope HHO shows you more kindness than you are currently displaying towards the OP.
 
Babymare and goldenstar thanks for your messages. I think its the right thing to do im just on last minute jitters.

Dogatemysalad. I am familiar with forums and dont think i have ever said i wasnt. Im on 2 parenting forums and regularly posted on them for the last 6 years. I did join this forum to post precisely for the reason I wanted horse ppls support. I am sorry that you are going through a similar thing and take back my brattish reaction of telling you to come see her pt tomorrow. You dont need that grief and i apologise. I also dont need it. I know that im real. I know that its really happening tomorrow. You are entitled to not believe me but please dont post that on here as im finding it hard enough as it is.
 
You know just blot out everything from now on your sixth sense will guide you its a hardest thing I have ever done putting CF down fit healthy and loving his work I followed my gut feeling.
Good luck .
 
Can I just say than unless you absolutely know without shadow of a doubt that a poster is lying, it is potentially really hurtful to make assumptions and post them publicly.

Having a horse PTS is, as most owners know an incredibly difficult and painful thing to do. Being kind and keeping your suspicions to yourself won't hurt anyone, but publicising them potentially will.
 
I think it is a shame that the person who sent her to Derby sale didn't do what you are doing, but wanted to make the last bit of money that they could from her. Horses can be damaged in their brains, just as they can in any other part of their body, if this appears to be the case with this mare, then you are making the only decision possible. I do not care if this is a 'real' post ornot, the situation is one which sadly is not uncommon.
 
Sorry you're in such a rubbish position OP. If it's any consolation, a horse doesn't know it's getting pts, they live in the here and now.

Hope all goes ok tomorrow, sending good vibes your way.
 
I had to have an elderly TB put down in September. Although he wasn't so insecure as your mare sounds, he still was very wary of strangers, and hated men. He would rather gallop a mile hopping lame than be caught by man. When the huntsman came, I knew we were in for a bit of a rough ride, and unfortunately the old horses stress levels shot up. I didn't have any sedative to help me, only time. It took a LONG time for the horse to temporary relax for a split second to allow the huntsman to do his job. BUT, they are VERY good at their job and although the horse knew 'something was up', he did his job with such quietness and compassion that I hope the old boy knew he was going to help him.
So, I urge you not to worry, they know their job, your mare will be in very good hands, and you have done the best thing for you all. She will thank you for it. I will be thinking of you.
 
Its done :( Gave her a big bucket of treats which she cant usually have because of her ulcer, head in bucket and she went. Definitely quickly, hopefully painlessly.
Thanks for the support. x
 
stealthninja said:
Its done :( Gave her a big bucket of treats which she cant usually have because of her ulcer, head in bucket and she went. Definitely quickly, hopefully painlessly.
Thanks for the support. x
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Well done and now go and take some time for yourself in the knowledge that you ended her struggles.
 
stealthninja said:
And im gutted about it. Ive had her 12 months, after buying her from Derby sales last year, I am 99% sure its the right thing to do, but I keep thinking what if I give her a bit longer. Shes half wild, must have been drugged to get to the sales. Since getting her home, shes charged into a stable door several times, breaking through it once, broke my arm, escaped from the field onto the road because she was separated from her best mate.. Since buying her a permanent companion 6 months ago and putting them in a separate field, and just leaving her alone she has settled, but shes so stressy about everything! Shes suffering from massive ulcers, and even a small treat has her cribbing. Shes so wild she has to be sedated to be handled by the vet, farrier, transported, the list goes on. She goes wild if you try and get a headcollar on her, and I cant leave her out over winter, but she goes insane if stabled. I think the best thing for her is to go, but I just feel so crappy about it.
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Just wanted to say that I have been thinking about you this morning . . . what a brave, selfless thing you are doing for this mare.

Be kind to yourself.

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((hugs)) you have been very brave making the right choice for her when others would have passed the problem on. don't beat yourself up, she is out of pain and wouldn't have known anything about it.
 
stealthninja said:
Its done :( Gave her a big bucket of treats which she cant usually have because of her ulcer, head in bucket and she went. Definitely quickly, hopefully painlessly.
Thanks for the support. x
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Glad it went well and that it was so peaceful.
My girl went peacefully with her head in a bucket too as the vet gave her the injection.
 
Thanks everyone. I feel relieved its done. She cant ever be stressed or scared again now, and although at the moment I keep seeing her on the floor, hopefully that image will fade, and Ill remember her bombing around the field like an idiot, or licking her lips at her rationed treats. Ive got some of her hair and my mums going to get me a bracelet for Xmas made of it.
The Shitland is pining a bit, but ive put him in with the other 2, so hopefully will settle down soon.
I cant work out how to put a photo / video of her on here, but I gave her a carrot this morning when the kids came to say goodbye, and you should have seen her face, eyes half closed in contentment, ears pricked forward looking at the kids wondering if there was more.
Miss her so much.
(( Hugs )) to anyone else going through it
x
 
There are always "what ifs" in these sort of situations, but sometimes there is not the fairytale ending we all want. I took in a very disturbed Spanish horse that was very like yours and tried for 6 years to "fix" him, with some successes. But after 6 years he was still a very unhappy horse and was still exploding unpredictably, and still hurting people and himself. It didn't help that he was also absolutely beautiful :-) So he is gone where he won't ever be unhappy again, and yes, I still say "what if?"
 
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