heart braking situation help please!

rizzy21

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hi all relitivly (cant spell) new on here and havnt posted much before but am feeling really confused and would love some advice....
trying to cut a long story short i have had a 16.3 tb on trail for the last two weeks and she is so lovely to handel not mareish in any way although can be very bolshy this doesnt bother me though the thing is her last owner i think over mummyed her a tad as she has already become very attatched to me which is great for me in a loving sence but in a natural sence and her interation towards the gelding she is with is just silly she bullys him if he comes any were near me when im in the field with them yet she is so much happier now with another horse as last owner she was alone and VERY over attached also my friend does not have the same problmes with them as a pair (she ownes the geliding) right lol and the other problme is she is great in the school but out hacking and in the field (sometimes) she is very nervous and spooky which is makig me very nervous more because there is just no warning and normally nothing there for her to be bothered about so it totally throws me also the gelding we have is also nervous and only 8 so basicly im struggling with my decision as to purchase or not i really have fallen in love with her and her me but the thing is im not sure if as she is 13 and the gelding who needs alot of work is 8 if she is going to be be any good for him on the nerves side of things or for me so confused!!!! and really sorry i no this is a total rambling mess but find it hard to pen to paper on this issue lol and can not spell for toffee any advice or simmilar stories welcome! :confused:
 
If your having to think about it - its not the right horse for you! On the plus side if you do decide you want her I would say she will need time to settle and probable hasn't yet!
 
i no that is what is hard because im second guessing myself i agree with the setteling im sure she needs more time but its more to do with the fact that we cant seperate the 2 already and i wonder if she is going to make it harder for my friend to progress with her gelding becuse well i sopose its a role model thing im just nervous about making the wrond decision either way also im not even sure we could seperate them now!
 
I find that mares can take a long time to settle, months rather than weeks and even longer in some cases. If she has been used to living on her own, then she will overwhelmed by the change. Having said that you will by doing neither of you any favours if you lose your confidence on her, so if you do decide to keep her please get a good instructor to help you with both horses.
 
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