help any sugestions im in truble

Ah, thanks Chunkytim.

Now, I reckon that mbp should go to her parents, and say how upset the Stuck Up Person and Delightful Child make her.

She should then say that she got frustrated and hit her pony on the neck with her hand (I think that's what it says), but didn't mean to. If she tells her parents, I am sure they will understand and not get too angry - everyone makes mistakes, especially when young.
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And everyone gets annoyed with their horses some times....you just have to learn to get off and jump up and down in a corner of the school by yourself instead!

And in the future, avoid Stuck Up Person and Delightful Child (pretend they are werewolves and disappear when you see them
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Good luck.
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Ok Smart bum
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what difference would that make to the original post?
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What difference would what make?
Have you been having gin in your tea again, despite the advice from those nice people at AA?
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I'm a member of the RAC thank you.
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I should have quoted, I know, but I got confused that dyslexia could be a reason, but not an excuse. This may be me being dim, or even the effects of the gin though
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Bless you I read it all. First of all don't worry too much about your pony. I would tell your dad and just say you are very upset with yourself that you lost your temper and smacked him with your hand. That you know you shouldn't have done it. I am sure he will be fine about it.

Re the horrible people, I suspect they are jealous that you and your friend are talented riders and can improve a pony while they have to spend a lot of money.Once you understand that it will make it easier to ignore them!
 
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I'm a member of the RAC thank you.
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I should have quoted, I know, but I got confused that dyslexia could be a reason, but not an excuse. This may be me being dim, or even the effects of the gin though
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Well, I meant that dyslexia might be the reason why someone might find it hard to communicate clearly using written English, but that it wasn't an excuse for not even trying.
As the reader, I don't mind making some effort to understand, but the writer has responsibility to find strategies to improve their communication skills too.
More gin?
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Firstly, thank you to Chunkytim - very thoughtful and kind.
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However, I have already singled out mbp as a youngster worth listening to and read her post fully. Although it was tricky in parts, I made the effort because she did, and is clearly very upset. Also, I think she is about 14 or 15 herself and not really in any position to do much about the situation - especially given the fact her parents are either completely oblivious or not biting the hands which feed them.

I haven't much in the way of a solution to offer except that it will eventually come around to bite them on the bum. Meanwhile, you just stick to your standards and don't let them get you down. If I gave it some brain time, I could think up a cunning payback for 'DC' which would give you and 'TC' much to smile over on the long winter evenings - unless 'DC's' ponies get there first
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If your parents are so unreasonable that they punish you on some arsehole's say-so, you can bring your ponies here and live with me (and Boodle, when I can persuade her to move in with her herd) OK?

Good luck and don't let the pillocks get you down. x

Can the 'grammar and punctuation police' please piss off out of here for just once (especially the drunken one)?
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And could you edit out the swear word if you think the OP is really that young? What were you, dragged up?
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Bullies thrive on silence. You and the other younger girls she has been bullying need to speak to your parents about what has been going on.
 
If you notice Brighteyes (and actually I am not drunk, that was a joke) I was expressing sympathy with the OP and suggesting that she/he was having particular problems because of the emotional impact of the situation. I do not think that my posts could have been misconstrued as the spelling and punctuation police, unless of course you had not read them.

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please do not swear at me on an open forum.
 
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What she said.
 
my mums dyslexic so your post was easy for me to read as I'm used to my mums way of writing.
i think the bullying has to stop ! you should definitely help the talented child
what a shame shes talented with no money and the other seems to have more money than talent.
i think if your dad was aware of the goings on he'd ask them to leave.
one bad apple spoils the lot !
 
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I see the financial crisis has made even punctuation unaffordable.
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Well, I read the original post no trouble, but this snide, bitchy cheap comment, thrown in for the sake of a laugh, stopped me right in my tracks. And this from someone who was fairly recently asking about people's experiences of dyslexia in school. etc.?

Well, to add to your information, Shils, this is a common experience for kids who are dyslexic; others will try to score points off them for the sake of popularity and a cheap laugh.

Usually it's other kids, but surprisingly often it's adults, even those who really should know better- teachers, even, or those who claim a professional interest in education.

I think in a lot of ways this attitude from others does more harm than the disability itself.

Shils, dear, you should take a few lessons from Mrs. Norris, & act your age.
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To the OP I would say-

There are bullies everywhere- don't let them get to you, either in real life or on this forum. Bullies feel inadequate in some way; they feel weak and threatened so they make themselves feel stronger by trying to frighten someone else; they fear unpopularity so they make fun of someone else to get a laugh; they feel friendless so they try to destroy other people's friendships, and so on.

The girl at your yard is jealous, I think. Look at it from her point of view and feel sorry for her; she has the best ponies bought for her, but a younger child is the better rider and has "made" her own ponies. You are a privileged person yourself; your family has a riding school and you are probably a far better rider; the younger girl is your friend. In a sense you are the "in" crowd and the other girl feels like an outsider and a loser; money can't buy friendship. Don't let her get to you; feel sorry for her.

I think you should tell your parents as lots of people have said; but don't be surprised if they can't do as much as you would like to sort this out; your parents are running a business and cannot choose their clients as they would choose their friends. Still, they should know what's going on.

Just don't let this girl get to you; see things from her point of view and you'll see how sad and pathetic she really is, & you might even find you don't hate her so much.

IMO your pony will have been able to sense that you were upset, & will have forgiven you by now.

Don't let the petty comments about your original post get to you either. They say more about the people who made them than they do about you.

