Help Needed - Hacked Hair :(

sasquatch said:
Conversation started with mum asking what time was I planning to go up to get him sorted, to which I said around 12 probably.
Mum then said she would go and muck him out and turn him out for me so I could get work finished as the yard was on her way home.
I then said I would go up and ride later, so to just pick his feet out before she puts him into the field as I would groom him and do his feeds then.
Mum said that was fine, she would muck him out and turn him out to his field for me.

When I got home on Sunday I spoke to her about it, and made it clear I was unhappy and when it comes to my horse, no means no not do it when I'm not around. Even if it's something as small as mum bringing up 3 apples to give him, and I say no, he can have 1.

It's not the cutting of his forelock that has upset me the most, it's the fact she did something after she had been told not to do it, and knew by doing it she would make me angry before she even cut it.

I think I'm just going to gradually work on his forelock, and shape it as it grows and leave his mane until I get the chance to tidy him up as I'd originally planned :)
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That's still only your side of the story, from your point of view though :(
 
Mrs B said:
But she IS your mother! I am quite frankly gobsmacked that anyone thinks it's ok to 'tell' or 'instruct' a parent to do or not do something when you're 17 or 18 years old and still living under their roof.

As Annagain says, I too would have got a metaphorical (and justified) boot up my backside for being a rude brat had I done anything like that.
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But there is telling and demanding is there not? If OP said 'just do his feet and pop him out' then that is still telling is it not? I don't litter every sentence to my family with please and thankyou. I
 
It's disheartening to see the amount of negative speculation people are making regards the care of OP's horse. There is no right time of day to put a horse out provided they are out long enough to meet their needs. We all have to adjust our horses schedules to fit other obligations in our lives like work and family, or other considerations like the weather and allergies or illnesses our horses may have.
 
khadijah said:
Looks like a cob to me ester !

And hes
Not really overweight so i dont know what the cheeky comment earlier from someone was all about ... Unless i missed something i thought the op
Was asking about advice re the tail and forelock
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His weight issue was the very first thing I noticed! I find it worrying that some people would still not see an obese pony in those pictures.

OP I really would not be worrying about his forelock, but I would be seriously worried about his weight.
 
fattylumpkin said:
We all have to adjust our horses schedules to fit other obligations in our lives like work and family, or other considerations like the weather and allergies or illnesses our horses may have.
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I was taught that no matter what, care of the horse came first.

If the horse was brought in at say, 8pm that is a horse that has been stood for 20 hours. That is t right for a horse not on box rest.
 
Clodagh said:
I think OP you are being very mature at dealing with the grief you are getting on here! I would be livid if my mum did that to my horse. At no point did you ask others opinion on what sort of turnout the horse should have. You want him to have a long mane and your mum hacked it off. I would be spitting! So, I don't have anything to add but I would walk away from this thread now as the telling you how you should be running your life has started.
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Everyone manages horses differently, and horses have different routines.
Whilst I'm on DIY, his breakfast and lunch are given by staff as long as they're made up and there for him and he has an automatic water drinker which works and he uses. There's also access to a horse walker which staff will put him in, which is going to be very handy when winter livery starts and I can get a slot for him. There's always someone if not on the yard, then around the yard.
Whilst many people would disagree with how I manage him, everyone does things differently but at the end of the day, he is happy, healthy and has clean water and a clean bed, the chance to stretch his legs and plenty of feed.

At 18, I am legally an adult, and expected to be treated as one.
I am anywhere else I go, and at home isn't an exception just because I live at home with family.
When it comes to the care of an animal, 'asking' isn't good enough! You can ask someone to feed your dog, doesn't mean they'll do it! If someone else is looking after any animal of mine, from a goldfish to a horse, I make sure I have told them clear instructions of what to do. Especially if they are the one asking if they can do it, or if I need a hand and what can they do to help!
 
jemima*askin said:
Oh how I wish I could hear your mother's take on this!
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This. I reckon all of us Mothers of teens are cringing reading this. Poor Mum.

If my Mum offered to do my ponies for me so I had more time I'd be utterly delighted. And if she did decide to hack off my ponies forelocks well I wouldn't be thrilled but I'd hold my tongue and remind myself how lucky I am to have a mother who wants to help (albeit with a bit of guidance in future!).

Honestly? I'd be pretty upset if I read this thread and it was my daughter saying those things about me.
 
Wagtail said:
His weight issue was the very first thing I noticed! I find it worrying that some people would still not see an obese pony in those pictures.