Although this is really about bullying at work it's a great website:
http://www.bullyonline.org/workbully/serial.htm
 
tell her to pi** off as you havnt done anything wrong
at some point everyone hits there horse
at least it was with your hand and not a crop , which would of be worser punishment
i would just explain to your parents that your pony was simply playing up !!!!
i think this girl is a rude spoit little brat that sounds like she gets a way with murder
the other girl needs to stand up to her and give her a few home truths about her being a spoit brat
 
I think you need to talk with your parents.
Try to sort out the various issues , concentarate on what affect you directly.

What the nasty child said or did at a at a show is not your problem, however annoying it must be.

But if you find the sniggering, bullying and nasty behaviour on the yard upsetting, tell your Mum and Dad.

The liveries are their income, but if you are upset by them perhaps others are too!
 
QR being dyslexic myself i can understand your post. If i was you i would mention the bullying to your parents, dont sit and stew over this it will only upset you more.

Good luck.

Edited to spell Dyslexic properly lol
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one of my sons is dyslexic,as is my husband.I could understand what you have written and agree that it takes guts to write about what is upsetting you on here.Especially so, when other people have criticised you on your grammar.
I agree that you really need to speak to your parents,or at least show them what you have written so that they can at least keep an eye out for the child who is being bullied and also an eye on the bully.I imagine in the very least they will do that.It should give them a clue as to what is really going on and allow them the opportunity to warn the parents of the bully that her behaviour is unacceptable.
 
I'm just going to say to mbp that I am really shocked and angry at some of the replies you have had, I simply cannot believe the ignorance of some people
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. Yes, your post was difficult to read but that did not mean that I could not read it at all. If you feel completely put off from posting again, I could not blame you, but please do if you need more help and advice because apart from the idiots who just want to pick people up on their lack of spelling and grammar, most will give you as much help as they can.
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In answer to your question though, it is hurtful when people make fun of you and you should not take it out on your pony, however, we none of us are perfect and I am sure have lost our temper with our horse/ponies when we shouldn't. Put it down to experience and try to rise above the people that are upsetting you.
I too think that you should show your parents your post from here, it may make them a bit more understanding.
 
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I totally and wholeheartedly agree with this comment.

Some of the criticisms that other users have put are bang out of order.
 
I am dyslexic and used to write as you do, in sats practise I wrote completely unpunctutated, teacher just corrected it! never taught me how to change!

There is a fab program you can buy called TextHelp Read and Write. We have it at college, the structured study people showed me it. Basically it reads anything you have written back to you. It can also get web pages read back and then you can hear mistakes. It also has a brilliant spell checker and it will find words that sound like other words so you can find the correct word.

Had helped me tons with my work, If you want any help at all would be happy to help you. I know my punctuation and spelling isn't perfect but its ten times better than it used to be!
 
I just read the post out loud and it made sense! Plus my friend is dyslexic so I had to correct and help her with homework, so I found it easy to read
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You need to sit down with your parents and tell him exactily what has been happenning. Then ignore the bully and go about yout business with your chin up, don't aknowledge her, nothing. You are there do do your horse, you shouldn't have to put up with her too! I was in a situation like this once and I just ignored the bully, they got no reaction out of me and they stopped
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I hope this helps hun!
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Your spelling and punctuation is very good JRDW, I hope the OP can get the same help you have had, it's very nice of you to offer your help too, we aren't all bad on here!

OP, I agree with what everyone else has said, I think you either need to show what you have written to your parents or tell them what has happened. I am sure that they will understand that you did not mean to hit your pony and that they will see that you are sorry for doing it. Hopefully with your parents keeping a watchfull eye on the Bully she may learn to behave in a more friendly manner.

Good Luck and please let us know how you get on
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Well I managed to read it, wasn't that hard IMO.

Definitely tell your parents. As someone else said, bullies thrive on silence and ignoring this girl is just the worst thing you could do. Its not fair on you, or the other liveries for her to bully people in this way.

Explain the whole thing to your parents, and maybe you could encourage the talented child, or anyone else she picks on, to speak up to them as well - so they will know it is not just you telling tales. The last thing your parents need is for your yard to have a reputation for being a bitchy place where bullies just get away with their behaviour - they need to put a stop to it now.

As for what happened with your pony, well you could tell your parents to explain, but really I don't think it is a big deal. Your parents should know you well enough to know you wouldn't abuse your pony, and though I understand you feel bad for losing your temper, you did only smack her with your hand, it really isn't too big a deal. If the girl does report it to your parents, just explain what happened and I am sure they will understand.
 
I am very disheartened to read such nasty and negative comments on here, the OP in question clearly poored their heart out when writing this post, feels quite passionate.......

I was always under the impression that this was a supporting and friendly forum.

You know who you are and should be feeling ashamed!
 
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You might find exercising your horse while listening to an iPod or similar will help you to concentrate on your pony, and ignore the comments or behaviour or the livery people that you don't like.

As for your young friend with talent, it is a shame they are being unpleasant to her and I hope she learns to pay no attention to them too.

People are nasty and spiteful usually because it makes them feel better, don't be bullied by them, feel sorry for them; money can buy nice things but it can't buy friends, or talent.
 
mbp, you've had lots of very helpful replies already to your op, so I won't add my tuppence-worth except to say that I really hope you keep posting on this forum (Jess's advice was great and I hope it helps).
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I would also make a list of the people who were sympathetic and offered help and maybe in the future you could pm some of them as well if you need a sympathetic ear.

Good luck, and don't worry too much.
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