OP I really would not be worrying about his forelock, but I would be seriously worried about his weight.
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Whilst he is chubby and has weight to lose, he is not quite as obese as he looks in that photo.
He is, believe it or not, actually not a pony at 15.1hh and his stable is very hard to get a good photo of him in - I used that photo as at the time I posted the post, it was the only one I had with his tail

This was him yesterday, as you can see he's chubby but not so pot bellied!
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sasquatch said:
Whilst he is chubby and has weight to lose, he is not quite as obese as he looks in that photo.
He is, believe it or not, actually not a pony at 15.1hh and his stable is very hard to get a good photo of him in - I used that photo as at the time I posted the post, it was the only one I had with his tail

This was him yesterday, as you can see he's chubby but not so pot bellied!
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Ah yes, he looks better there. If he is 15.1 then he probably has a good 50 kg to lose. A few years ago I wouldn't have viewed him as fat at all, but having experience of several horses with laminitis since then (two of which were far slimmer than your boy) I look at horses differently now. My own little filly has suddenly put one weight and so she's now on a diet at only 3 years old. Sadly she is going to be another nightmare good doer. Give me a poor doer any day!
 
Well Sugar and Spice you have assumed a lot. MY daughter and I posted this in conjunction just to see what replies we'd get and they were exactly what we expected. How we've laughed. We agree with the people who think a cut mane is a piddling matter in a world where some people can't get enough to eat or a clean drink of water.
 
This thread just gets weirder and weirder. Not really sure why the OP would bother starting a thread pretending to be furious just to see the reaction they got but hey, nowt as weird as folks! :D
 
daughter's groom said:
If my 18 yo daughter had posted this I would give her a slap, then cut of the rest of her pony's mane and tail with a hedge clippers, then sell it. Then cut off her hair with the hedge clippers.
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Sugar_and_Spice said:
And this is the problem with people who have to take charge :rolleyes3: and think that everyone should be grateful for the "help" they dole out. (Given your post I am assuming you think the OPs mother was being helpful cutting the hair she had been told not to cut).

At 18 your daughter is an adult, you'd be unable to do anything to her hair. If the OP was your daughter you'd not be able to sell her horse either, as the OP is the owner not the mother. You probably would be able to cut off the horses hair without being stopped if you knew where it was stabled, but as the horse would not be your property you really shouldn't.

Oh, I missed the bit where you said you'd give her a slap. My mum used to threaten this too if I tried to make a choice she disagreed with.
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daughter's groom said:
Well Sugar and Spice you have assumed a lot. MY daughter and I posted this in conjunction just to see what replies we'd get and they were exactly what we expected. How we've laughed. We agree with the people who think a cut mane is a piddling matter in a world where some people can't get enough to eat or a clean drink of water.
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Baffled and wishing there was the option to hide threads...

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I think it was really strange that your mum did that, and I can't understand her reasoning for it.I can understand why you would be upset too. It's nice that she helps you out with the horse, and all that but looking at it from my viewpoint I could never in a billion years see my Dad cutting my horse forelock or tail without my permission and Dad has been wonderful over the years doing Bails when I had a slipped disc or when I was otherwise unwell, going up and mucking out for me for days and weeks at times.

Dad would never have even considered doing such a rotten thing so I think there might be another malicious reason for your Mum doing that and something that you haven't yet got to the bottom of. Its almost as if she is jealous of you or your horse. Very strange.

And I don't think you are a spoilt brat so ignore the person that said that. xx
 
Sorry I have just read the post previous to this and can't believe the direction this post has gone.

Very weird and slightly scary :(
 
you can block users.

What a waste of everyone's time and helpful suggestions. Hope you are not expecting to ask the forum for any help or advice in future OP.
 
How very odd? Am I getting this right, the OP and Daughter'sgroom are mother and daughter?? If so how totally surreal and what an odd thing to have done. They must be very bored.
 
I am so confused by this...I thought sasquatch was from NI and daughters groom from England/Wales? If this is real what a strange weird thing to do that's wasted everyones time really, but I feel like something isn't quite right. Hope it gets sorted either way :(
 
flurryjuno said:
I am so confused by this...I thought sasquatch was from NI and daughters groom from England/Wales? If this is real what a strange weird thing to do that's wasted everyones time really, but I feel like something isn't quite right. Hope it gets sorted either way :(
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Definitely one of the weirdest twists I've seen a thread take for quite some time. I'd like to think there has been a mix-up, but it's the Interwebz, so who knows?

ETA - Is it possible that DG was simply referring to their own post re slapping the daughter and selling the horse etc and not to the overall thread? Still would be a bit off, but certainly not the OP's fault in that case.
 
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